Friends at uni rant

Hi everyone I am really struggling to make friends in uni as in my classes many people I have spoke to do different degrees there is some people who do the same degree as me but they r not interested in being friends I have made friends at the start of uni and they were a bad influence so stopped talking to them as I want to allow the right people in my life the first triemester of uni is almost over and I don’t have a friend I can speak to daily

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offshore-cauldro

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Original post by Anonymous

Hi everyone I am really struggling to make friends in uni as in my classes many people I have spoke to do different degrees there is some people who do the same degree as me but they r not interested in being friends I have made friends at the start of uni and they were a bad influence so stopped talking to them as I want to allow the right people in my life the first triemester of uni is almost over and I don’t have a friend I can speak to daily

Join societies/clubs? There will be like-minded people there.

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Smart282

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Original post by offshore-cauldro

Join societies/clubs? There will be like-minded people there.

At my uni they are very expensive so I can’t

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hallamstudents

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Original post by Anonymous

Hi everyone I am really struggling to make friends in uni as in my classes many people I have spoke to do different degrees there is some people who do the same degree as me but they r not interested in being friends I have made friends at the start of uni and they were a bad influence so stopped talking to them as I want to allow the right people in my life the first triemester of uni is almost over and I don’t have a friend I can speak to daily

Hi there,

This sounds like a tricky situation that you are in. It can be really frustrating and I know how you feel with this as I felt a similar way when I first started uni.

I know you have said that societies are quite expensive at your uni and I completely understand this as societies can be really expensive, but are there not any free/cheap ones at your uni? Sometimes universities have societies that are fairly cheap and you pay per session so if yours has any of these, it might be more affordable if you only go every other week, or even just once a month and you would still make friends this way. If not, try not to worry as there are lots of other ways to make friends.

Another way of making friends is to see if your Student Union puts any events on. Sometimes at uni, the SU will put different events on which are usually free/cheap to go to and they are usually quite good. They range from a cinema trip, to just a coffee or some more expensive things such as a trip to another city. Have a look what your SU puts on as you might enjoy this and it's a good way of making friends as you will meet so many people doing this.

You could also have a look on social media and see if you can meet anyone this way. Sometimes on Facebook or other social media there will be groups where people from your uni talk and you might be able to meet some people by doing this. Sometimes this can be a good way of meeting people as they might be people you may not have otherwise have met, so I would say this is worth doing.

If you are living in halls and you don't get on with your flatmates, you could always try and see if there is anyone else is any other flats that you get on with. Sometimes if there are social areas in your building, people will stay there and you may meet some people if you go there and just talk to people. It can seem scary, but people will likely be friendly and will want to talk to you.

It might also be worth trying again with your course mates. I know it can feel hard when they don't want to do much, but you could always try and speak to some other people on your course if there are people you haven't really met or spoken to yet? Or, see if anyone wants to go to the library or for a coffee after uni as they might just be shy and might not want to make plans with you first.

I hope some of this helps and things get better for you soon,

Lucy -SHU student ambassador.

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