is it still cheating if you have zero memory of it?

that’s what happened to me last night : ( i went out for the first time in ages, and accidentally got really drunk. like, i remember nothing past a certain point. but i know for sure it happened bc i can feel it. i feel really grossed out because the guy wasnt even my type, and his house was a total dump : (

Bit of an old chestnut of an excuse. Of course it’s cheating. Whether a partner is prepared to accept it as a mitigating circumstance probably depends on how much they want the relationship to continue

Well in actuality because you were Drunk you cannot legally give consent, so he may be liable for whatever occured. THAT is definitely the Law.

i have no intention of telling him. he's been in a bad mood lately, and i don't have a death wish. i just needed to get this off my chest because i feel dirty af.
i hope that guy ******* dies for taking advantage of me.

If there was not consent it’s a different story. Although I can imagine it would be difficult to tell

Everything else aside you might want to get tested for STIs (assuming you haven't done so already)

Do you still get fat if you have no memory of having eaten 25 cheesecakes?

Everything else aside you might want to get tested for STIs (assuming you haven't done so already)

eh i know what the law is. but it would be too much of a hassle, i have no intention of confronting him or reporting him or anything like that. in real life, law doesn't mean **** anyway. like im talking less than 1% of reported cases ever result in conviction

Umm u might not want to report it but don’t go out giving false info😭 that statistic is not accurate at all. And in answer to your question, it becomes a problem when u don’t want to tell ur partner abt it. U may have been raped, and your drink may have even been spiked (considering you don’t remember anything) so I think your partner would understand and even want to help you.

too early for the results to be reliable

Yes unless you were coerced into cheating.
No excuses for cheating, none in my opinion unless you're in an abusive relationship where it would be unsafe to let your partner know that you want to break up with them or unless you were coerced by someone else into cheating.

i don't remember it.
he wouldn't actually kill me, but he would definitely punish me, so **** that.

I mean there’s things that I don’t remember but it doesn’t mean that I didn’t willingly do the action, but if you believe (or it’s clear) that you coerced into cheating then that might be something to raise (as in that’s a concern).

but how am i supposed to know? all i can tell you is - sober be wouldn't have wasted a second on someone that repulsive, let alone stepped a foot into that filthy dump of a house, and i hope something really bad happens to him for taking advantage of me
but there's nothing else i can do, i might as well forget it ever happened