Crush On My Male PE Teacher (it won't go away!!)

Hi,
I have a male teacher for PE. I am 14 and he is 31. I feel really happy every time he says my name, I get butterflies when he smiles at me, I feel weird when he stands close to me (like kinda turned on but not) and yh. He says I'm his best student in my class (mixed boys and girls), and he always praises me. When he turns to look my way, our eyes always meet for a second or two, and he'll always smile. I've had dreams about him and even went through a stage of daydreaming about him in other classes (which is not like me at all). I've told my 3 closest friends, and here is all of their advice :
Friend #1 = Wtf you liking a teacher for? It's illegal. Stop looking at him like that and get a new crush.
Friend #2 = Ew, him?! Just try and ignore the feelings, and don't let it get in the way of your grades.
Friend #3 = Please don't act on it, cuz it could ruin the rest of your life. It's illegal, inappropriate and unprofessional, just keep that in mind. I will support you no matter what, but don't get yourself in trouble.
I am aware of this, and I must say, I am extremely ashamed of myself. I shouldn't be having these feelings and I know it's not okay. I don't intend to let anyone else know, and I will definitely not be acting upon it... I'm not getting myself in that situation. But, these feelings aren't going away and I want them to stop asap. I'm disgusted with myself, as it's so inappropriate, but I can't help it. I know he'll never be interested in a mere 14 year old girl like me, but even telling myself logic doesn't help.
Please don't be judgemental or mean, because I know, I've been bullying myself enough with those thoughts and regrets and judgements. I just need some support or comfort or advice on how to process my feelings better, and hopefully exterminate the crush once and for all.
Thank you to anyone kind enough to help me xx

Hi,
I have a male teacher for PE. I am 14 and he is 31. I feel really happy every time he says my name, I get butterflies when he smiles at me, I feel weird when he stands close to me (like kinda turned on but not) and yh. He says I'm his best student in my class (mixed boys and girls), and he always praises me. When he turns to look my way, our eyes always meet for a second or two, and he'll always smile. I've had dreams about him and even went through a stage of daydreaming about him in other classes (which is not like me at all). I've told my 3 closest friends, and here is all of their advice :
Friend #1 = Wtf you liking a teacher for? It's illegal. Stop looking at him like that and get a new crush.
Friend #2 = Ew, him?! Just try and ignore the feelings, and don't let it get in the way of your grades.
Friend #3 = Please don't act on it, cuz it could ruin the rest of your life. It's illegal, inappropriate and unprofessional, just keep that in mind. I will support you no matter what, but don't get yourself in trouble.
I am aware of this, and I must say, I am extremely ashamed of myself. I shouldn't be having these feelings and I know it's not okay. I don't intend to let anyone else know, and I will definitely not be acting upon it... I'm not getting myself in that situation. But, these feelings aren't going away and I want them to stop asap. I'm disgusted with myself, as it's so inappropriate, but I can't help it. I know he'll never be interested in a mere 14 year old girl like me, but even telling myself logic doesn't help.
Please don't be judgemental or mean, because I know, I've been bullying myself enough with those thoughts and regrets and judgements. I just need some support or comfort or advice on how to process my feelings better, and hopefully exterminate the crush once and for all.
Thank you to anyone kind enough to help me xx

Hi,
I have a male teacher for PE. I am 14 and he is 31. I feel really happy every time he says my name, I get butterflies when he smiles at me, I feel weird when he stands close to me (like kinda turned on but not) and yh. He says I'm his best student in my class (mixed boys and girls), and he always praises me. When he turns to look my way, our eyes always meet for a second or two, and he'll always smile. I've had dreams about him and even went through a stage of daydreaming about him in other classes (which is not like me at all). I've told my 3 closest friends, and here is all of their advice :
Friend #1 = Wtf you liking a teacher for? It's illegal. Stop looking at him like that and get a new crush.
Friend #2 = Ew, him?! Just try and ignore the feelings, and don't let it get in the way of your grades.
Friend #3 = Please don't act on it, cuz it could ruin the rest of your life. It's illegal, inappropriate and unprofessional, just keep that in mind. I will support you no matter what, but don't get yourself in trouble.
I am aware of this, and I must say, I am extremely ashamed of myself. I shouldn't be having these feelings and I know it's not okay. I don't intend to let anyone else know, and I will definitely not be acting upon it... I'm not getting myself in that situation. But, these feelings aren't going away and I want them to stop asap. I'm disgusted with myself, as it's so inappropriate, but I can't help it. I know he'll never be interested in a mere 14 year old girl like me, but even telling myself logic doesn't help.
Please don't be judgemental or mean, because I know, I've been bullying myself enough with those thoughts and regrets and judgements. I just need some support or comfort or advice on how to process my feelings better, and hopefully exterminate the crush once and for all.
Thank you to anyone kind enough to help me xx

Hi,
I have a male teacher for PE. I am 14 and he is 31. I feel really happy every time he says my name, I get butterflies when he smiles at me, I feel weird when he stands close to me (like kinda turned on but not) and yh. He says I'm his best student in my class (mixed boys and girls), and he always praises me. When he turns to look my way, our eyes always meet for a second or two, and he'll always smile. I've had dreams about him and even went through a stage of daydreaming about him in other classes (which is not like me at all). I've told my 3 closest friends, and here is all of their advice :
Friend #1 = Wtf you liking a teacher for? It's illegal. Stop looking at him like that and get a new crush.
Friend #2 = Ew, him?! Just try and ignore the feelings, and don't let it get in the way of your grades.
Friend #3 = Please don't act on it, cuz it could ruin the rest of your life. It's illegal, inappropriate and unprofessional, just keep that in mind. I will support you no matter what, but don't get yourself in trouble.
I am aware of this, and I must say, I am extremely ashamed of myself. I shouldn't be having these feelings and I know it's not okay. I don't intend to let anyone else know, and I will definitely not be acting upon it... I'm not getting myself in that situation. But, these feelings aren't going away and I want them to stop asap. I'm disgusted with myself, as it's so inappropriate, but I can't help it. I know he'll never be interested in a mere 14 year old girl like me, but even telling myself logic doesn't help.
Please don't be judgemental or mean, because I know, I've been bullying myself enough with those thoughts and regrets and judgements. I just need some support or comfort or advice on how to process my feelings better, and hopefully exterminate the crush once and for all.
Thank you to anyone kind enough to help me xx

Please don’t quote me on this but I believe that girls tend to reach a degree of psychological, emotional maturity sooner than their male peers, so “crushes” tend to be towards adult men (typically actors, singers, yes, even schoolteachers) rather than peers who grow up more slowly.
You’re absolutely right that you must not do anything about it. The belief in a connection, eyes meeting and the like is called limerence. It’s a psychological state associated with infatuation and as a Victorian writer once said, nobody looks for portents and omens like someone who thinks they are in love. It’s also an unreliable, untrustworthy state, sort of like neurochemical drunkenness, and a long way from real love.
I am sure that your teacher only sees a good pupil, nothing more.
But what you are describing happened to my sister (the English teacher, a handsome public schoolboy teaching in a state school, he came complete with Latin quips and fancy embroidered silk tie!), my aunt said her school crush was Jeremy Irons back when he was a young man in “Brideshead Revisited”!
If the women I have known in my family are any guide, this is common, embarrassing, biologically explainable and nothing much to worry about provided you see it as the nuisance that it is, something that will go away as surely as acne or annoying school assemblies. It certainly doesn’t make you dirty or wrong in any way.
Have you a female family member whom you can confide in?
I hope very much a woman here replies — I leapt to do so because my late sister made herself very miserable about the same thing.
Please delete (admins) if advice from a man in his twenties is inappropriate.

as you yourself say, don't do anything about this. but there is nothing to ashamed of by having a crush, it is natural part of life, no matter what age you are.
I had a major crush on a sixth form teacher many years ago (like you thinking about him all the time) and now we are good friends! I told him after I finished University and I met him in town. we still keep in contact, sometimes arrange to meet up for coffee or lunch (both live in the same town)
I can't say your feelings for him will pass or when- I am thankful that mine for my teacher did. but I am sure it will pass in time.

We're all delulu girl, I getcha. Just don't act on it.
Ngl I'd go as far to say as it's normal-ish 🙈
I've a friend (15? 16? I am not sure.) And she has had a crush on her teacher for more than a year now. I'm concerned, but she never acted on it, so...

It's natural for you to be attracted. He should not be spending long periods of time allowing attraction of that kind to occur. A teacher is not allowed to have a relationship, or anything like one, until you're 18.

First off, it being illegal isn't the main issue with acting on your feelings. The main issue is that he's a full adult and if he does anything to a 14 yr old sexually or romantically then he'd be a literal child predator and someone who shouldn't be around kids so if anything like that happens even if you like it because you're crushing on him report him immediately because he could've also done something to other kids. Of course, this is only if he does something and i hope he doesn't.
Second, it's normal for your friends to be a bit weirded out, because to them he's only ever been viewed purely as a mentor who they've at most only thought of as annoying or a good teacher. It's the same feeling as realising what your parents did to have you or hearing a teacher is pregnant, you could never view them that way so it's weird seeing or hearing others do so. That doesn't mean that your attraction is inherently weird or wrong though. Having a crush on a mentor is actually quite common (so common that someone you know has probably crushed on some sort of mentor or authority figure at some point in their life) as people tend to like someone who seems competent and smart and is always ready to help and pays attention to them. They help to take care of you and teach you and sometimes you might like them. Your friends can be weirded out by your feelings and your feelings can be normal, both these things can happen at the same time and no one's in the wrong as it's just a matter of differing feelings. So don't feel disgusted or upset with yourself or like your a bad person for having feelings and being human.

Listen to all 3 of your friends advice. Its ok to have a crush. I remember when I was 13 and had a crush on a guitar player of the resident band whilst on a caravan holiday lol. Hes only being friendly as a teacher should be. By being nice polite and smiley type of teacher. Its not to be seen in any other way.
One way to get over a crush is to have other things to concentrate on. Or have another crush who is not 31 and a teacher. Guitar player crush soon went away when I fancied a guy in in the same year as me. Then came a lad on the plane on the way to america. And a guy in a boy band after that. By that time I was like 'guitar player who?'. Also have your friends to focus on as well.

don't beat yourself it's natural and nothing wrong or shameful exploring your feelings and thoughts. Fantasy is great you can 5ake it wherever you want to go. Reality is very different. But use the connection as confidence boost holistically your self and let your thoughts run wild getting know your mind body n soul . Your fabulous and alot to offer in your own right

Yeah, being delulu can be so annoying at times lol.
It's good to know it's not just me. I just think that keeping a distance and not acting on it is always the best thing to do in these situations 🙂

Hi,
I have a male teacher for PE. I am 14 and he is 31. I feel really happy every time he says my name, I get butterflies when he smiles at me, I feel weird when he stands close to me (like kinda turned on but not) and yh. He says I'm his best student in my class (mixed boys and girls), and he always praises me. When he turns to look my way, our eyes always meet for a second or two, and he'll always smile. I've had dreams about him and even went through a stage of daydreaming about him in other classes (which is not like me at all). I've told my 3 closest friends, and here is all of their advice :
Friend #1 = Wtf you liking a teacher for? It's illegal. Stop looking at him like that and get a new crush.
Friend #2 = Ew, him?! Just try and ignore the feelings, and don't let it get in the way of your grades.
Friend #3 = Please don't act on it, cuz it could ruin the rest of your life. It's illegal, inappropriate and unprofessional, just keep that in mind. I will support you no matter what, but don't get yourself in trouble.
I am aware of this, and I must say, I am extremely ashamed of myself. I shouldn't be having these feelings and I know it's not okay. I don't intend to let anyone else know, and I will definitely not be acting upon it... I'm not getting myself in that situation. But, these feelings aren't going away and I want them to stop asap. I'm disgusted with myself, as it's so inappropriate, but I can't help it. I know he'll never be interested in a mere 14 year old girl like me, but even telling myself logic doesn't help.
Please don't be judgemental or mean, because I know, I've been bullying myself enough with those thoughts and regrets and judgements. I just need some support or comfort or advice on how to process my feelings better, and hopefully exterminate the crush once and for all.
Thank you to anyone kind enough to help me xx