F-23 whose been in a rs for 6 years now my partner has just turned 24 today.
So for a bit of context: his fb timeline is always one where I would comment on, his friends family etc.... now there has always been this one family friend who comments on his every bday (i mean as she should)...
context this family friend is a female, shes married, has two sons, and is in about her 40's, I only know this because my boyfriend talks about them, and sometimes stays with them during the hols for a day or two.
Right so every birthday her comments always struck me as bizarre, i always used to mention them to my boyfriend and just how odd I'd find them but it would always lead to an argument on his birthday and me always feeling guilty for overthinking it.
a year ago she posted on his 23rd "happy birthday have the best day lots of love from us all, and one of you're favourite hugs from meeeeeeeee" now the first bit okay fair enough, but you're fave hugs from me kind of threw me off, but I let it slide, the favourite hugs comment in particular seems to have been something she had said every year, the year before she posted "fave hugs from me because ik how much you love them!" it all sounds very extra bearing in mind her comments stand out from all the other women who just wish him.
skip to this year for his 24th she commented "birthday kisses to my fave lil ****! happy birthday from the *family name*"- again the fave lil ****, threw me off as someone who is married with young sons of her own it seems a bit far fetched to call a 24 year old her fave lil ****, also a 24 year old man would be a 40 something year old's woman's favourite because???
I just want to know if this is weird and if I am right in feeling that it's weird but ive felt this way for three consecutive years now, I feel she is always doing the most for a birthday post, and for someone whose married with her own kids and is not related at all to him I find their dynamic questionable whenever I bring this up with my boyfriend he gets defensive, blames me says he always knows I'll have a problem with her, says if I say anything at all to this woman (even politely) and if I ruin the family friendship that his family would never forgive me and that I would lose him as a result?
I don't know what to do, but I just feel like as a third person seeing these comments for so many years it's just tiring of feeling like her comments are just exaggerated and too inappropriate given that hes not a 14 year old, hes 24.
I just don't know if im wrong for feeling this way?