I'm frozen with stress and I don't know what to do

So, I've never enjoyed the things that most people enjoy. I forced myself to socialise, exercise, play sports, do well in school...and I hated it. I still do some exercise and talk to friends, but I just don't enjoy it. I don't even know a single family member or friend I like talking to. The only thing I enjoy is eating food, but I've been trying to lose weight so I'm trying to stay in a calorie deficit.

This recently became a worse problem because I have become more stressed about schoolwork. I know I need to do my work and I need to exercise, but I feel like I literally can't. I'm just miserable all day and I'm watching YouTube or just browsing the Internet to avoid my schoolwork. I don't even enjoy it because food is literally the ONLY thing that makes me happy. My mind is constantly thinking about paying rent or food I want or schoolwork I need to do. I just can't do anything at all because I feel panicked all day.

If you relate I'd like to hear about how you feel. And if you have advice I would appreciate that too. I guess I'm just reaching for some kind of reassurance.

Reply 1

StormyInk202

Original post

by Anonymous

So, I've never enjoyed the things that most people enjoy. I forced myself to socialise, exercise, play sports, do well in school...and I hated it. I still do some exercise and talk to friends, but I just don't enjoy it. I don't even know a single family member or friend I like talking to. The only thing I enjoy is eating food, but I've been trying to lose weight so I'm trying to stay in a calorie deficit.
This recently became a worse problem because I have become more stressed about schoolwork. I know I need to do my work and I need to exercise, but I feel like I literally can't. I'm just miserable all day and I'm watching YouTube or just browsing the Internet to avoid my schoolwork. I don't even enjoy it because food is literally the ONLY thing that makes me happy. My mind is constantly thinking about paying rent or food I want or schoolwork I need to do. I just can't do anything at all because I feel panicked all day.
If you relate I'd like to hear about how you feel. And if you have advice I would appreciate that too. I guess I'm just reaching for some kind of reassurance.

this is literally me minus the paying the rent. and its much harder to stay in a calorie deficit in winter too! so far my motivation is really low but i have found one way thats started to motivate me. my friends and i started this accountability act. if we all revise for less than 20 hours within the week, we cant meet each other or talk to each other but if we ALL get 20 done, we have a nice day out maybe just even one activity. you could try this if you have friends willing to do the same. i htink its really worth going out with people you enjoy or jsut talking to them. the thing about youtube surfing is so real though. im the same but with netflix (sad, i know). to try and counteract that i tried to do "reverse" pomodoro. watch netflilx for 25 minutes, revise for 5, and i kept changing i (20 mins netflix, 10 min revision. then 15 min netflix 15 min revision etc.) until i had 25 mins or revision. i know it sounds so unreal but it works for me (mostly) so i go with it. if you want to talk more we can do- send me a dm!

Reply 2

Nathanielle_

Try to focus on the necessary: Eat enough, Sleep enough, Go outside (it does not need a big exercise, just begin small, going for 10 minutes outside of the door, listen to a podcast while walking) or try to meditate. then all the rest will be easier.

There are definitely a lot of people out there, who feel that way and forcing yourself to like things etc. you do not like, can be exhausting. But it is important to find out, what do you like // what do you dislike, BUT is necessary // what is not that necessary after all and can be skipped ... and what is caused by just having a bad time/burn-out/anxiety/depression/etc. ...