Am I lazy for not wanting to go to uni
I finished college in 2023 and had a place to study fashion marketing in 2024. This came as a bit of a surprise to my family as no one had really expected me to go I’ve never been particularly academic and I hated every minute of college. After I finished my A levels I backpacked south wast Asia for 4 months and fell in love with it. When I got home I cancelled my place at uni as I just did not feel ready to go. I have now booked to go travelling again for a few months in 2025.
I am now on the fence about reapplying to university for September 2025 as
I didn’t save any of my application from before and will have to start again completely from scratch without the support of college I had before. I have dyslexia and adhd so things like this are really hard for me. I don’t really have a course that screams out to me and would quite like to study from home if I did reapply as I will be 21 but my local uni doesn’t offer much. I visited some friends at their uni recently and the whole time I was there I just kept thinking this isn’t for me.
But my question is does anyone really truely want to go to uni or do they just get on with it because they know it’ll help them in the future? Am I just lazy for not wanting to go?
If my bad mental health and adhd weren’t contributing factors I could see myself potentially getting on with it but they are contributing factors that I will always struggle with and I just have a gut feeling I’ll end up dropping out. But maybe I won’t maybe I’ll love it.
I just keep getting in my head that if I don’t go I won’t get a good job all I’ll be financially struggling my whole life.
Pls help a girl out im driving myself insane
I am now on the fence about reapplying to university for September 2025 as
I didn’t save any of my application from before and will have to start again completely from scratch without the support of college I had before. I have dyslexia and adhd so things like this are really hard for me. I don’t really have a course that screams out to me and would quite like to study from home if I did reapply as I will be 21 but my local uni doesn’t offer much. I visited some friends at their uni recently and the whole time I was there I just kept thinking this isn’t for me.
But my question is does anyone really truely want to go to uni or do they just get on with it because they know it’ll help them in the future? Am I just lazy for not wanting to go?
If my bad mental health and adhd weren’t contributing factors I could see myself potentially getting on with it but they are contributing factors that I will always struggle with and I just have a gut feeling I’ll end up dropping out. But maybe I won’t maybe I’ll love it.
I just keep getting in my head that if I don’t go I won’t get a good job all I’ll be financially struggling my whole life.
Pls help a girl out im driving myself insane
Original post by Anonymous
I finished college in 2023 and had a place to study fashion marketing in 2024. This came as a bit of a surprise to my family as no one had really expected me to go I’ve never been particularly academic and I hated every minute of college. After I finished my A levels I backpacked south wast Asia for 4 months and fell in love with it. When I got home I cancelled my place at uni as I just did not feel ready to go. I have now booked to go travelling again for a few months in 2025.
I am now on the fence about reapplying to university for September 2025 as
I didn’t save any of my application from before and will have to start again completely from scratch without the support of college I had before. I have dyslexia and adhd so things like this are really hard for me. I don’t really have a course that screams out to me and would quite like to study from home if I did reapply as I will be 21 but my local uni doesn’t offer much. I visited some friends at their uni recently and the whole time I was there I just kept thinking this isn’t for me.
But my question is does anyone really truely want to go to uni or do they just get on with it because they know it’ll help them in the future? Am I just lazy for not wanting to go?
If my bad mental health and adhd weren’t contributing factors I could see myself potentially getting on with it but they are contributing factors that I will always struggle with and I just have a gut feeling I’ll end up dropping out. But maybe I won’t maybe I’ll love it.
I just keep getting in my head that if I don’t go I won’t get a good job all I’ll be financially struggling my whole life.
Pls help a girl out im driving myself insane
I am now on the fence about reapplying to university for September 2025 as
I didn’t save any of my application from before and will have to start again completely from scratch without the support of college I had before. I have dyslexia and adhd so things like this are really hard for me. I don’t really have a course that screams out to me and would quite like to study from home if I did reapply as I will be 21 but my local uni doesn’t offer much. I visited some friends at their uni recently and the whole time I was there I just kept thinking this isn’t for me.
But my question is does anyone really truely want to go to uni or do they just get on with it because they know it’ll help them in the future? Am I just lazy for not wanting to go?
If my bad mental health and adhd weren’t contributing factors I could see myself potentially getting on with it but they are contributing factors that I will always struggle with and I just have a gut feeling I’ll end up dropping out. But maybe I won’t maybe I’ll love it.
I just keep getting in my head that if I don’t go I won’t get a good job all I’ll be financially struggling my whole life.
Pls help a girl out im driving myself insane
Hi, let me start off by saying your not lazy. If I were in a situation where I really didn't like college, I would never consider going to uni. If you seen universities, been to taster days, went to open days, finished college knowing that you hated every minute, etc. Your experience in uni may not be great, which can lead to you dropping out.
It is understandable that university is not for everyone, but there are so many alternatives that you can do instead of uni or as a thing to do while you are still making your mind up. For example, apprenticeships, self employment, work full/part time, etc. If the university experience is not the factor that is putting you off and it is your mental health conditions, then you should seek medical/psychological help.
You also asked 'does anyone really truly want to go to uni or do they just get on with it because they know it’ll help them in the future?' most people I know including myself go/will go to uni because of the career path we chose and because we enjoyed college. so if you are unsure of what career path to choose, then you should prioritise exploring what you want to be before choosing your next steps. There's this saying that my uncle once told me, 'if you want to get to a specific location (success), you can not do it without the planned route you're going to take (career path)'.
Find what you are keen on and make that your motivation or job. I am unsure how much this information will help you, but I hope you get the answers you are looking for. good luck.
IMO as a mature student, don't go for the sake of going. The uni will always be there if and when you change your mind, one way or another.
When I was a teen I just wasn't in the right place for uni and I really struggled at college too, it wasn't till my 30s I returned to education as I wanted something specific and that seemed to be half the battle.
When I was a teen I just wasn't in the right place for uni and I really struggled at college too, it wasn't till my 30s I returned to education as I wanted something specific and that seemed to be half the battle.
Original post by StriderHort
IMO as a mature student, don't go for the sake of going. The uni will always be there if and when you change your mind, one way or another.
When I was a teen I just wasn't in the right place for uni and I really struggled at college too, it wasn't till my 30s I returned to education as I wanted something specific and that seemed to be half the battle.
When I was a teen I just wasn't in the right place for uni and I really struggled at college too, it wasn't till my 30s I returned to education as I wanted something specific and that seemed to be half the battle.
I second this.
Original post by Anonymous
I finished college in 2023 and had a place to study fashion marketing in 2024. This came as a bit of a surprise to my family as no one had really expected me to go I’ve never been particularly academic and I hated every minute of college. After I finished my A levels I backpacked south wast Asia for 4 months and fell in love with it. When I got home I cancelled my place at uni as I just did not feel ready to go. I have now booked to go travelling again for a few months in 2025.
I am now on the fence about reapplying to university for September 2025 as
I didn’t save any of my application from before and will have to start again completely from scratch without the support of college I had before. I have dyslexia and adhd so things like this are really hard for me. I don’t really have a course that screams out to me and would quite like to study from home if I did reapply as I will be 21 but my local uni doesn’t offer much. I visited some friends at their uni recently and the whole time I was there I just kept thinking this isn’t for me.
But my question is does anyone really truely want to go to uni or do they just get on with it because they know it’ll help them in the future? Am I just lazy for not wanting to go?
If my bad mental health and adhd weren’t contributing factors I could see myself potentially getting on with it but they are contributing factors that I will always struggle with and I just have a gut feeling I’ll end up dropping out. But maybe I won’t maybe I’ll love it.
I just keep getting in my head that if I don’t go I won’t get a good job all I’ll be financially struggling my whole life.
Pls help a girl out im driving myself insane
I am now on the fence about reapplying to university for September 2025 as
I didn’t save any of my application from before and will have to start again completely from scratch without the support of college I had before. I have dyslexia and adhd so things like this are really hard for me. I don’t really have a course that screams out to me and would quite like to study from home if I did reapply as I will be 21 but my local uni doesn’t offer much. I visited some friends at their uni recently and the whole time I was there I just kept thinking this isn’t for me.
But my question is does anyone really truely want to go to uni or do they just get on with it because they know it’ll help them in the future? Am I just lazy for not wanting to go?
If my bad mental health and adhd weren’t contributing factors I could see myself potentially getting on with it but they are contributing factors that I will always struggle with and I just have a gut feeling I’ll end up dropping out. But maybe I won’t maybe I’ll love it.
I just keep getting in my head that if I don’t go I won’t get a good job all I’ll be financially struggling my whole life.
Pls help a girl out im driving myself insane
Hi there,
I agree that there is no point in going to university just for the sake of it if you are unsure if you actually want to go - you will always be able to go back another time if you decide in the future that you want to go and it doesn't matter if you are a mature student as lots of people are and it doesn't make a difference!
You are also not lazy for not wanting to go to uni or for being unsure if uni is for you - so many people feel like this and university is not for everyone so don't worry about this at all.
There are loads of alternatives to uni so have a look into these! There are degree apprenticeships which are a good idea and you could have a look into these as you might find this is a good option for you!
I hope some of this helps,
Lucy -SHU student ambassador.
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