Long distance relationship status
My girlfriend lives in South Africa and I live in the UK, and next year we going to do our A levels. She wants to come to the UK because a levels in South Africa are a mess apparently and she would get better quality education here. Also, we both want to study medicine at cambridge. Is it weird if she wants to move in with me? Because I can't think of any other possible solutions on her living situation as her nearest family in the UK is in London which is 4 hours away. HELP
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Seems fine. Do you really know each other? Have you met? Videochat?
Reply 2
Have you ever met this person? This is a big life step you're talking about, only you k ow if your relationship, values and goals are on the same page so far.
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by Kathy89Seems fine. Do you really know each other? Have you met? Videochat?
yes we know each other really well, we have facetimed lots of times.
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by Idk23323_schoolyes we know each other really well, we have facetimed lots of times.
Try a short visit at first to see how well you are doing together. Moving in with someone is not easy and rent contracts are very hard to break, you have to be sure you are getting along well.
I think moving to a new country and right away moving in with someone for a long term is one step too big. Try staying at your place for a week or two before making such a big decision. Try living together and managing a household together. See if it works. See how your relationship is going when you have eachother 24/7.
(edited 1 year ago)
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'Move in with you'; and where do you live, on your own or with family?
Why can't she move to be with her family in London to see how she finds things, especially whilst it's only a year to exams, then take it from there?
Why can't she move to be with her family in London to see how she finds things, especially whilst it's only a year to exams, then take it from there?
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Maybe let her look at schools in both areas (like around your house, and her family's house in London)? Then she can make a decision based on what's best for her future career. If you've managed a long distance relationship from 2 different countries, I'm sure 2 years 4 hours apart in the same country wouldn't be too hard, especially if both your end goals are to study at the same uni on the same course. Also if you live with family, you'd definitely need to run this past them as it would be a lifestyle change for multiple people.
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by Surnia'Move in with you'; and where do you live, on your own or with family?
Why can't she move to be with her family in London to see how she finds things, especially whilst it's only a year to exams, then take it from there?
Why can't she move to be with her family in London to see how she finds things, especially whilst it's only a year to exams, then take it from there?
with my family. I mean she can move to her family in London, i am just not sure how close they are.
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by Idk23323_schoolwith my family. I mean she can move to her family in London, i am just not sure how close they are.
How do your family feel about this idea? Do you have the space? Who is going to fund her food and utilities bills?
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by Kathy89Seems fine. Do you really know each other? Have you met? Videochat?
I want all what u write
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