Only wanting to be in situationships, don’t want to be friends w boys or girls

So I’m a girl and throughout my primary school and high school I always had to be in friendships with boys and girls not because I wanted to but because I need to use them otherwise I would look lonely at break and lunch since we can’t go home. Once my use is over I completely never text them ever again. I’m so antisocial I love myself so much very obsessed I hate the idea of having a friend boy or girl I just like being by myself.

So in sixth form and university life I was very lonely and I was so happy it was the best time of my life since it was just me myself and I, I could go home in my free periods and never had to worry about looking lonely and using people because it was so dreadful interacting with them.

So I only be in situationships with boys who are interested in me who are hot, if they’re not hot I don’t want them and if they’re hot but platonic I don’t want them either. So at uni 3 girls tried to be friends with me and I avoided every single one, the minute this hot guy showed interested in me I ditched those 3 girls completely from avoiding to totally avoiding and now I hang out with him daily as a situationship.

So yeah what do u think. I hate people. Like I can never be friends with a boy or girl, for me friendship does not exist, I hate it and find them so dreadful I just enjoy myself company or if it’s a boy and there mutual interest

Reply 1

Gavin_Dha

I feel you in this I also hate people especially nowadays because people seem to be so strange I feel like something bad is going on

Reply 2

anosmianAcrimony

Original post by Gavin_Dha

https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=7549149
If you can could you reply to my new post and also share it out as i want some thoughts on what I been through this year

Please no self-promotion / thread invasion... I'm definitely not going to look at it now.

Reply 3

anosmianAcrimony

Original post by Anonymous

So I’m a girl and throughout my primary school and high school I always had to be in friendships with boys and girls not because I wanted to but because I need to use them otherwise I would look lonely at break and lunch since we can’t go home. Once my use is over I completely never text them ever again. I’m so antisocial I love myself so much very obsessed I hate the idea of having a friend boy or girl I just like being by myself.
So in sixth form and university life I was very lonely and I was so happy it was the best time of my life since it was just me myself and I, I could go home in my free periods and never had to worry about looking lonely and using people because it was so dreadful interacting with them.
So I only be in situationships with boys who are interested in me who are hot, if they’re not hot I don’t want them and if they’re hot but platonic I don’t want them either. So at uni 3 girls tried to be friends with me and I avoided every single one, the minute this hot guy showed interested in me I ditched those 3 girls completely from avoiding to totally avoiding and now I hang out with him daily as a situationship.
So yeah what do u think. I hate people. Like I can never be friends with a boy or girl, for me friendship does not exist, I hate it and find them so dreadful I just enjoy myself company or if it’s a boy and there mutual interest

Sometimes I feel sort of the same way. That socialising is really tiresome, people annoy me, and if someone doesn't have something interesting to offer me, I don't want to put the effort in. Other times I feel differently, like people are really beautiful and exciting and I feel motivated. But the tiresomeness never really goes away and I lose social energy pretty quickly.

It takes a kind of faith to keep going, in the idea that getting to know the right people and becoming friends with them in a meaningful way, will expand your life and help you grow as a person. It's not easy and the results are not immediate, but my hunch is that it's worthwhile.

The fact that you're reflecting on this, and identifying that you relate to others in what might be an unhealthy or at least unusual way, is positive... I'm sure there are people out there who act the same way but aren't even self-aware about it.

Good luck out there, however you go about it 🙂