Does he like me or not???

Guys I don’t know whether this guy likes me or not we have some of the same classes at uni together. I like the guy and would love to get to know him more for a relationship. I have his number which I got as we were doing a group presentation together. So I’ve been texting him and he seems like a confident guy in general but when he talks to me it always seems like he’s unsure/ thinking what to say and trying to find the right words. I’ve seen him staring at me a lot as well which made me think I might have a chance with him. I tried to tell him about my feelings and said to the guy I don’t want to be weird but that I see him as more than a friend. The thing is when I did he seemed really surprised almost bewildered and his response was whether I was telling the truth and that he doesn’t feel weird about me telling him that (this was on text). I said of course I am and we just carried on texting as normal in a friendly way. Then I decided to tell him I would like to meet him and his response was meet him for what? I replied then basically saying nevermind and I don’t think you got what I meant. He’s seen it but he hasn’t replied to it.My question is what do you guys think of this guys behaviour. I couldn’t really have been more clear at telling him how I feel. Was his response a rejection or does he still not know what I mean?

Reply 1

Ghostlady

This is a very difficult one here. You have dipped your toe in the water by saying you see him more than a friend.
And he was happy carrying on being in the friends zone before you asked to meet him and then he questioned as to meet for what? And then left you hanging after saying he didnt understand what the meeting was about and never mind about it (im assuming its a date yes?)

The fact hes left you hanging does not sound encouraging. I dont think hes being nasty in any way, but not sure on how to read the situation and carry on a conversation from there. From what you have said I think he just wanted to be in the friends zone from his reaction to asking him out, and lack of reaction after that. But thats ok yes? After all you have to be professional because you have a group presentation. See if you can steer the conversation back to the friends zone again. Talk about the project, or what ever else he likes. And if you have to meet up, meet in a group, or with another person. That way, theres no awkwardness between you both. If, by chance he is interested, then its his turn to make the move not yours since you have made your first step. Meanwhile keep it friends for now.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

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by Ghostlady

This is a very difficult one here. You have dipped your toe in the water by saying you see him more than a friend.
And he was happy carrying on being in the friends zone before you asked to meet him and then he questioned as to meet for what? And then left you hanging after saying he didnt understand what the meeting was about and never mind about it (im assuming its a date yes?)
The fact hes left you hanging does not sound encouraging. I dont think hes being nasty in any way, but not sure on how to read the situation and carry on a conversation from there. From what you have said I think he just wanted to be in the friends zone from his reaction to asking him out, and lack of reaction after that. But thats ok yes? After all you have to be professional because you have a group presentation. See if you can steer the conversation back to the friends zone again. Talk about the project, or what ever else he likes. And if you have to meet up, meet in a group, or with another person. That way, theres no awkwardness between you both. If, by chance he is interested, then its his turn to make the move not yours since you have made your first step. Meanwhile keep it friends for now.