Hate university

I hate uni but if i drop out i’m seen as a disappointment to my family. I don’t think university is for me, but i see no other way to do things.

Reply 1

Wired_1800

Original post

by Anonymous

I hate uni but if i drop out i’m seen as a disappointment to my family. I don’t think university is for me, but i see no other way to do things.

You have to consider the reasons that you think you hate university. Sometimes, people have a negative view of university because they are either struggling to keep up with their school work or have not formed a strong friendship group.

If the reason is one of the two above, you could consider ways to improve your school work or look at societies to join.

My suggestion is not to drop out because you cant be bothered. Take advantage of the opportunities there and form new connections.

Reply 2

Clearing and Applications Advisor

What do you think you would enjoy more?

Reply 3

De Montfort University

Official Rep

Original post

by Anonymous

I hate uni but if i drop out i’m seen as a disappointment to my family. I don’t think university is for me, but i see no other way to do things.

Hey there 😁

I'm truly sorry to hear that you're not enjoying university. It's completely valid to feel this way. University isn't the right fit for everyone, and there's no one-size-fits-all path for the future. Your journey is unique, and there's no shame in recognising that this might not be the right step for you.

Here are a few suggestions that might help you navigate these feelings and explore your next steps:

Talk openly with your family. Sharing your thoughts and concerns with them, especially if you’ve started considering an alternative pathway, can help them understand your perspective better. I know this conversation might feel daunting and stressful, but it could be worth it. Being honest about your feelings and your plans gives them an opportunity to see where you're coming from.

Take time to reflect. Before making a decision like dropping out, try to dig into the reasons behind your feelings. Ask yourself: Is it the university itself, the course you're studying, or something else entirely? Exploring these questions deeply can help you identify the core issue. Once you have a clearer understanding, you'll be in a better position to decide your next steps.

Seek support from your university's Wellbeing Team. Speaking with someone trained to help can provide clarity and perspective. They can guide you through reflecting on your emotions, understanding yourself better, and even preparing for conversations with your family. They might also help you brainstorm alternative options that align with your goals.

I've personally used Wellbeing services, and they made a huge difference in helping me understand my feelings, navigate challenges, and even accept myself more fully. Whatever you decide, remember that this is your journey, and it's okay to choose a path that feels right for you.

I hope it was helpful 💪 Feel free to reach out if you have any questions 😉 You can also chat with me or other students directly through The Ambassador Platform.

Take care,

Julia
Psychology student
De Montfort University

Reply 4

hallamstudents

Official Rep

Original post

by Anonymous

I hate uni but if i drop out i’m seen as a disappointment to my family. I don’t think university is for me, but i see no other way to do things.

Hi there,

I am so sorry to hear you have been feeling this way at university and you haven't been enjoying your time there so far.

It can be really hard at uni and if you aren't enjoying it is can be even harder. I would suggest you talk to the wellbeing services at your uni as they are really good people to speak to if you are feeling down or stressed. They are usually fairly easy to make an appointment with and they speak to so many students who are in a similar position to you so they will be able to offer you great support and advice about this. Have a look how you do this at your uni and try and make an appointment with them as soon as you can.

I also think you should speak to your family about this as they may have a different reaction to what you think. If you explain how uni is making you feel and that you really aren't enjoying yourself, they may be happy to help you think of other solutions to this and support you in dropping out if this is what you want to do. Even if they are not supportive, you should still do what is best for you and your mental health as this is the most important thing.

If you did want to stay at uni, you could try and do some more things after Christmas which might fill up your time at uni and help you to enjoy yourself a little bit more. If you haven't already, joining a society is a great idea as you meet lots of people here and it also gives you something fun to do during the days where you might be a bit bored.

I also found that face timing friends and family was very helpful so you if you have people you could talk to, this might help you a little bit. I also like knowing when I am next going to see my friends and family so this might help you too.

I hope things get better for you soon,

Lucy -SHU student ambassador.