Me and bf both 24 been together 4 years, living together 2 n half years. I have decided it is coming to an end as I don't want it anymore his not my forever person, our morals don't align. His changes as a person and his not as generous kind as when I met him. Its to thr point I don't see a future and have told him this and paid to end our tenency early. We have about a month and a half left of living with each other until our new places are ready.
Bf seems in denial about it all, it's obvious he doesn't accept the break up he wants to work on it and says he loves me. He is also moving to an island which would take about 3-4 hours to travel to. He wants to do long distance and make it work, I have told him no but he asked to just get along n hopes to change my mind by the time we move out.
My minds not changing, I don't want yo do long distance, the relationship hasn't been all happy to hold onto like that. Ive removed our posts of socials and ive siad no to any plans he tried to make. Now my issue is we are I the festive season... Christmas. His not close to his family don't even think his told them whats going on but think that's a bit of denial, anyways his not seeing them. Now I'm going to my mums Christmas day and I haven't invited him well bc my mum doesnt like him and I don't blame her as he did not treat me right. I also don't think I should bring a boy who I no longer plan to be with to Christmas. So that was established.
However I am going my dads on boxing day and my bf would like to come and I think I had originally said he could. My dads ok with him but knows I'm basically done. I am probably going go let him come as I will be taking ghe dog (who is mine but got the dog while with him) so he will feel very alone.. I wish he'd go to his families but then again they are not close and we moved nearer to mine.
My bf says he understands everything. Idek if to call him bf but he crs ike his with me still and we still live toegger and get along but I just know I won't want to continue. Am I okay to have him over at my dad's on boxing day without that saying something has changed? We are friendly ect but our couple intimate moments have ceased to exist. Idk if my bf soon to be ex is just holding onto some hope m trying to get some last good memories.
Is it okay to have him over boxing day? Or will that be too confusing... but we are currently still living in our tiny flat together ao the whole situation is weird... help can I get soke advice?