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How would Oxbridge feel about this?

What if someone was rejected from Oxbridge but then reapplied and got an offer. However, they then purposefully rejected that offer to get revenge on Oxbridge for rejecting them in the first place.

How would Oxbridge cope? Would they be humiliated or not care?

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Original post by m_040106
What if someone was rejected from Oxbridge but then reapplied and got an offer. However, they then purposefully rejected that offer to get revenge on Oxbridge for rejecting them in the first place.
How would Oxbridge cope? Would they be humiliated or not care?

Its reasonably common for people with offers turn them down. Theyd hardly notice.
Original post by m_040106
What if someone was rejected from Oxbridge but then reapplied and got an offer. However, they then purposefully rejected that offer to get revenge on Oxbridge for rejecting them in the first place.

How would Oxbridge cope? Would they be humiliated or not care?

As above it would not register. There are lots of reasons people turn down an offer, so they'd probably assume it was just one of those many benign ones, if they even really made note of it to begin with.

More to the point though, this is probably not a very healthy mindset to have. Because realistically it probably suggests this person has taken it quite personally that they were rejected and feel that it somehow reflects upon their value as a person - when it doesn't. Plenty of very bright and capable students are rejected by Oxbridge - and not even purely due to the "numbers" i.e. lots of qualified applicants, but part of the point of the admissions process is to see how "teachable" you are in the Oxbridge tutorial/supervision format.

They want to make sure students they admit will thrive in that environment and by all accounts that very highly pressured environment of one to three on one format, having your work closely examined while having to churn out high quality work at high frequency - that's not for everyone. Some students do a lot better in a big lecture theatre where they aren't being put on the spot, and have time to take in the information and then craft considered pieces of coursework over a longer period. So it's entirely possible that a reflection could just reflect they could see that system would not be the best way for that person to learn.

I think such an individual would probably need to try and accept that yes, they were rejected, but that this rejection (or indeed going to Oxbridge at all) doesn't define their ability or worth and they can still achieve everything they want at another university, and that the other university may in fact be a better environment for them and their wellbeing (and not just think this as a sour grapes retort).
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Original post by m_040106
What if someone was rejected from Oxbridge but then reapplied and got an offer. However, they then purposefully rejected that offer to get revenge on Oxbridge for rejecting them in the first place.
How would Oxbridge cope? Would they be humiliated or not care?

This can't be a serious question
Original post by m_040106
What if someone was rejected from Oxbridge but then reapplied and got an offer. However, they then purposefully rejected that offer to get revenge on Oxbridge for rejecting them in the first place.
How would Oxbridge cope? Would they be humiliated or not care?
Which course would you turn down? 😧
Original post by artful_lounger
As above it would not register. There are lots of reasons people turn down an offer, so they'd probably assume it was just one of those many benign ones, if they even really made note of it to begin with.
More to the point though, this is probably not a very healthy mindset to have. Because realistically it probably suggests this person has taken it quite personally that you were rejected and feel that it somehow reflects upon your value as a person - when it doesn't. Plenty of very bright and capable students are rejected by Oxbridge - and not even purely due to the "numbers" i.e. lots of qualified applicants, but part of the point of the admissions process is to see how "teachable" you are in the Oxbridge tutorial/supervision format.
They want to make sure students they admit will thrive in that environment and by all accounts that very highly pressured environment of one to three on one format, having your work closely examined while having to churn out high quality work at high frequency - that's not for everyone. Some students do a lot better in a big lecture theatre where they aren't being put on the spot, and have time to take in the information and then craft considered pieces of coursework over a longer period. So it's entirely possible that a reflection could just reflect they could see that system would not be the best way for that person to learn.
I think such an individual would probably need to try and accept that yes, they were rejected, but that this rejection (or indeed going to Oxbridge at all) doesn't define their ability or worth and they can still achieve everything they want at another university, and that the other university may in fact be a better environment for them and their wellbeing (and not just think this as a sour grapes retort).

What would you say are the main qualities that Oxford is looking for in a candidate (specifically)?
Original post by Anonymous
What would you say are the main qualities that Oxford is looking for in a candidate (specifically)?

I'm not an admissions tutor so I can only say on the basis of what I've seen on TSR and they themselves publish information and data on, but I don't think it's really that obscure and I think it's basically exactly what they say on their webpages - people who meet the academic requirements who are also intellectually curious about their subject(s) and exploring their area of study further, who think about what they've studied and try to extrapolate from that to apply their knowledge to unfamiliar questions, situations, and problems, and explain their lines of thinking and reasoning when approaching a problem. Which are all qualities that help people achieve good grades in the first place but I think some also stop short of that by overly fixating on applying knowledge narrowly to a rigid set of exam rubrics to maximise marks in their exams and don't always think about things beyond that as much.
Original post by artful_lounger
As above it would not register. There are lots of reasons people turn down an offer, so they'd probably assume it was just one of those many benign ones, if they even really made note of it to begin with.
More to the point though, this is probably not a very healthy mindset to have. Because realistically it probably suggests this person has taken it quite personally that you were rejected and feel that it somehow reflects upon your value as a person - when it doesn't. Plenty of very bright and capable students are rejected by Oxbridge - and not even purely due to the "numbers" i.e. lots of qualified applicants, but part of the point of the admissions process is to see how "teachable" you are in the Oxbridge tutorial/supervision format.
They want to make sure students they admit will thrive in that environment and by all accounts that very highly pressured environment of one to three on one format, having your work closely examined while having to churn out high quality work at high frequency - that's not for everyone. Some students do a lot better in a big lecture theatre where they aren't being put on the spot, and have time to take in the information and then craft considered pieces of coursework over a longer period. So it's entirely possible that a reflection could just reflect they could see that system would not be the best way for that person to learn.
I think such an individual would probably need to try and accept that yes, they were rejected, but that this rejection (or indeed going to Oxbridge at all) doesn't define their ability or worth and they can still achieve everything they want at another university, and that the other university may in fact be a better environment for them and their wellbeing (and not just think this as a sour grapes retort).

PRSOM
Original post by m_040106
What if someone was rejected from Oxbridge but then reapplied and got an offer. However, they then purposefully rejected that offer to get revenge on Oxbridge for rejecting them in the first place.
How would Oxbridge cope? Would they be humiliated or not care?

A bit too much of the Christmas sherry, perhaps. What are you expecting? Vice Chancellors weeping in the streets? Tutorial Fellows rending their garments? Thousands of students inconsolable beause they won't meet you while trying to get a seat in the Radcam or a drink at some dodgy party in Balliol? As noted above, nobody would pay a blind bit of notice to your toddler tantrum.
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Original post by m_040106
What if someone was rejected from Oxbridge but then reapplied and got an offer. However, they then purposefully rejected that offer to get revenge on Oxbridge for rejecting them in the first place.
How would Oxbridge cope? Would they be humiliated or not care?

Would you instead accept a scholarship from one of Harvard, Yale, Princeton, Stanford, MIT, Caltech, Pennsylvania, Dartmouth, Brown, Columbia, Cornell, Bowdoin, Notre Dame, Amherst, Washington & Lee University? 😧
Original post by Stiffy Byng
A bit too much of the Christmas sherry, perhaps. What are you expecting? Vice Chancellors weeping in the streets? Tutorial Fellows rending their garments? Thousands of students inconsolable beause they won't meet you while trying to get a seat in the Radcam or a drink at some dodgy party in Balliol? As noted above, nobody would pay a blind bit of notice to your toddler tantrum.
I tried Grey Goose Vodka many years ago and became dizzy and lost complete control of my motions and then puked up after the second glass. So, my body does not like alcoholic beverages only Coke, Pepsi, Redbull, Dr Pepper, Tropicana juice and Tango. 🙂 lol
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Original post by thegeek888
Would you instead accept a scholarship from one of Harvard, Yale, Princeton, Stanford, MIT, Caltech, Pennsylvania, Dartmouth, Brown, Columbia, Cornell, Bowdoin, Notre Dame, Amherst, Washington & Lee University? 😧


Who cares? It's mildly entertaining but mostly a bit sad that you live vicariously through others, and appear to get excited in a quasi-Pavlovian manner by typing the names of American universities. How the notion of someone who flips a hypothetical and un-noticed bird at Oxford hypothetically going to some other place which owns an Ivy plant might bear on your endless quest not to apply to Oxford isn't immediately obvious, but you do you!
Original post by thegeek888
I tried Grey Goose Vodka many years ago and became dizzy and lost complete control of my motions and then puked up after the second glass. So, my body does not like alcoholic beverages only Coke, Pepsi, Redbull, Dr Pepper, Tropicana juice and Tango. 🙂 lol


Reading one of your posts is not unlike getting Tangoed, so there is that.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NJbhfBAvccY

The thing about alcohol is to drink it slowly, and in moderate quantities, if you drink it at all. I have been off the vodka since a regrettable incident at New College, Oxford, in late 1981, but that doesn't stop me getting on the other stuff in moderation. Yesterday was 1 January, so, as they say in Moscow "I'm not drinking today. I'll have a beer".

Sweet fizzy drinks are not especially healthy alternatives to booze. Anyway, doesn't your imaginary sky friend say in one of his books that you're supposed to lay off the booze? If he finds out that you've been on the sauce, he may be grumpy with you, and that would never do.
Original post by Stiffy Byng
Reading one of your posts is not unlike getting Tangoed, so there is that.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NJbhfBAvccY
The thing about alcohol is to drink it slowly, and in moderate quantities, if you drink it at all. I have been off the vodka since a regrettable incident at New College, Oxford, in late 1981, but that doesn't stop me getting on the other stuff in moderation. Yesterday was 1 January, so, as they say in Moscow "I'm not drinking today. I'll have a beer".
Sweet fizzy drinks are not especially healthy alternatives to booze. Anyway, doesn't your imaginary sky friend say in one of his books that you're supposed to lay off the booze? If he finds out that you've been on the sauce, he may be grumpy with you, and that would never do.
Wow...Vodka is too strong I personally think. But I have had a Ginger Beer!!! 😀 lol

Alcohol was banned by Allah God as you can't pray 5 times a day whilst intoxicated and the harm is greater than the good it has in it. 😉
Original post by Stiffy Byng
Who cares? It's mildly entertaining but mostly a bit sad that you live vicariously through others, and appear to get excited in a quasi-Pavlovian manner by typing the names of American universities. How the notion of someone who flips a hypothetical and un-noticed bird at Oxford hypothetically going to some other place which owns an Ivy plant might bear on your endless quest not to apply to Oxford isn't immediately obvious, but you do you!
I have chosen Maths, Further Maths, Spanish and French as my 4 A-Levels and will achieve 3A*1A maybe all 4A*'s if the French literature paper goes well as La Haine and No Et Moi are very open to being asked almost anything?! 😧 So, I should be good enough for Oxford University!!! 😉 lol Since, I have been following YouTube videos of interviews religiously lately. 😀
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Original post by thegeek888
I have chosen Maths, Further Maths, Spanish and French as my 4 A-Levels and will achieve 3A*1A maybe all 4A*'s if the French literature paper goes well as La Haine and No Et Moi are very open to being asked almost anything?! 😧 So, I should be good enough for Oxford University!!! 😉 lol Since, I have been following YouTube videos of interviews religiously lately. 😀

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=orNpRKOfjzY
I love the tune!!! Because it makes me think of dancing with Latinas on the beach somewhere in South America!!! 😀 lol

More importantly, I wonder if you studied La Haine and No Et Moi or your daughter for French?
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PS: Only five times a day? Pfffttt! A hardcore Irish Catholic can pray a Novena to St Jude nine times a day whilst drunk. You might like St Jude. He's the Patron Saint of hopeless causes.

Old Jesuit joke -

A Franciscan Friar and a Jesuit Priest are walking through the slums of a poor city in a poor country. A poor man comes up to them and says "Brother, Father, please pray a Novena for me so that I can win the lottery, buy a Mercedes Benz, and become a taxi driver to feed my hungry family."

The Franciscan turns to the Jesuit and says: "Father, what is a Mercedes Benz?"

The Jesuit turns to the Franciscan and says: "Brother, what is a Novena?"
Original post by thegeek888
I love the tune!!! Because it makes me think of dancing with Latinas on the beach somewhere in South America!!! 😀 lol
More importantly, I wonder if you studied La Haine and No Et Moi or your daughter for French?


Try Les Liaisons Dangereuses, and Madame Bovary. Much more racy and fun. If you really wish to get modern France, watch the film Trilogy Trois Couleurs: Bleu, Blanc, Rouge, the TV show Engrenages, and read Theodore Zeldin.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GkL2e0OnUXY

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_wLCGZaalzc
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