Disrespect in years relationship on holiday

Hey guys I’m in my late 20s and my bf in late 30s he’s on a boys holiday back in his home country of South Africa, he was at the club next to him was 2 girls doing Shisha and alcohol and she was kind of twerking to the sound of the club music and her friend was encourage her and my bf took a video of it and posted it on his social media. I don’t follow him on social media as 2 years ago we had a really big argument and I unfollowed him and never thought to follow back. So that night something felt off so I went on Snapchat btw I didn’t know his snap was public because everything of his is private I don’t think ht even knows but maybe he does. And that’s where I saw the video.
I got so angry and messaged him insulting messaging as his phone wasn’t on which led me to more suspicious. I don’t believe he did anything with those women but I find it super DISREPECTFUL that he posted a women twerking in the club all the girls I spoke to agree with me. He was calm at first when he replied at 1pm ( bare in mind I saw this at 7am) saying why am I stressing myself out how those girls are not even on his table it’s a random recoding people enjoying himself he said he won’t take it down because I’m acting controlling but guys this is super embarssing and disrespectful.
I’ve been with him for 3 years and a half he never usually goes to club unless he goes back to South Africa where currently it’s a hot spot for clubbing. When his phone was off or battery died I messaged his friend who’s in London to tell him to get in contact with him
I’m going on my own holiday in a couple weeks so we going to be apart for 6 weeks. I’ve cried all day and I have the flu my entire Christmas was spoiled and he doesn’t see it as a problem. Usually he will say sorry and agree and respect my decision but it seems like being in South Africa he’s a different type of person that I like.
What do I do?

It’s understandable that you feel upset and disrespected. Take some time to calm down and reflect on why this bothers you—whether it’s about the video itself, trust issues, or how he responded. Once you’re clear on your feelings, talk to him calmly and explain how his actions made you feel without accusing or insulting him. Listen to his perspective too, and try to find a middle ground that respects both of your boundaries.
If this behavior feels out of character or part of a larger issue, it’s worth discussing whether your values and expectations align. Ultimately, focus on what you need to feel respected and secure in the relationship, and decide if this is something you’re able to move past. Take care of yourself in the meantime, don’t let it ruin your peace.