Brother advocating for mental health after ruining mine
I just have to let this out somewhere, my brother (19) has recently become the councillor in an area of where we live. Recently he had debate / meeting or whatever where he talked about how young people should be supported with their mental health etc, saying he knows people who suffer this and wants to support them etc
The thing that absolutely ****es me off is that as soon as I was discharged from hospital and returned home after attempting something due to how my brother treats me, he told me that I should have done it properly and that I am mentally crazy and unstable.
He has never apologised for this, and when he said this I was very upset and cried alot (understandbly) so I stamped on his watch, then for a whole year he kept on mocking how I reacted to that comment and mimicking me crying to my family, telling them that I damaged his watch. My whole family completed ignored what he said to me and hated on me for a year for stamping on the watch. After a whole year of enduring this, I told my family + brother to stop doing this bcs I don't like being reminded of that day and also told them that I'm on antidepressants bcs of them
After I told my family this, they've stopped mentioning it however my brother has just never taken accountability, he pretends what he said never happened and has never apologised. When I tried bring it up recently to give him a chance to apologise, he made sarcastic comments saying 'Are you going to hospital again?' and said I brought this on myself
Then a few months later he does a speech as a councillor on how much he supports young people's mental health...
I have no one to talk about with this, I have screen shots of my brother telling me to attempt properly etc and sometimes I'm really tempted to post these, to reveal what he's actually like to the public and ruin his facade. I won't actually do this bcs I'll get in so much trouble, but just seeing my brother advocate for mental health to the public whilst saying crap like this to me just makes me feel sick
He wants to become a politician too, but knowing his character I just wish ppl who support him know how he actually is then they'd reconsider who they vote for as their councillor
The thing that absolutely ****es me off is that as soon as I was discharged from hospital and returned home after attempting something due to how my brother treats me, he told me that I should have done it properly and that I am mentally crazy and unstable.
He has never apologised for this, and when he said this I was very upset and cried alot (understandbly) so I stamped on his watch, then for a whole year he kept on mocking how I reacted to that comment and mimicking me crying to my family, telling them that I damaged his watch. My whole family completed ignored what he said to me and hated on me for a year for stamping on the watch. After a whole year of enduring this, I told my family + brother to stop doing this bcs I don't like being reminded of that day and also told them that I'm on antidepressants bcs of them
After I told my family this, they've stopped mentioning it however my brother has just never taken accountability, he pretends what he said never happened and has never apologised. When I tried bring it up recently to give him a chance to apologise, he made sarcastic comments saying 'Are you going to hospital again?' and said I brought this on myself
Then a few months later he does a speech as a councillor on how much he supports young people's mental health...
I have no one to talk about with this, I have screen shots of my brother telling me to attempt properly etc and sometimes I'm really tempted to post these, to reveal what he's actually like to the public and ruin his facade. I won't actually do this bcs I'll get in so much trouble, but just seeing my brother advocate for mental health to the public whilst saying crap like this to me just makes me feel sick
He wants to become a politician too, but knowing his character I just wish ppl who support him know how he actually is then they'd reconsider who they vote for as their councillor
This must be really difficult for you and I am sorry you went through what you did. It might be good to have a conversation with your parents to get them to ask him to apologise to you or explain his behaviour. It seems to me his speech is more of something to be noticed than actually caring (hence he wants to be a politician). Now one thing to consider is his mental health; normal people do not act like that so please consider this too, he likely needs therapy too or at least counselling
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I just have to let this out somewhere, my brother (19) has recently become the councillor in an area of where we live. Recently he had debate / meeting or whatever where he talked about how young people should be supported with their mental health etc, saying he knows people who suffer this and wants to support them etc
The thing that absolutely ****es me off is that as soon as I was discharged from hospital and returned home after attempting something due to how my brother treats me, he told me that I should have done it properly and that I am mentally crazy and unstable.
He has never apologised for this, and when he said this I was very upset and cried alot (understandbly) so I stamped on his watch, then for a whole year he kept on mocking how I reacted to that comment and mimicking me crying to my family, telling them that I damaged his watch. My whole family completed ignored what he said to me and hated on me for a year for stamping on the watch. After a whole year of enduring this, I told my family + brother to stop doing this bcs I don't like being reminded of that day and also told them that I'm on antidepressants bcs of them
After I told my family this, they've stopped mentioning it however my brother has just never taken accountability, he pretends what he said never happened and has never apologised. When I tried bring it up recently to give him a chance to apologise, he made sarcastic comments saying 'Are you going to hospital again?' and said I brought this on myself
Then a few months later he does a speech as a councillor on how much he supports young people's mental health...
I have no one to talk about with this, I have screen shots of my brother telling me to attempt properly etc and sometimes I'm really tempted to post these, to reveal what he's actually like to the public and ruin his facade. I won't actually do this bcs I'll get in so much trouble, but just seeing my brother advocate for mental health to the public whilst saying crap like this to me just makes me feel sick
He wants to become a politician too, but knowing his character I just wish ppl who support him know how he actually is then they'd reconsider who they vote for as their councillor
The thing that absolutely ****es me off is that as soon as I was discharged from hospital and returned home after attempting something due to how my brother treats me, he told me that I should have done it properly and that I am mentally crazy and unstable.
He has never apologised for this, and when he said this I was very upset and cried alot (understandbly) so I stamped on his watch, then for a whole year he kept on mocking how I reacted to that comment and mimicking me crying to my family, telling them that I damaged his watch. My whole family completed ignored what he said to me and hated on me for a year for stamping on the watch. After a whole year of enduring this, I told my family + brother to stop doing this bcs I don't like being reminded of that day and also told them that I'm on antidepressants bcs of them
After I told my family this, they've stopped mentioning it however my brother has just never taken accountability, he pretends what he said never happened and has never apologised. When I tried bring it up recently to give him a chance to apologise, he made sarcastic comments saying 'Are you going to hospital again?' and said I brought this on myself
Then a few months later he does a speech as a councillor on how much he supports young people's mental health...
I have no one to talk about with this, I have screen shots of my brother telling me to attempt properly etc and sometimes I'm really tempted to post these, to reveal what he's actually like to the public and ruin his facade. I won't actually do this bcs I'll get in so much trouble, but just seeing my brother advocate for mental health to the public whilst saying crap like this to me just makes me feel sick
He wants to become a politician too, but knowing his character I just wish ppl who support him know how he actually is then they'd reconsider who they vote for as their councillor
Hi there,
We're really sorry to hear about what you've experienced and how you've been made to feel. No one deserves to be spoken to like that, and it's really important that you're able to find a safe space to get some support for yourself - you've already done really well to be so open about everything here.
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