Talking to a guy (need an outside perspective please) :)

Hey everyone
Apologies for this being a bit of a lengthy one, but wanted to get some outside perspective as I’m currently doubting myself.
So I’m currently talking to a guy from a dating app, we’ve been talking since sometime last week. Things have been a been a bit on the manic side for me this week due to uni stuff and work, but have been making the effort to speak to this guy regardless. Anyway, on Wednesday, he messages me asking how I am and what I’m up to this week, I respond and asked him the same question. He then instead of replying to what I had sent to him, turns round and is like ‘you were so talkative over the weekend, and the last few days it kind of went flat’. I then apologised and explained things have been on the manic side this week. He then didn’t bother to read or respond to the message until now and was like I’m busy too and how if I don’t appreciate him this isn’t going to work and how he’s always showing me ‘commitment’ and has been ‘taking out time to speak to me’. I have then responded saying it’s been one of those weeks where it’s been manic as I’m studying and working, and that how if he’s ‘showing me commitment and taking out the time to speak to me’, why has he ignored me for the last few days. I also said to him that if someone doesn’t seem to be as talkative, something you don’t know about could be going on in their lives and it doesn’t mean they’re not interested, they just have stuff going on in their life. I also said to him that even though it’s been one of those weeks and I haven’t been as talkative (in his eyes), at least I haven’t flat out ignored him and did a bit of a rhetorical question of if he would rather me flat out ignore him? No it would be rude wouldn’t it?
He hasn’t seen it, yet. But it’s now making me question as to whether or not I’m being a complete a***hole or not? I’m just doubting myself as to whether or not I’m being mean or something here? I’ve been single for quite a while now but feel ready to date and have been a bit apprehensive lately when it comes to talking to guys to hopefully gain a romantic connection with as the last few haven’t worked out well as they have only wanted one thing in the very early stages of talking, which I’ve had to shut down as they have also made me feel uncomfortable (I know it’s not every guy that’s wanting to have sex in the very early stages of talking)
Anyway, sorry for rambling on appreciate any kind of perspective as to whether or not I’m being harsh in my responses to him, etc, just feeling a little frustrated/irritated

its a guessing game, you said how you felt at time, thing is texts can be misconstrued. It is true guys aren't always after one thing straight away ...that connection slow build up makes more exciting any way.
I wish you both all luck in world, he seems quote anxious and insecure (aren't we all) just give him reassurance you're busy life's but there for each other... please don't 👻 tho as consequences are devastating. Sending you positive vibes, your amazing in your own right

But are you 'talking' or only sending messages? I don't understand how people can have phones, but only type on them then wonder why people aren't really engaging with them. Call him, explain the situation and if he's still not interested, at least you know.

Your both making a mountain out of a molehill. You've not met each other so your obligations to each other are nil.
Arrange a date and make an actual judgement.

He’s being weirder than you. Texts can be quick or slow to respond but after only a week of chat it’s bizarre to be grilling someone about the speed of their responses (as it is in most cases tbh).
NB. If it’s only been a week then I can understand why you’re not on the phone yet.
If he’s being this much hassle now, I can’t imagine it going anywhere.

But, I have explained the situation with him, and he’s still being dismissive. I decided to not carry on talking to him as I feel like he’s just pinning the blame on me for not being ‘talkative’ when I have been talkative

'Talkative' or 'textive'? Can't complain about slow responses if someone isn't available to immediately reply, plus there's only so much you can type rather than using your voice.

Out of curiosity, how have I been making a mountain out of a molehill? I’ve explained to him why I haven’t (in his eyes) been very talkative, but still making the effort to do so.

Because you also reacted to him not speaking to you with annoyance and indeed have now inferred enough from that to stop talking to him.
What you have to remember is that most men don't enjoy this texting stage, it is simply a means to an end that is imposed upon men by women, most men would prefer to meet you quickly and make their judgement of you in person.

Can I ask how I’m also being weird? I only asked him why he took a few days to respond/ignore me as he as he has been claiming he was making the effort.

I ended up telling him that I don’t think it’s going to work, as I feel like he’s only going to continue to be like this, and right now with deadlines for uni, I don’t need that stress

Ok, fair point.
However, I do feel like getting to know one another first is important before meeting up - which I feel I needed to go through for a little bit before actually meeting up. I also feel (from my perspective - this is just my perspective btw), he’s given an overreaction over the fact that I have appeared ‘less talkative’ given the fact I’ve explained why I’ve not been as talkative in the week, despite me making the effort to talk to him. Even though I mentally wasn’t up to messaging with what had been going on in my life this week, I did so anyway so I didn’t appear as rude and ghost for a few days - which I think is better than me just flat out ignoring him until I was ready to speak again. But hey ho that’s just me

I perhaps should have been clearer, I don’t think you were being weird at all. It’s obviously ended up a bit antagonistic so I think you’ve done the right thing in knocking it on the head.

Getting to know people in advance is a very recent advent and entirely a choice. For most of the last century people have 'dated' and got to know each other on the first date (and statistically with far more success).

I’m one of those people who can be shy at the best of times, and would rather know a bit about the other person before going on a first date. Nothing wrong with that is there?

I’ve never found shy women an issue to be honest, if the guy is compatible, he will talk more than enough.