Do women care if a guy is a virgin?

I’m in my mid-20s and a kissless virgin. I have social anxiety which has significantly impacted my ability to meet people and talk to them. There are some associated things with that such as me being very sensitive and not having any social skills. I’m one of the shyest people you’d meet. I’m feeling quite insecure over this, especially when I hear people talking about their latest hook up or whatever. I feel like I can’t relate to people as much, which is bad in itself for getting rid of my social anxiety. I’m also very short for a guy and don’t have a masculine personality, although apparently I have an attractive face. I’m worried that being a virgin is another thing counting against me.

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Anonymous #2

Hey there,

First of all, it’s brave of you to open up about how you’re feeling—that’s a huge step, and you deserve credit for it. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and a lot of people struggle with similar insecurities, even if they don’t openly talk about it.

The truth is, being a virgin or having limited experience isn’t a dealbreaker for most people, and it doesn’t define your worth or desirability. What really matters in relationships—whether romantic or platonic—is connection, kindness, and authenticity. People are drawn to confidence and sincerity, not a checklist of life experiences.

Social anxiety can make things feel harder, but it’s not insurmountable. Start by focusing on small, manageable goals—like having a brief conversation with someone new or joining a group activity around something you enjoy. Over time, these small steps will build your confidence and help you feel more comfortable around others.

As for height or being “masculine,” those traits don’t determine your value either. Some of the most attractive and charismatic people are those who embrace who they are fully. If someone is worth your time, they’ll care about your personality and how you make them feel, not superficial things like height.

Lastly, remember that relationships aren’t a race. Everyone moves at their own pace, and there’s no deadline for these milestones. Focus on building yourself up, finding things you enjoy, and being the best version of yourself—not for others, but for you. When you’re comfortable in your own skin, it shows, and people will naturally gravitate toward that energy.

You’re already on the right path by being reflective and self-aware. Keep going, and don’t hesitate to reach out for support when you need it. You’ve got this.

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Anonymous #3

Female in late 20s here. All my sexual contact has been with men more experienced than me (not intentionally, just. happened that way). I wouldn't care about a guy being a virgin or otherwise - all I care about is him not being selfish sexually and being willing to ensure I also have a good time by listening to me and being willing to experiment. Hight would also not be a massive problem - I'll be honest, I probably wouldn't date someone with dwarfism but as long as you a similar height to me or taller, I couldn't care less about your height.