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Is this right? My man bought me flowers

My partner got me flowers and I came in at home with them. I love my mum a lot but sometimes I just feel sad what she says to me. Lately her and my dad haven’t been as close as my dad has been working more. My partner got me some flowers and they weren’t even bad they were really lovely but my mum said to me ‘these look dead , why don’t you tell him to get your roses instead. What your man gets your shows his personality’ I said to my mum I’m not going to say that. But after I did tell my partner oh by the way the flowers you got were half dead and they weren’t really my type of flowers. I do prefer pretty roses. But now looking at the flowers they’re not as bad as my mum made them out to be. I feel upset why mums behaving like this
Original post by Anonymous
My partner got me flowers and I came in at home with them. I love my mum a lot but sometimes I just feel sad what she says to me. Lately her and my dad haven’t been as close as my dad has been working more. My partner got me some flowers and they weren’t even bad they were really lovely but my mum said to me ‘these look dead , why don’t you tell him to get your roses instead. What your man gets your shows his personality’ I said to my mum I’m not going to say that. But after I did tell my partner oh by the way the flowers you got were half dead and they weren’t really my type of flowers. I do prefer pretty roses. But now looking at the flowers they’re not as bad as my mum made them out to be. I feel upset why mums behaving like this

You're upset with your mother??? You took the decision to say something really unpleasant to your partner, not her.
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Original post by ageshallnot
You're upset with your mother??? You took the decision to say something really unpleasant to your partner, not her.
You don’t get why i said it because my head wasn’t thinking straight as my mum told me things
I think maybe apologise to your partner and just accept that your mum is needlessly unpleasant at times. Don’t following her footsteps.
Original post by Anonymous
You don’t get why i said it because my head wasn’t thinking straight as my mum told me things

"I feel upset why mums behaving like this." She might influence you, but it was you who was unpleasant to your partner.
You shouldn't have said anything to your partner.
Buying you flowers was a lovely gesture. Your partner probably won't feel inclined to buy you any more in future after you insulted the flowers you were bought.

In 23.5 years of being together, my husband has only bought me flowers 4 times. And there you are insulting a perfectly nice bunch of flowers... good grief.
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Original post by PinkMobilePhone
You shouldn't have said anything to your partner.
Buying you flowers was a lovely gesture. Your partner probably won't feel inclined to buy you any more in future after you insulted the flowers you were bought.
In 23.5 years of being together, my husband has only bought me flowers 4 times. And there you are insulting a perfectly nice bunch of flowers... good grief.

Not that youre counting :-)
Original post by mqb2766
Not that youre counting :-)

Oh I'm absolutely counting 😂
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Original post by PinkMobilePhone
Oh I'm absolutely counting 😂

You might need your 2nd hand soon.
Original post by mqb2766
You might need your 2nd hand soon.

In a decade maybe.
Original post by PinkMobilePhone
In a decade maybe.

Something special to look forward to then. Imagine getting them regularly, it would be a chore to keep sorting them out. This way you can enjoy the expectation.
Original post by Anonymous
My partner got me flowers and I came in at home with them. I love my mum a lot but sometimes I just feel sad what she says to me. Lately her and my dad haven’t been as close as my dad has been working more. My partner got me some flowers and they weren’t even bad they were really lovely but my mum said to me ‘these look dead , why don’t you tell him to get your roses instead. What your man gets your shows his personality’ I said to my mum I’m not going to say that. But after I did tell my partner oh by the way the flowers you got were half dead and they weren’t really my type of flowers. I do prefer pretty roses. But now looking at the flowers they’re not as bad as my mum made them out to be. I feel upset why mums behaving like this
I mean, were you a bi/tch to your partner about it? If not, like, if you just mentioned they were half dead and you prefer roses, that's fine. But, if you were mean about it, it seems like you've got some serious self-reflection to do. Not to excuse your mother's actions, that is.

Many mothers (unconsciously) tend to be jealous of their daughters. This typically comes from narcissistic parents. I don't know what your situation at home is but if that's what you think it is, it's a serious conversation to have with your mother. Obviously, don't call her a narcissist. But perhaps suggest therapy. A therapist might help her come to terms with her (possibly) jealousy
"I feel upset why I'm acting like my mum" is what you mean or should mean.

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