Crushes and celibacy
I want to be a celibate (for spiritual purposes).
However, I sit in between A and B in one class and A in another class.
I don't know why but I like them. They aren't good looking or have a particularly nice personality. Person A shows me attention- we kinda flirt n i do get a bit distracted in class. Person B was more quiet at first and so was I until the term progressed and he always talks about how he cannot bear sitting w me whilst a smile on his face. (in a joking manner presumably). We have moved past the awkward stage n he's kinda seen my true colours.
Idk why but I like them in a non friend way. I have a crush on them. I want them to like me the same way I like them. I am disgusted by myself and I don't know what to do to remove this attraction. I'm not infatuated by them nor do they linger on my mind much until its the getting ready 5 min before a class with then etc.
How do I get rid of this stupid attraction?
However, I sit in between A and B in one class and A in another class.
I don't know why but I like them. They aren't good looking or have a particularly nice personality. Person A shows me attention- we kinda flirt n i do get a bit distracted in class. Person B was more quiet at first and so was I until the term progressed and he always talks about how he cannot bear sitting w me whilst a smile on his face. (in a joking manner presumably). We have moved past the awkward stage n he's kinda seen my true colours.
Idk why but I like them in a non friend way. I have a crush on them. I want them to like me the same way I like them. I am disgusted by myself and I don't know what to do to remove this attraction. I'm not infatuated by them nor do they linger on my mind much until its the getting ready 5 min before a class with then etc.
How do I get rid of this stupid attraction?
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Reply 1
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Forget celibacy, there’s no point in going against natural instincts and denying yourself good things
Unless you're wanting to join the clergy, wanting to be celebate when you're clearly not asexual is pointless.
Reply 3
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by PinkMobilePhoneUnless you're wanting to join the clergy, wanting to be celebate when you're clearly not asexual is pointless.
i need to detach myself from this world etc. i want to be asexual i need to stop this.
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by ZarekForget celibacy, there’s no point in going against natural instincts and denying yourself good things
what do u define as 'good things?' I've stopped chocolate and sweets which ppl define as good and my life has improved drastically
Reply 5
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by Anonymousi need to detach myself from this world etc. i want to be asexual i need to stop this.
This world is the only one there is any real evidence for. I don't recommend detaching yourself from it. It would be a pity to live a life of self-denial and then die and be like "oh... was that it??"
Sex, and the interest of a romantic partner, are completely natural and normal things to want as a human being. They are part of who we are, and an integral part of life. It's exactly as saintly and as morally sound to deny yourself those things as it would be to amputate one of your limbs.
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by anosmianAcrimonyThis world is the only one there is any real evidence for. I don't recommend detaching yourself from it. It would be a pity to live a life of self-denial and then die and be like "oh... was that it??"
Sex, and the interest of a romantic partner, are completely natural and normal things to want as a human being. They are part of who we are, and an integral part of life. It's exactly as saintly and as morally sound to deny yourself those things as it would be to amputate one of your limbs.
Sex, and the interest of a romantic partner, are completely natural and normal things to want as a human being. They are part of who we are, and an integral part of life. It's exactly as saintly and as morally sound to deny yourself those things as it would be to amputate one of your limbs.
I don't want to be normal. I believe there's something more out there. So what if I die trying to find a deeper meaning to my existence- it's better than not as the worst that can happen is that there's nothing (so my existence would be pointless anyways.) I don't want to enjoy life I couldn't care less about happiness. I just want to pursue my spiritual goals. So far they're just simple stuff like sitting down still for 20min and basic yoga but I guess it's more of the mindset shift
Reply 7
If you're trying to shed distractions and seek enlightenment you can just say that.
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by Anonymousi need to detach myself from this world etc. i want to be asexual i need to stop this.
There's no delicate way to say this - I think you could do with seeing a psychiatrist.
You can be religious and or spiritual without doing the things you're doing. There's an issue here that needs addressing.
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by StriderHortIf you're trying to shed distractions and seek enlightenment you can just say that.
Ye but I struggle with this the most and it's harder to eradicate
Reply 10
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by PinkMobilePhoneThere's no delicate way to say this - I think you could do with seeing a psychiatrist.
You can be religious and or spiritual without doing the things you're doing. There's an issue here that needs addressing.
You can be religious and or spiritual without doing the things you're doing. There's an issue here that needs addressing.
Hehe this made me laugh. Sure if u wanna perceive it that way but personally I need to go to the extent I'm going. I need to put my all in, every breath every word should be taken intentionally to align with my pursuit
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by AnonymousHehe this made me laugh. Sure if u wanna perceive it that way but personally I need to go to the extent I'm going. I need to put my all in, every breath every word should be taken intentionally to align with my pursuit
And what, exactly, is the end goal here?
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by PinkMobilePhoneAnd what, exactly, is the end goal here?
enlightenment
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by Anonymousenlightenment
Are you a Buddhist?
According to the Bhagavad Gita only 1 in a billion people has reached enlightenment.
Reply 14
You know you can have platonic crushes or romantic crushes and still be asexual.
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by PinkMobilePhoneAre you a Buddhist?
According to the Bhagavad Gita only 1 in a billion people has reached enlightenment.
According to the Bhagavad Gita only 1 in a billion people has reached enlightenment.
I don't really follow a religion specifically but yes I tend towards hinduism scriptures like the bhagavad gita and vedantic scriptures. What was the point of using that figure? To demotivate me? To show that my journey is incredulous or unachievable? I don't feel particularly bothered about it. The bhagavad gita is full of metaphors it could just be demonstrating the rarity. Even if it was factual so be it. I feel my chances remain the same. U hindu tho?
Reply 16
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by AnonymousYou know you can have platonic crushes or romantic crushes and still be asexual.
then I don't want to be asexual.
Reply 17
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by Anonymousthen I don't want to be asexual.
Okay. Maybe the feelings you are feeling are simply a really strong admiration crush that doesn't actually have any romantic elements. It's platonic and you just live to be around that person, you want to talk to them more etc.
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by Anonymouswhat do u define as 'good things?' I've stopped chocolate and sweets which ppl define as good and my life has improved drastically
Good food is that which you enjoy
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by AnonymousI don't really follow a religion specifically but yes I tend towards hinduism scriptures like the bhagavad gita and vedantic scriptures. What was the point of using that figure? To demotivate me? To show that my journey is incredulous or unachievable? I don't feel particularly bothered about it. The bhagavad gita is full of metaphors it could just be demonstrating the rarity. Even if it was factual so be it. I feel my chances remain the same. U hindu tho?
No I'm not Hindu.
I was attempting to show you just how unrealistic you're being.
For a start, you can't force yourself to stop having perfectly normal human emotions, whether or not you claim you "don't want to be normal."
Anyway, whatever, it's your life.
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