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Why am I suddenly being left out?

My flatmates, who I thought were my friends left me out of an outing yesterday- the three of them met up with someone else who I haven’t met yet and smoked pot with them…they only invited my out to the pub after on the main gc bc one of them asked earlier who wanted to go to the pub…normally they’d ask if I wanted to go smoke too.

They’ve left me out tonight as well. It’s one of the friend’s birthdays tomorrow and I was supposed to buy a bday cake- I’m not gonna bother now, why should I if I’ve been left out for tonight’s plans? I heard one of them knocking on the other ones door earlier- no one knocked on mine…this is the first time it’s happened. I’m close with one of them who I’m living with next year but she seems to be distancing herself from me atm. I haven’t said anything or been overbearing so I’m confused why I’m suddenly being dropped.

Idk what to do I feel a bit sad rn. My course friends have gone home for Christmas so it’s literally just me in the flat tonight. I don’t feel like helping with the birthday party tomorrow if I’ve been left out today. I’m not going to be taken advantage of for being nice either. After this this niceness/ caring way I normally am will stop. One of them only ever knocks on my door when they want something- not just to hangout. I’ll be really upset if they really are going out tonight and didn’t even ask if I wanted to join- I’m probably being over the top but I feel **** because my other friends are away atm.

Advice pls

Reply 1

Ella Q

There's a chance you did something to **** one of them off.
There's also a chance it's in your head....

Ether way if you don't ask them you'll never know