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im currently a 1st year student at lancaster university and i had to miss basically everything during freshers week due to a serious health concern and whilst i have managed to make some friends it feels like they all have made their own bubbles and i feel very left out and lonely a lot and i feel as though the opportunities i've had to make friends have been stripped from me as i haven't been able to socialise. i know people say to join societies etc but i literally can't find a society i want to join, so i don't know how to make friends. i like going out and clubbing, also, but none of the few friends i have made do, and i don't want to go clubbing alone, so i just feel intense fomo everytime some event is happening i'd like to go to. is there anyone else at lu who feels the same or wants to be friends and would like to meet up for coffee/a walk etc?

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im currently a 1st year student at lancaster university and i had to miss basically everything during freshers week due to a serious health concern and whilst i have managed to make some friends it feels like they all have made their own bubbles and i feel very left out and lonely a lot and i feel as though the opportunities i've had to make friends have been stripped from me as i haven't been able to socialise. i know people say to join societies etc but i literally can't find a society i want to join, so i don't know how to make friends. i like going out and clubbing, also, but none of the few friends i have made do, and i don't want to go clubbing alone, so i just feel intense fomo everytime some event is happening i'd like to go to. is there anyone else at lu who feels the same or wants to be friends and would like to meet up for coffee/a walk etc?

Hello @Anonymous

Thank you for talking about your feelings, it's really important that you're aware of how you feel and are looking to make positive changes! In terms of meeting new people and making more friends, in think it is genuinely just a case of putting yourself out there. You say you don't like the sound of any societies, but may find one that somewhat relates to an interest you have, and try it! And if you hate it and don't enjoy the society then so what?! At least you were brave enough to give something a go and put yourself out there.

As we are approaching the Christmas half term, I would generally say that there is a little shift in dynamic when you return back to university in January. Meaning, that people may be more open to change / may want to make more/new friends themselves, so definitely use that to your advantage! Sit next to someone who is sat by themselves in lectures and seminars and spark up a conversation.

I'd also recommend maybe getting a part-time job if this suits your situation/ university timetable. This can be a great way to meet other students and other people generally, broadening your social circle.

University can be hard, but things do get better! Keep your spirits high where you can and ensure you take time for yourself. Remember your college has a specific College Advisory Team (find your CAT team here) who you can reach out to if you feel like things are getting tough.

Wishing you the best!

Taylor (Lancaster Uni Student Ambassador).

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by Anonymous

im currently a 1st year student at lancaster university and i had to miss basically everything during freshers week due to a serious health concern and whilst i have managed to make some friends it feels like they all have made their own bubbles and i feel very left out and lonely a lot and i feel as though the opportunities i've had to make friends have been stripped from me as i haven't been able to socialise. i know people say to join societies etc but i literally can't find a society i want to join, so i don't know how to make friends. i like going out and clubbing, also, but none of the few friends i have made do, and i don't want to go clubbing alone, so i just feel intense fomo everytime some event is happening i'd like to go to. is there anyone else at lu who feels the same or wants to be friends and would like to meet up for coffee/a walk etc?

hey I feel the same way. im also a first year at Lancaster uni. id love to be friends with you!

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