My ex shows up in contacts for friends to follow for Duolingo, dunno know why?
So, I’ve tried searching this up, but won’t get a definite answer.
Just a little backstory:
Me and my ex broke up August 2023. It was a rough breakup, over text because they were in a different country at the time and I had my own family issues going on, so we couldn’t meet. I broke up with them and gave them space, then a week later came back asked if it was okay to still be friends (it was dumb ik that now) and they got really mad at me.
They left me on read, removed me from their Insta. I moved away so we didnt see each other anymore anyways. I don’t have any contact with them, I don’t have their phone number (because if i did, i probably would have contacted them already) and i dont have their email, but when I go onto Duolingo and click onto friends to follow and choose from contacts, they appear. I don’t know why, is it possible for people to show up if they have your contact number saved?
I still love them, but they’re with someone else, they moved on pretty quickly. Like within two months. So I don’t understand why they would keep my contact, especially when they’ve claimed they hated me and changed our playlist name to “I hate single mothers” (it was an inside joke that we had kids together). And just to add, this duolingo accounts email is not an email they would have saved, so its defo the number.
Is it them still having my phone number saved or is just me being delusional? Any input would be great!
Just a little backstory:
Me and my ex broke up August 2023. It was a rough breakup, over text because they were in a different country at the time and I had my own family issues going on, so we couldn’t meet. I broke up with them and gave them space, then a week later came back asked if it was okay to still be friends (it was dumb ik that now) and they got really mad at me.
They left me on read, removed me from their Insta. I moved away so we didnt see each other anymore anyways. I don’t have any contact with them, I don’t have their phone number (because if i did, i probably would have contacted them already) and i dont have their email, but when I go onto Duolingo and click onto friends to follow and choose from contacts, they appear. I don’t know why, is it possible for people to show up if they have your contact number saved?
I still love them, but they’re with someone else, they moved on pretty quickly. Like within two months. So I don’t understand why they would keep my contact, especially when they’ve claimed they hated me and changed our playlist name to “I hate single mothers” (it was an inside joke that we had kids together). And just to add, this duolingo accounts email is not an email they would have saved, so its defo the number.
Is it them still having my phone number saved or is just me being delusional? Any input would be great!
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by AnonymousSo, I’ve tried searching this up, but won’t get a definite answer.
Just a little backstory:
Me and my ex broke up August 2023. It was a rough breakup, over text because they were in a different country at the time and I had my own family issues going on, so we couldn’t meet. I broke up with them and gave them space, then a week later came back asked if it was okay to still be friends (it was dumb ik that now) and they got really mad at me.
They left me on read, removed me from their Insta. I moved away so we didnt see each other anymore anyways. I don’t have any contact with them, I don’t have their phone number (because if i did, i probably would have contacted them already) and i dont have their email, but when I go onto Duolingo and click onto friends to follow and choose from contacts, they appear. I don’t know why, is it possible for people to show up if they have your contact number saved?
I still love them, but they’re with someone else, they moved on pretty quickly. Like within two months. So I don’t understand why they would keep my contact, especially when they’ve claimed they hated me and changed our playlist name to “I hate single mothers” (it was an inside joke that we had kids together). And just to add, this duolingo accounts email is not an email they would have saved, so its defo the number.
Is it them still having my phone number saved or is just me being delusional? Any input would be great!
Just a little backstory:
Me and my ex broke up August 2023. It was a rough breakup, over text because they were in a different country at the time and I had my own family issues going on, so we couldn’t meet. I broke up with them and gave them space, then a week later came back asked if it was okay to still be friends (it was dumb ik that now) and they got really mad at me.
They left me on read, removed me from their Insta. I moved away so we didnt see each other anymore anyways. I don’t have any contact with them, I don’t have their phone number (because if i did, i probably would have contacted them already) and i dont have their email, but when I go onto Duolingo and click onto friends to follow and choose from contacts, they appear. I don’t know why, is it possible for people to show up if they have your contact number saved?
I still love them, but they’re with someone else, they moved on pretty quickly. Like within two months. So I don’t understand why they would keep my contact, especially when they’ve claimed they hated me and changed our playlist name to “I hate single mothers” (it was an inside joke that we had kids together). And just to add, this duolingo accounts email is not an email they would have saved, so its defo the number.
Is it them still having my phone number saved or is just me being delusional? Any input would be great!
I don't know why they would still come up, but I think it's more than likely that they still have your contact saved.
Are you sure that they "hate you"? Usually, when people move on super fast, it's either because the relationship went dry and they were bored of it, so it didn't have any emotional impact on them, or they are trying to forget the way they feel about their ex.
If he's trying to make all this effort to "show" that he "hates" you, maybe he really doesn't? Maybe he's convinced that you've moved on and don't want anything else to do with him, so he's trying to remove all traces of you from his life, but he can't move on from you. It seems like he's trying to convince you (and himself!) that he doesn't love you anymore, when maybe he still does?
I'd friend him on DuoLingo and see what happens. Maybe reach out and keep things casual. You say you still love him, so why not make an effort to rekindle what you had? Maybe he wants it back too? Of course, he's in a new relationship now so be tactful, I may be completely wrong also, but it's always worth a try. If you aren't ready to let him go and signs like this are presenting themselves to you, maybe it's the universe's way of telling you that what you two had was something truly real.
Give it a shot, what is there to lose? Hope this helps xx
Reply 2
I’m pretty sure they hate me, or just dislike me a lot. I didn’t mean to stalk but two months after we split, I went onto their Instagram and looked at their highlights and they blocked me, so they clearly don’t want me to contact them. And the last time we messaged, they left me on read and the last thing they said to me was that I’m crazy.
If I had to think of a reason why they would move on so fast, it would probably be because I don’t think they ever were harbouring any feelings for me. (Maybe until the very end when we were breaking up, but it was too late at that point). Our relationship wasn’t perfect like all relationships, (it was amazing, but communication was terrible - we only really started communicating right before we broke up). My point is I didn’t think they even liked me, it sounds stupid, but we were best friends before we broke up and had to see each other everyday at school. So I sort of thought they only said yes to keep things civil and “normal” between the two of us.
I might try and find out why they’ve still got my number saved, if I can and perhaps see if they do want to start talking again! Thank you for this though!!
If I had to think of a reason why they would move on so fast, it would probably be because I don’t think they ever were harbouring any feelings for me. (Maybe until the very end when we were breaking up, but it was too late at that point). Our relationship wasn’t perfect like all relationships, (it was amazing, but communication was terrible - we only really started communicating right before we broke up). My point is I didn’t think they even liked me, it sounds stupid, but we were best friends before we broke up and had to see each other everyday at school. So I sort of thought they only said yes to keep things civil and “normal” between the two of us.
I might try and find out why they’ve still got my number saved, if I can and perhaps see if they do want to start talking again! Thank you for this though!!
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by LaLaLa100I don't know why they would still come up, but I think it's more than likely that they still have your contact saved.
Are you sure that they "hate you"? Usually, when people move on super fast, it's either because the relationship went dry and they were bored of it, so it didn't have any emotional impact on them, or they are trying to forget the way they feel about their ex.
If he's trying to make all this effort to "show" that he "hates" you, maybe he really doesn't? Maybe he's convinced that you've moved on and don't want anything else to do with him, so he's trying to remove all traces of you from his life, but he can't move on from you. It seems like he's trying to convince you (and himself!) that he doesn't love you anymore, when maybe he still does?
I'd friend him on DuoLingo and see what happens. Maybe reach out and keep things casual. You say you still love him, so why not make an effort to rekindle what you had? Maybe he wants it back too? Of course, he's in a new relationship now so be tactful, I may be completely wrong also, but it's always worth a try. If you aren't ready to let him go and signs like this are presenting themselves to you, maybe it's the universe's way of telling you that what you two had was something truly real.
Give it a shot, what is there to lose? Hope this helps xx
Are you sure that they "hate you"? Usually, when people move on super fast, it's either because the relationship went dry and they were bored of it, so it didn't have any emotional impact on them, or they are trying to forget the way they feel about their ex.
If he's trying to make all this effort to "show" that he "hates" you, maybe he really doesn't? Maybe he's convinced that you've moved on and don't want anything else to do with him, so he's trying to remove all traces of you from his life, but he can't move on from you. It seems like he's trying to convince you (and himself!) that he doesn't love you anymore, when maybe he still does?
I'd friend him on DuoLingo and see what happens. Maybe reach out and keep things casual. You say you still love him, so why not make an effort to rekindle what you had? Maybe he wants it back too? Of course, he's in a new relationship now so be tactful, I may be completely wrong also, but it's always worth a try. If you aren't ready to let him go and signs like this are presenting themselves to you, maybe it's the universe's way of telling you that what you two had was something truly real.
Give it a shot, what is there to lose? Hope this helps xx
"Why not make an effort to rekindle what you had!"
"It's always worth a try"
"Give it a shot, what is there to lose?"
You seem pretty adamant that the OP should try and break up their exs relationship without them giving any signs or 1 word about why they split up or if anything has changed.
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by AnonymousSo, I’ve tried searching this up, but won’t get a definite answer.
Just a little backstory:
Me and my ex broke up August 2023. It was a rough breakup, over text because they were in a different country at the time and I had my own family issues going on, so we couldn’t meet. I broke up with them and gave them space, then a week later came back asked if it was okay to still be friends (it was dumb ik that now) and they got really mad at me.
They left me on read, removed me from their Insta. I moved away so we didnt see each other anymore anyways. I don’t have any contact with them, I don’t have their phone number (because if i did, i probably would have contacted them already) and i dont have their email, but when I go onto Duolingo and click onto friends to follow and choose from contacts, they appear. I don’t know why, is it possible for people to show up if they have your contact number saved?
I still love them, but they’re with someone else, they moved on pretty quickly. Like within two months. So I don’t understand why they would keep my contact, especially when they’ve claimed they hated me and changed our playlist name to “I hate single mothers” (it was an inside joke that we had kids together). And just to add, this duolingo accounts email is not an email they would have saved, so its defo the number.
Is it them still having my phone number saved or is just me being delusional? Any input would be great!
Just a little backstory:
Me and my ex broke up August 2023. It was a rough breakup, over text because they were in a different country at the time and I had my own family issues going on, so we couldn’t meet. I broke up with them and gave them space, then a week later came back asked if it was okay to still be friends (it was dumb ik that now) and they got really mad at me.
They left me on read, removed me from their Insta. I moved away so we didnt see each other anymore anyways. I don’t have any contact with them, I don’t have their phone number (because if i did, i probably would have contacted them already) and i dont have their email, but when I go onto Duolingo and click onto friends to follow and choose from contacts, they appear. I don’t know why, is it possible for people to show up if they have your contact number saved?
I still love them, but they’re with someone else, they moved on pretty quickly. Like within two months. So I don’t understand why they would keep my contact, especially when they’ve claimed they hated me and changed our playlist name to “I hate single mothers” (it was an inside joke that we had kids together). And just to add, this duolingo accounts email is not an email they would have saved, so its defo the number.
Is it them still having my phone number saved or is just me being delusional? Any input would be great!
it might be bc they saved the number.
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by StriderHort"Why not make an effort to rekindle what you had!"
"It's always worth a try"
"Give it a shot, what is there to lose?"
You seem pretty adamant that the OP should try and break up their exs relationship without them giving any signs or 1 word about why they split up or if anything has changed.
"It's always worth a try"
"Give it a shot, what is there to lose?"
You seem pretty adamant that the OP should try and break up their exs relationship without them giving any signs or 1 word about why they split up or if anything has changed.
yeah. i mean. they said that their ex is in another relationship so it would be a bit harsh to try and break the ex's current relationship. at least wait until they might breakup.
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by StriderHort"Why not make an effort to rekindle what you had!"
"It's always worth a try"
"Give it a shot, what is there to lose?"
You seem pretty adamant that the OP should try and break up their exs relationship without them giving any signs or 1 word about why they split up or if anything has changed.
"It's always worth a try"
"Give it a shot, what is there to lose?"
You seem pretty adamant that the OP should try and break up their exs relationship without them giving any signs or 1 word about why they split up or if anything has changed.
I made it clear that they shouldn't go and just break up their ex's new relationship but try and figure out why he's angry with her, or if he is at all.
It was never my intention to imply this at all.
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by StriderHort"Why not make an effort to rekindle what you had!"
"It's always worth a try"
"Give it a shot, what is there to lose?"
You seem pretty adamant that the OP should try and break up their exs relationship without them giving any signs or 1 word about why they split up or if anything has changed.
"It's always worth a try"
"Give it a shot, what is there to lose?"
You seem pretty adamant that the OP should try and break up their exs relationship without them giving any signs or 1 word about why they split up or if anything has changed.
I don’t want to break them up and neither am I interested in getting back together with them or really befriending them!! It’s more of a question as to why they’re appearing and why they have my number saved if they have made it pretty clear they don’t like me.
The break up was all me, they didn’t seem too adamant in breaking up. I won’t go into too much detail, but it was mainly due because of some family issues I had going on and I needed to focus on them, so I put my family first before my ex, and therefore I wouldn’t be able to spend much time with them in the summer. It was a hasty decision; I decided that night I did it impulsively, but anyways it was entirely my choice and they didn’t really try to sway my thoughts.
Nothing’s really changed. They’ve made it clear they don’t want to contact me, so why keep my number? (I was going to ask one of my friends to try and ask them, but they don’t really speak to my ex so..)
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by Kerry💗♾it might be bc they saved the number.
Perhaps! I find it slightly hard to believe they would have my number saved tho..
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by AnonymousSo, I’ve tried searching this up, but won’t get a definite answer.
Just a little backstory:
Me and my ex broke up August 2023. It was a rough breakup, over text because they were in a different country at the time and I had my own family issues going on, so we couldn’t meet. I broke up with them and gave them space, then a week later came back asked if it was okay to still be friends (it was dumb ik that now) and they got really mad at me.
They left me on read, removed me from their Insta. I moved away so we didnt see each other anymore anyways. I don’t have any contact with them, I don’t have their phone number (because if i did, i probably would have contacted them already) and i dont have their email, but when I go onto Duolingo and click onto friends to follow and choose from contacts, they appear. I don’t know why, is it possible for people to show up if they have your contact number saved?
I still love them, but they’re with someone else, they moved on pretty quickly. Like within two months. So I don’t understand why they would keep my contact, especially when they’ve claimed they hated me and changed our playlist name to “I hate single mothers” (it was an inside joke that we had kids together). And just to add, this duolingo accounts email is not an email they would have saved, so its defo the number.
Is it them still having my phone number saved or is just me being delusional? Any input would be great!
Just a little backstory:
Me and my ex broke up August 2023. It was a rough breakup, over text because they were in a different country at the time and I had my own family issues going on, so we couldn’t meet. I broke up with them and gave them space, then a week later came back asked if it was okay to still be friends (it was dumb ik that now) and they got really mad at me.
They left me on read, removed me from their Insta. I moved away so we didnt see each other anymore anyways. I don’t have any contact with them, I don’t have their phone number (because if i did, i probably would have contacted them already) and i dont have their email, but when I go onto Duolingo and click onto friends to follow and choose from contacts, they appear. I don’t know why, is it possible for people to show up if they have your contact number saved?
I still love them, but they’re with someone else, they moved on pretty quickly. Like within two months. So I don’t understand why they would keep my contact, especially when they’ve claimed they hated me and changed our playlist name to “I hate single mothers” (it was an inside joke that we had kids together). And just to add, this duolingo accounts email is not an email they would have saved, so its defo the number.
Is it them still having my phone number saved or is just me being delusional? Any input would be great!
yeah, the number must've been saved. or did you two email at any point? duo manages to always recommend people i've emailed.
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I don't bother deleting numbers on my phone. I have numbers of people I don't want to contact ever again.
In addition, I don't think they hate you. They still wanted to be friends, things just got too complicated and probably both of you didn't find the way to solve it so it was better to cut ties. It doesn't mean they hate you.
In addition, I don't think they hate you. They still wanted to be friends, things just got too complicated and probably both of you didn't find the way to solve it so it was better to cut ties. It doesn't mean they hate you.
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by elareareyeah, the number must've been saved. or did you two email at any point? duo manages to always recommend people i've emailed.
I thought it was the email, because I sent them an email back in 2021 (i think) during class. But that was on my personal email, the email that is saved on Duolingo is not an email they would even know about…
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by AnonymousI thought it was the email, because I sent them an email back in 2021 (i think) during class. But that was on my personal email, the email that is saved on Duolingo is not an email they would even know about…
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duolingo's contacts are weird. i have recommendations for a guy i have only talked to on insta, recs for a woman my mother is on a GC with on whatsapp... it's probably not anything weird, don't worry too much
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by Kathy89I don't bother deleting numbers on my phone. I have numbers of people I don't want to contact ever again.
In addition, I don't think they hate you. They still wanted to be friends, things just got too complicated and probably both of you didn't find the way to solve it so it was better to cut ties. It doesn't mean they hate you.
In addition, I don't think they hate you. They still wanted to be friends, things just got too complicated and probably both of you didn't find the way to solve it so it was better to cut ties. It doesn't mean they hate you.
It is possible that they just didn’t get rid of my number, but I remember during our time as friends, sometimes my number wasn’t saved. They only really kept you saved in their contacts if you were really close, (or as a joke, like saving a plumber’s number).
Yeah, I didn’t think they hated me, but when they had a go at me for wanting to be friends again, it seemed like they didn’t like me very much either. And I don’t really know whether they wanted to be friends because when I offered, they were hellbent on reinforcing the fact that I was only doing this because I was regretting my decision and never actually gave me a proper response. It only seemed like they were dragging the conversation, saying things like “what did you think I was going to say?” rather than telling me yes or no. Then they blocked me on Insta, stated they “hated single mothers” aka me and the last words they said to me were “you’re crazy.” So, maybe they didn’t hate me, but I’m pretty sure they didn’t like me.
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by elareare🤷*♀️
duolingo's contacts are weird. i have recommendations for a guy i have only talked to on insta, recs for a woman my mother is on a GC with on whatsapp... it's probably not anything weird, don't worry too much
duolingo's contacts are weird. i have recommendations for a guy i have only talked to on insta, recs for a woman my mother is on a GC with on whatsapp... it's probably not anything weird, don't worry too much
Isn’t that a tad bit concerning.. 😭
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by AnonymousIsn’t that a tad bit concerning.. 😭
o yea for sure. but ngl all tech is spyware at this point so i js gave up, aint got nothing the govts are interested in so
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by elareareo yea for sure. but ngl all tech is spyware at this point so i js gave up, aint got nothing the govts are interested in so
i sound like i wear tin foil hats in this post. i don't, promise
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by AnonymousPerhaps! I find it slightly hard to believe they would have my number saved tho..
sometimes people forget to delete saved numbers. i have girls numbers saved even tho i cant stand them and they hate me! or they might still have your number in case they feel bad over the fact that ur not together anymore and want to talk it over or just talk. 🙂
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by Kerry💗♾sometimes people forget to delete saved numbers. i have girls numbers saved even tho i cant stand them and they hate me! or they might still have your number in case they feel bad over the fact that ur not together anymore and want to talk it over or just talk. 🙂
I suppose, but the last time we spoke was early August 2023. It’s been more than an year now, surely if they were feeling guilty they would have contacted?
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They still have your number but it means nothing OP, they probably just blocked you instead of deleted and have not done a purge.
You should move on.
You should move on.
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