feel like a failure
I'm really struggling at the moment with feeling like a failure
I got rejected from Oxbridge without an interview last week, and while i knew people had far better grades than me I worked so hard I thought I would at least get an interview (nope). Tonight I saw something that lead me back to the page of a private school I could have applied to for scholarship, was scrolling through their alumns list and was so wowed I genuinely feel like I'm never going to get good at what i want to do.
Now I'm evaluating my choices, and im really struggling. I always thought I'd go to a high achieving university for undergrad, but I tanked my alevels after close bereavement, mental health and temporary homelessness. I don't think I qualify for a contextual offer purely from my postcode too, which sucks
I got accepted to a uni that isn't that high achieving but it's still pretty good, has a good course and an okay sporting team. But, I've been looking at the second high achieving university I applied to other than oxbridge, and it has stellar sporting achievements (which has started to drive me recently), amazing alums, and an equally good course to the mid-achieving uni. I got rejected from this uni already last year, and it has a low acceptance rate. My personal statement also doesn't suit their course completely, and I realised my extra activities section on UCAS is blank (im applying independently and just must have missed this somehow).
Realistically I know I can apply for a postgrad at Oxbridge that would honestly suit me probably better than an undergrad, but it was a dream course, exactly the topics i wanted to do and was successful in my sport. It was a hit to be rejected.
Now I'm looking at what I could have done and been, and I'm steeling myself from a rejected from this other top uni that probably won't want me.
Any advise?
I got rejected from Oxbridge without an interview last week, and while i knew people had far better grades than me I worked so hard I thought I would at least get an interview (nope). Tonight I saw something that lead me back to the page of a private school I could have applied to for scholarship, was scrolling through their alumns list and was so wowed I genuinely feel like I'm never going to get good at what i want to do.
Now I'm evaluating my choices, and im really struggling. I always thought I'd go to a high achieving university for undergrad, but I tanked my alevels after close bereavement, mental health and temporary homelessness. I don't think I qualify for a contextual offer purely from my postcode too, which sucks
I got accepted to a uni that isn't that high achieving but it's still pretty good, has a good course and an okay sporting team. But, I've been looking at the second high achieving university I applied to other than oxbridge, and it has stellar sporting achievements (which has started to drive me recently), amazing alums, and an equally good course to the mid-achieving uni. I got rejected from this uni already last year, and it has a low acceptance rate. My personal statement also doesn't suit their course completely, and I realised my extra activities section on UCAS is blank (im applying independently and just must have missed this somehow).
Realistically I know I can apply for a postgrad at Oxbridge that would honestly suit me probably better than an undergrad, but it was a dream course, exactly the topics i wanted to do and was successful in my sport. It was a hit to be rejected.
Now I'm looking at what I could have done and been, and I'm steeling myself from a rejected from this other top uni that probably won't want me.
Any advise?
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I'm really struggling at the moment with feeling like a failure
I got rejected from Oxbridge without an interview last week, and while i knew people had far better grades than me I worked so hard I thought I would at least get an interview (nope). Tonight I saw something that lead me back to the page of a private school I could have applied to for scholarship, was scrolling through their alumns list and was so wowed I genuinely feel like I'm never going to get good at what i want to do.
Now I'm evaluating my choices, and im really struggling. I always thought I'd go to a high achieving university for undergrad, but I tanked my alevels after close bereavement, mental health and temporary homelessness. I don't think I qualify for a contextual offer purely from my postcode too, which sucks
I got accepted to a uni that isn't that high achieving but it's still pretty good, has a good course and an okay sporting team. But, I've been looking at the second high achieving university I applied to other than oxbridge, and it has stellar sporting achievements (which has started to drive me recently), amazing alums, and an equally good course to the mid-achieving uni. I got rejected from this uni already last year, and it has a low acceptance rate. My personal statement also doesn't suit their course completely, and I realised my extra activities section on UCAS is blank (im applying independently and just must have missed this somehow).
Realistically I know I can apply for a postgrad at Oxbridge that would honestly suit me probably better than an undergrad, but it was a dream course, exactly the topics i wanted to do and was successful in my sport. It was a hit to be rejected.
Now I'm looking at what I could have done and been, and I'm steeling myself from a rejected from this other top uni that probably won't want me.
Any advise?
I got rejected from Oxbridge without an interview last week, and while i knew people had far better grades than me I worked so hard I thought I would at least get an interview (nope). Tonight I saw something that lead me back to the page of a private school I could have applied to for scholarship, was scrolling through their alumns list and was so wowed I genuinely feel like I'm never going to get good at what i want to do.
Now I'm evaluating my choices, and im really struggling. I always thought I'd go to a high achieving university for undergrad, but I tanked my alevels after close bereavement, mental health and temporary homelessness. I don't think I qualify for a contextual offer purely from my postcode too, which sucks
I got accepted to a uni that isn't that high achieving but it's still pretty good, has a good course and an okay sporting team. But, I've been looking at the second high achieving university I applied to other than oxbridge, and it has stellar sporting achievements (which has started to drive me recently), amazing alums, and an equally good course to the mid-achieving uni. I got rejected from this uni already last year, and it has a low acceptance rate. My personal statement also doesn't suit their course completely, and I realised my extra activities section on UCAS is blank (im applying independently and just must have missed this somehow).
Realistically I know I can apply for a postgrad at Oxbridge that would honestly suit me probably better than an undergrad, but it was a dream course, exactly the topics i wanted to do and was successful in my sport. It was a hit to be rejected.
Now I'm looking at what I could have done and been, and I'm steeling myself from a rejected from this other top uni that probably won't want me.
Any advise?
Hey there,
thanks for reaching out and sharing this experience.
It sounds like you've been through a really tough time recently, and it's completely understandable that you're feeling discouraged.
Rejection from any university, especially a dream school, can be really tricky. But it is fantastic you have been accepted to a uni with a good sports sector and a good course. Have you been for an open day to look round this uni yet? I’ve found doing this often really inspires students and helps them to see themselves at that university. I remember looking round Manchester Metropolitan and seeing they had an awesome brass band and thinking ok I will be ok here😂
Using student room, Facebook can be a great way to also connect with others at the university you have been accepted to. You might also meet people who are in the same position as you, going to the same university!
Regarding your rejection from Oxbridge, I think it’s so important to remember that your value isn't defined by university applications. You have obviously overcome a lot, and that strength and resilience will serve you well no matter where you end up! There's also a lot more to a university than just its ranking. Try to consider things like the course content, faculty expertise, campus life, and the city itself.
If you have anymore questions get in touch!
Best wishes,
Emily
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