I severely compare myself to others
I constantly compare myself to my friends. Mainly when it comes to things I can't control like - my looks, My actitivies, My family.
I know I'm more unfortunate than my friends when it comes to family and it's not a matter off 'You don't know what they're going through'. Trust me, I pretty much have a whole idea and they also had the audacity to point it out to me in the past.
I just find my life so unfair. There are people my age - which siblings who can walk and talk - siblings they can play or fight with but I can't do that with mine. People my age either have a mother or father they can feel comforatble or just 1 family member in general they can feel 100% around but I don't have that. Everyone around me has such an interesting life and their parents are more relaxed than mine but the moment I want to go to a party, my parents nearly say no because they don't trust me. They don't have any reason to not trust me - I haven't done anything wrong and the more and more I reflect on my life and actions - I just think about how I will never be able to live a normal life.
I know theres no such thing as a normal life but I mean it in the way like - I can't take my parents on holiday. I have to always be available. I have to become the breadwinner of the family(not that this is a bad thing but its just very pressuring). Stuff like that. I wish I could do things that I enjoy like other people without worrying about my family. I want to be a normal person. All bc I have a disabled sibling. Why did it have to be me. I know that sounds mean. I love my sibling but I know that if they were normal, my life would be better
I know I'm more unfortunate than my friends when it comes to family and it's not a matter off 'You don't know what they're going through'. Trust me, I pretty much have a whole idea and they also had the audacity to point it out to me in the past.
I just find my life so unfair. There are people my age - which siblings who can walk and talk - siblings they can play or fight with but I can't do that with mine. People my age either have a mother or father they can feel comforatble or just 1 family member in general they can feel 100% around but I don't have that. Everyone around me has such an interesting life and their parents are more relaxed than mine but the moment I want to go to a party, my parents nearly say no because they don't trust me. They don't have any reason to not trust me - I haven't done anything wrong and the more and more I reflect on my life and actions - I just think about how I will never be able to live a normal life.
I know theres no such thing as a normal life but I mean it in the way like - I can't take my parents on holiday. I have to always be available. I have to become the breadwinner of the family(not that this is a bad thing but its just very pressuring). Stuff like that. I wish I could do things that I enjoy like other people without worrying about my family. I want to be a normal person. All bc I have a disabled sibling. Why did it have to be me. I know that sounds mean. I love my sibling but I know that if they were normal, my life would be better
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I constantly compare myself to my friends. Mainly when it comes to things I can't control like - my looks, My actitivies, My family.
I know I'm more unfortunate than my friends when it comes to family and it's not a matter off 'You don't know what they're going through'. Trust me, I pretty much have a whole idea and they also had the audacity to point it out to me in the past.
I just find my life so unfair. There are people my age - which siblings who can walk and talk - siblings they can play or fight with but I can't do that with mine. People my age either have a mother or father they can feel comforatble or just 1 family member in general they can feel 100% around but I don't have that. Everyone around me has such an interesting life and their parents are more relaxed than mine but the moment I want to go to a party, my parents nearly say no because they don't trust me. They don't have any reason to not trust me - I haven't done anything wrong and the more and more I reflect on my life and actions - I just think about how I will never be able to live a normal life.
I know theres no such thing as a normal life but I mean it in the way like - I can't take my parents on holiday. I have to always be available. I have to become the breadwinner of the family(not that this is a bad thing but its just very pressuring). Stuff like that. I wish I could do things that I enjoy like other people without worrying about my family. I want to be a normal person. All bc I have a disabled sibling. Why did it have to be me. I know that sounds mean. I love my sibling but I know that if they were normal, my life would be better
I know I'm more unfortunate than my friends when it comes to family and it's not a matter off 'You don't know what they're going through'. Trust me, I pretty much have a whole idea and they also had the audacity to point it out to me in the past.
I just find my life so unfair. There are people my age - which siblings who can walk and talk - siblings they can play or fight with but I can't do that with mine. People my age either have a mother or father they can feel comforatble or just 1 family member in general they can feel 100% around but I don't have that. Everyone around me has such an interesting life and their parents are more relaxed than mine but the moment I want to go to a party, my parents nearly say no because they don't trust me. They don't have any reason to not trust me - I haven't done anything wrong and the more and more I reflect on my life and actions - I just think about how I will never be able to live a normal life.
I know theres no such thing as a normal life but I mean it in the way like - I can't take my parents on holiday. I have to always be available. I have to become the breadwinner of the family(not that this is a bad thing but its just very pressuring). Stuff like that. I wish I could do things that I enjoy like other people without worrying about my family. I want to be a normal person. All bc I have a disabled sibling. Why did it have to be me. I know that sounds mean. I love my sibling but I know that if they were normal, my life would be better
Comparison plays a high part in normal life - everyone has experienced this, so I don’t blame you for the comments that run in your head.
However, perhaps take a step back and look at what you have now - for we always want more, but rarely stop for a moment and look around ourselves. There are so many things you have that people envy you for, things that you may not even know! Or perhaps features or things people compare themselves to you as well.
And be proud of your sibling! Imagine what happens if they realise what you thought of them? What if you were the siblings that were disabled instead of them? I know it’s hard to accept, but they are your sibling - your friend, part of your family!
One lesson I hope you take from this is to stop for a moment, take a breather - look around you, look for the things you can appreciate and be grateful for - for cherish each moment as they come back as memories we look back on.
And these memories either can be hints of regret in the past, or warm fragments of what is left behind.
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