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Need some advice

Hi
So recently my bf let me know that one of his closest friends said that if he was ever going to cheat on me that they can count on him to never tell me. Idk how I feel about all of this. My first reaction was getting a sad cause I had a nice image of this guy but now I feel bad. Idk I guess I’ve had some trust issues with try bf not so much as cheating but more that he lied to me about something for a year that I wouldn’t have kept away from him if I were in his shoes because that got us very distant because I knew something was up but he would say it’s nothing.i admit in that period I suspected him of cheating but it wasn’t that. I honestly feel weird rn because he knows I haven’t been at my best with my confidence lately and he just sprung this on me.

Has anyone been through anything like this. What have you done?

Reply 1

Zarek

Well it doesn’t mean he’s going to cheat. Although it is a stirring it sort of thing to say. How to react depends on his motive. You could tell him to cut it out, if he cares for you. Alternatively you could consider preemptive dumping

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

Hi
So recently my bf let me know that one of his closest friends said that if he was ever going to cheat on me that they can count on him to never tell me. Idk how I feel about all of this. My first reaction was getting a sad cause I had a nice image of this guy but now I feel bad. Idk I guess I’ve had some trust issues with try bf not so much as cheating but more that he lied to me about something for a year that I wouldn’t have kept away from him if I were in his shoes because that got us very distant because I knew something was up but he would say it’s nothing.i admit in that period I suspected him of cheating but it wasn’t that. I honestly feel weird rn because he knows I haven’t been at my best with my confidence lately and he just sprung this on me.
Has anyone been through anything like this. What have you done?

Why would the possibility of him cheating even be a convo, u are who u surround yourself with i believe, if his friends are bad then he might be a bad person too but obv thats generalising idk the full story

Reply 3

Dj_quickshot

Original post by Anonymous

Hi
So recently my bf let me know that one of his closest friends said that if he was ever going to cheat on me that they can count on him to never tell me. Idk how I feel about all of this. My first reaction was getting a sad cause I had a nice image of this guy but now I feel bad. Idk I guess I’ve had some trust issues with try bf not so much as cheating but more that he lied to me about something for a year that I wouldn’t have kept away from him if I were in his shoes because that got us very distant because I knew something was up but he would say it’s nothing.i admit in that period I suspected him of cheating but it wasn’t that. I honestly feel weird rn because he knows I haven’t been at my best with my confidence lately and he just sprung this on me.
Has anyone been through anything like this. What have you done?

Hi OP, sounds to me like your boyfriend actually did the right thing, and, when this was said to him, he brought it up to you. I'd say that's already a lot better than a lot of other people (both guys and girls) out there. I'd say you keep him around, because just the fact that your bf was willing to go behind his friend's back just to tell you the truth is a very honourable and loving thing to do for you. Sounds to me like the only issue is that your boyfriend needs to find some friends that have more faith in his relationship skills.