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Does this guy like me or is it in my head?

Guys I don’t know whether this guy likes me or not we have some of the same classes at uni together. I like the guy and would love to get to know him more for the purpose of a relationship. I have his number which I got as we were doing a group presentation together. So I’ve been texting him and he seems like a confident guy in general but when he talks to me it always seems like he’s unsure/ thinking what to say and trying to find the right words. I’ve seen him staring at me a lot as well which made me think I might have a chance with him. I tried to tell him about my feelings and said to the guy I don’t want to be weird but that I see him as more than a friend. The thing is when I did he seemed really surprised almost bewildered and his response was whether I was telling the truth and that he doesn’t feel weird about me telling him that (this was on text). I said of course I am and we just carried on texting as normal in a friendly way. Then I decided to tell him I would like to meet him and his response was meet him for what? I replied then basically saying nevermind and I don’t think you got what I meant. He’s seen it but he hasn’t replied to it.My question is what do you guys think of this guys behaviour. I couldn’t really have been more clear at telling him how I feel. Was his response a rejection or does he still not know what I mean?
Original post by Anonymous
Guys I don’t know whether this guy likes me or not we have some of the same classes at uni together. I like the guy and would love to get to know him more for the purpose of a relationship. I have his number which I got as we were doing a group presentation together. So I’ve been texting him and he seems like a confident guy in general but when he talks to me it always seems like he’s unsure/ thinking what to say and trying to find the right words. I’ve seen him staring at me a lot as well which made me think I might have a chance with him. I tried to tell him about my feelings and said to the guy I don’t want to be weird but that I see him as more than a friend. The thing is when I did he seemed really surprised almost bewildered and his response was whether I was telling the truth and that he doesn’t feel weird about me telling him that (this was on text). I said of course I am and we just carried on texting as normal in a friendly way. Then I decided to tell him I would like to meet him and his response was meet him for what? I replied then basically saying nevermind and I don’t think you got what I meant. He’s seen it but he hasn’t replied to it.My question is what do you guys think of this guys behaviour. I couldn’t really have been more clear at telling him how I feel. Was his response a rejection or does he still not know what I mean?
girly boo i literally just experienced something very similar to ur experience omds. i lowkey liked the guy and i thought his mixed signals meant something but they definitely did NOT. he sits next to me in my physics class and talking to him irl is very nice but we've been falling out when chatting otp. but back to ur question. i dont think his response was a rejection but was only a misunderstanding. i understand that telling him how you feel may be very scary but next time try to hint it, or be straightforward asf. also about the conversation you had about seeing him more than a friend, i personally believe that such conversations should be done irl just because i never trust what the other person could be thinking atm and by talking to them irl you can just read their faces iykwim. just take it slowly and see how he starts behaving around u. spend time together and get to know him as person! not just as a classmate. boo im rooting for u so hard cus yesterday i got so embarrassed with my 'crush' that i dont like anymore. good luck!
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Original post by Anonymous
girly boo i literally just experienced something very similar to ur experience omds. i lowkey liked the guy and i thought his mixed signals meant something but they definitely did NOT. he sits next to me in my physics class and talking to him irl is very nice but we've been falling out when chatting otp. but back to ur question. i dont think his response was a rejection but was only a misunderstanding. i understand that telling him how you feel may be very scary but next time try to hint it, or be straightforward asf. also about the conversation you had about seeing him more than a friend, i personally believe that such conversations should be done irl just because i never trust what the other person could be thinking atm and by talking to them irl you can just read their faces iykwim. just take it slowly and see how he starts behaving around u. spend time together and get to know him as person! not just as a classmate. boo im rooting for u so hard cus yesterday i got so embarrassed with my 'crush' that i dont like anymore. good luck!

girl thank you for your reply! Hope you find a much better guy then that one and I will do as you said and see how it goes 💓 guys can be so confusing…
Original post by Anonymous
girl thank you for your reply! Hope you find a much better guy then that one and I will do as you said and see how it goes 💓 guys can be so confusing…

guys are indeed so confusing but yup good luck !!!
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Original post by Anonymous
Guys I don’t know whether this guy likes me or not we have some of the same classes at uni together. I like the guy and would love to get to know him more for the purpose of a relationship. I have his number which I got as we were doing a group presentation together. So I’ve been texting him and he seems like a confident guy in general but when he talks to me it always seems like he’s unsure/ thinking what to say and trying to find the right words. I’ve seen him staring at me a lot as well which made me think I might have a chance with him. I tried to tell him about my feelings and said to the guy I don’t want to be weird but that I see him as more than a friend. The thing is when I did he seemed really surprised almost bewildered and his response was whether I was telling the truth and that he doesn’t feel weird about me telling him that (this was on text). I said of course I am and we just carried on texting as normal in a friendly way. Then I decided to tell him I would like to meet him and his response was meet him for what? I replied then basically saying nevermind and I don’t think you got what I meant. He’s seen it but he hasn’t replied to it.My question is what do you guys think of this guys behaviour. I couldn’t really have been more clear at telling him how I feel. Was his response a rejection or does he still not know what I mean?

When he said it wasn’t strange he signalled his acceptance. He just sounds a bit shy or inept and perhaps surprised you were making clear overtures (most women are about as clear in their intent as he is).

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