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Am I getting used ??

Hi Im 23F talking to this guy for a really long time. We have been having phone sex for a couple times cuz we havent met yet. He calls me when he is drunk most of the times when we have phone sex. But he acknowledges it the next day when he is sober and wants us to meet and make **** happen. Apart from that, we talk normally also very nice we have been going pretty well. Until...
Yesterday while we were on ITT, he was very very drunk and was moaning out my name, in the middle ended up saying "I love you * ex girlfriend's name *". Upon confronting him, then and there (I just said he took his ex's name and not the fact that he said he loved her), he is hesitant to accept it and said that he wants me. We hung up few minutes later cuz I was too embarrassed.

Today morning a sober him called me saying, if he said anything cheap or something he shouldn't have had, to which I just replied a "I dont remember" just so I dont have it face it again. He said its good I dont remember and wanted to meet me today itself. I cancelled the plan cuz I had smth else today.

FYI: I have never been in a relationship and he is just too nice to me which no one has ever been and I dont know if he meant what he said or am I just an option cuz he cant get his ex back. Please helppp

Reply 1

Surnia

You've never been in a relationship - and still aren't in a relationship If it's been dragging on this long without meeting. Drunk dialling isn't a good sign either, plus is he studying or holding down a job with all that alcohol consumption, to say nothing of how he manages his health and finances?

It doesn't sound like this is going anywhere, and I'd be concerned that any meeting is going to involve drinking. If you can't be honest with him over the phone about his drunk actions, how would you cope face-to-face? I think he knew he'd said the wrong thing and was testing the waters, and you've given him the green light to continue. I'd move on from him.