Signs a relationship is done
I have been with my partner now for about 6 years. The past roughly 3 years hasn’t been good, there’s been a lot of ups and downs.
At this point I don’t even look forward to spending time together but I am unsure if our relationship is done or we are just going through a rough patch. Any advice welcome
At this point I don’t even look forward to spending time together but I am unsure if our relationship is done or we are just going through a rough patch. Any advice welcome
Reply 1
Talk to your partner and get advice from professionals. Remember, you do not know, what your partner thinks and what can be fixed, before you actually talk together and try. And with trying, I mean actually actively doing something together. When you sit alone and contemplate about ending it, then you pretty much garantueed, that you will end it. The same happens, when you never talk, let resentment just built up and begin to stop considering the feelings of your partner.
Most people just break up, and only settle down for a person, when they are tired of breaking up again. You cannot learn getting through a rough patch, when you never have tried and when you have tried (or e.g. found out, that you and your partner really want two different things), then you can move on, because you know, you actually did your best.
Most people just break up, and only settle down for a person, when they are tired of breaking up again. You cannot learn getting through a rough patch, when you never have tried and when you have tried (or e.g. found out, that you and your partner really want two different things), then you can move on, because you know, you actually did your best.
Reply 2
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Weigh up the positives and negatives of the relationship, the prospects for improving the negatives and if you would feel happier on your own
Reply 3
Give us specifics.
Tell us about the good and the bad about him.
Tell us about the biggest ups and biggest recent downs.
The not looking forward to seeing him sounds like a nail in the coffin of your relationship.
Specifics will confirm if that's the case, or indicate if you are viewing things too negatively at the moment.
Tell us about the good and the bad about him.
Tell us about the biggest ups and biggest recent downs.
The not looking forward to seeing him sounds like a nail in the coffin of your relationship.
Specifics will confirm if that's the case, or indicate if you are viewing things too negatively at the moment.
Reply 4
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Original post
by secretlifeofmeI have been with my partner now for about 6 years. The past roughly 3 years hasn’t been good, there’s been a lot of ups and downs.
At this point I don’t even look forward to spending time together but I am unsure if our relationship is done or we are just going through a rough patch. Any advice welcome
At this point I don’t even look forward to spending time together but I am unsure if our relationship is done or we are just going through a rough patch. Any advice welcome
if you two have not cheated on each other then the relationship can be salvaged with hard work. Six years is a significant time and emotional investment.
Reply 5
Three years is a looong time to be unhappy in a relationship.
You don't need to tell us the answers but..
If it ended now, what would you miss? What are the things that would need to change for you to be happy? Are they achievable?
If the answer to the last one is 'no', then the answer's obvious.
You don't need to tell us the answers but..
If it ended now, what would you miss? What are the things that would need to change for you to be happy? Are they achievable?
If the answer to the last one is 'no', then the answer's obvious.
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