Sad and isolated

OP

I really would appreciate your input.

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jay2013

17

Stop being sad and start being awesome.

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I'm not sure TSR is the best place to ask, tbh, there are very few people here close in age to you. It's also not very clear what exactly you are asking? If you are lonely because people are not meeting your expectations, your two options are to either adjust your expectations or to accept that you are likely to stay alone.

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OP

Original post by black tea

I'm not sure TSR is the best place to ask, tbh, there are very few people here close in age to you. It's also not very clear what exactly you are asking? If you are lonely because people are not meeting your expectations, your two options are to either adjust your expectations or to accept that you are likely to stay alone.

It's just that it's so rare to find a sincere relationship and harder as you get older. I'm rueing the people I lost.

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Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

Had big problems during school. Never kept touch with any school friends. Big problems at uni dropped out never kept touch with any uni people. I have things going for me, I'm told I'm good looking and intelligent. But there is a lot of sadness and pain in my life. I have had heavy spiritual experiences. They lead me to believe, cut a long story short, that I'm meant for a lost love from 10+ years ago. Again I was going through something traumatic so we couldn't get it together. Now I wait single. I believe in an afterlife and so don't want to get it wrong. I love my parents so much but wonder what I'll do after they die. I feel alone when I'm in solitude, and thus is from someone who has learnt to enjoy a lot of time alone. I'm worried about the future. It's so hard to find a sincere, quality relationship that is comparable to who I met in the past. I'm now 43. Can anyone advise me?

Put yourself out there. Life is too short and the last thing anyone wants it to regret not living the life they could’ve if they were just a bit more proactive.

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OP

Original post by Anonymous

Put yourself out there. Life is too short and the last thing anyone wants it to regret not living the life they could’ve if they were just a bit more proactive.

Thanks for the encouragement. It's just my case is very very complex. I wish I could explain it better.

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Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

Thanks for the encouragement. It's just my case is very very complex. I wish I could explain it better.

Ahh I see. I hope you still try hard to change your life. It’s never too late to give new things a go (coming from someone who also felt very isolated a few months ago and has already seen the difference putting myself out there has had on my life!!!!!)….you are never alone! wishing you the best of luck! 🙂

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OP

Original post by Anonymous

Ahh I see. I hope you still try hard to change your life. It’s never too late to give new things a go (coming from someone who also felt very isolated a few months ago and has already seen the difference putting myself out there has had on my life!!!!!)….you are never alone! wishing you the best of luck! 🙂

Thanks that's very kind

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Original post by Anonymous

It's just that it's so rare to find a sincere relationship and harder as you get older. I'm rueing the people I lost.

It's ok to be sad about losing people. But it's also important to allow new people into your life - the relationships with them will be different but they can still enrich your life; wanting to replicate old relationships is just going to make you miserable though.

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Original post by Anonymous

Thanks for the encouragement. It's just my case is very very complex. I wish I could explain it better.

Don't isolate yourself by thinking this way. Even if you case is complex, other people will still be able to relate to your experiences. You are not alone in feeling how you feel and in what you have been through.

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OP

Original post by black tea

It's ok to be sad about losing people. But it's also important to allow new people into your life - the relationships with them will be different but they can still enrich your life; wanting to replicate old relationships is just going to make you miserable though.

Thanks I appreciate it. I want to meet someone new but I have seen a sign for the future about someone in my past. So I feel like I have to wait for this person. I know that sounds really weird but it's true. I really miss finding a genuine companion meanwhile. I just don't know it's right.

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OP

Original post by black tea

Don't isolate yourself by thinking this way. Even if you case is complex, other people will still be able to relate to your experiences. You are not alone in feeling how you feel and in what you have been through.

Thanks. I might try some local activities.

Reply 13

OP

I actually met someone in the local community who gave me that feeling again. That human warm feeling. The real problem that's so hard to explain to anyone is this: I've seen a sign regarding a girl from my past, as though it's about the future. I'm talking about a sign from God. I know this sounds strange it is very hard to convey. As a consequence I don't know whether I have to be single in this life, wait until the next life or later in this life for this girl. Even though my heart longs for a companion and I have feelings for others, I wonder if I need to focus only on the sign and being alone, or if I can have another relationship in the meantime.

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I know this is really obscure what I describe, but if anyone could help I'd really appreciate it.

Reply 15

PinkMobilePhone

22

It's hard to make friends in your 40s. I understand that. Plus yes, the reality that your parents may not be with you for many more years also hits.

Plus... with the way you're feeling, dare I ask are you male or female? Because if you're female, your hormones may be going a little out of whack at that age which won't help.

This really isn't the best forum for advice on this kind of thing though. There aren't many people here who can relate, and even those of us in our 40s probably haven't got a massive amount of advice.
I have no idea how to find friends myself, so I'm stumped on how to advise someone else on the matter.

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