perents forcing me to wear hijab
I’m a Pakistani Muslim, but I was born in the UK. My parents are forcing me to wear the hijab next year. Even though my family is not religious, it’s not for religious purposes—it’s to control me. My mom is religious, but my dad is not. He has affairs, smokes, drinks, gambles, and does many haram things. Yet, he said that if I don’t wear it next year, he will beat me into wearing it. He has hit me before, so it definitely wasn’t a threat or a joke.
I admit that I’ve done non-religious things like dating, partying, smoking, and drinking, but my dad does the same. I’ve quit all of that, and now I don’t even have a phone or leave the house except to go to school. But even that’s not enough control for him.
Although I’ve improved, I’m not where they want me to be, and I’m scared. He said I had to wear it this year, but I managed to convince him to wait until next year. Still, I don’t think he’ll budge further than that. What’s worse is that he’s forcing my sisters too, even though they’ve done nothing wrong.
I feel unsafe around him because he keeps making life-threatening threats, hitting, and abusing me into fear so that I’ll wear it. To be honest, it’s just making me more and more scared and resentful toward Islam.
Please help. I really don’t know what to do. I reported him, but not much has been done. Please, I’m begging you—any advice, even just some support, will be much appreciated.
I admit that I’ve done non-religious things like dating, partying, smoking, and drinking, but my dad does the same. I’ve quit all of that, and now I don’t even have a phone or leave the house except to go to school. But even that’s not enough control for him.
Although I’ve improved, I’m not where they want me to be, and I’m scared. He said I had to wear it this year, but I managed to convince him to wait until next year. Still, I don’t think he’ll budge further than that. What’s worse is that he’s forcing my sisters too, even though they’ve done nothing wrong.
I feel unsafe around him because he keeps making life-threatening threats, hitting, and abusing me into fear so that I’ll wear it. To be honest, it’s just making me more and more scared and resentful toward Islam.
Please help. I really don’t know what to do. I reported him, but not much has been done. Please, I’m begging you—any advice, even just some support, will be much appreciated.
talk to the mix councillors (they give you help for free). i had controlling parents too but now i am free
Original post by Anonymous
talk to the mix councillors (they give you help for free). i had controlling parents too but now i am free
well i still live with them but i mean things are a lot better
Original post by Anonymous
well i still live with them but i mean things are a lot better
in wat way
Original post by Anonymous
in wat way
i learnt to stand up for myself. idk how old you are but also taught them that i can get social services involved if i need to and that i have rights. it's emotional abuse to be controlling to someone
Original post by Anonymous
I’m a Pakistani Muslim, but I was born in the UK. My parents are forcing me to wear the hijab next year. Even though my family is not religious, it’s not for religious purposes—it’s to control me. My mom is religious, but my dad is not. He has affairs, smokes, drinks, gambles, and does many haram things. Yet, he said that if I don’t wear it next year, he will beat me into wearing it. He has hit me before, so it definitely wasn’t a threat or a joke.
I admit that I’ve done non-religious things like dating, partying, smoking, and drinking, but my dad does the same. I’ve quit all of that, and now I don’t even have a phone or leave the house except to go to school. But even that’s not enough control for him.
Although I’ve improved, I’m not where they want me to be, and I’m scared. He said I had to wear it this year, but I managed to convince him to wait until next year. Still, I don’t think he’ll budge further than that. What’s worse is that he’s forcing my sisters too, even though they’ve done nothing wrong.
I feel unsafe around him because he keeps making life-threatening threats, hitting, and abusing me into fear so that I’ll wear it. To be honest, it’s just making me more and more scared and resentful toward Islam.
Please help. I really don’t know what to do. I reported him, but not much has been done. Please, I’m begging you—any advice, even just some support, will be much appreciated.
I admit that I’ve done non-religious things like dating, partying, smoking, and drinking, but my dad does the same. I’ve quit all of that, and now I don’t even have a phone or leave the house except to go to school. But even that’s not enough control for him.
Although I’ve improved, I’m not where they want me to be, and I’m scared. He said I had to wear it this year, but I managed to convince him to wait until next year. Still, I don’t think he’ll budge further than that. What’s worse is that he’s forcing my sisters too, even though they’ve done nothing wrong.
I feel unsafe around him because he keeps making life-threatening threats, hitting, and abusing me into fear so that I’ll wear it. To be honest, it’s just making me more and more scared and resentful toward Islam.
Please help. I really don’t know what to do. I reported him, but not much has been done. Please, I’m begging you—any advice, even just some support, will be much appreciated.
Hey, I'm so sorry to hear this
( I know it must be really hard, but for your own safety and sisters' safety you should definitely try get social services involved before it escalates. Since you are at school, if you are comfortable, it's worth telling a teacher too because they're also under a duty to refer this to social services. It's also important to have a support network, whether that be friends or another trusted adult. I know someone else mentioned speaking to a cousellor, but this would only be an option if your parents are open to change their mindset too; living under the same roof as someone who's willing to abuse his own daughter usually means trying to talk things out with them could do more damage than good, particularly if you're young. You mentioned you reported him - where did you report him, if you don't mind me asking?Quick Reply
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