No close friends at uni

I’ve tried everything from making Tik toks speaking to people online before uni having group chats with all my coursemates joining societies being a student rep and I still see everyone has a clique but me and I feel so lonely and isolated I’m also the only black girl in my course and sometimes I feel othered by everyone else as they can’t relate to certain cultural thing's I’ll talk about once in a blue moon

Original post by Anonymous

I’ve tried everything from making Tik toks speaking to people online before uni having group chats with all my coursemates joining societies being a student rep and I still see everyone has a clique but me and I feel so lonely and isolated I’m also the only black girl in my course and sometimes I feel othered by everyone else as they can’t relate to certain cultural thing's I’ll talk about once in a blue moon

What societies did you enjoy and are you genuinely interested in them? I think the best thing you can do is do things that you enjoy and not do anything just to try and please other people. For example I have found some amazing friends through a first aid society because it is something that I am genuinely interested in.

Original post by Anonymous

I’ve tried everything from making Tik toks speaking to people online before uni having group chats with all my coursemates joining societies being a student rep and I still see everyone has a clique but me and I feel so lonely and isolated I’m also the only black girl in my course and sometimes I feel othered by everyone else as they can’t relate to certain cultural thing's I’ll talk about once in a blue moon

Hi

Making friends at university can be really difficult, this is because there are so many people so can it be very easy to get lost in the crowd and not able to find people who are most similar to you.

I would advise you to keep trying, putting yourself out there and joining more societies that interest you.

I hope that helps,

Matt
Wrexham University Reps

Original post by Anonymous

I’ve tried everything from making Tik toks speaking to people online before uni having group chats with all my coursemates joining societies being a student rep and I still see everyone has a clique but me and I feel so lonely and isolated I’m also the only black girl in my course and sometimes I feel othered by everyone else as they can’t relate to certain cultural thing's I’ll talk about once in a blue moon

Hi there,

I'm truly sorry you're feeling this way. It can be incredibly challenging to feel isolated and without close connections, especially after putting so much effort into making friends and engaging with your peers. One avenue you might consider is joining multicultural societies or groups on campus, which can offer a supportive community where you can share and celebrate your cultural background. Additionally, reaching out to your university’s diversity and inclusion office could provide you with resources and support tailored to your experiences. Seeking mentorship through university programs might also help you connect with someone who understands your situation and can offer guidance. Don’t hesitate to utilise the counselling services available, as they can provide professional support to help navigate these feelings of loneliness. Remember to be kind to yourself during this time and take steps towards self-care, as your well-being is paramount. You're not alone, and there are people and resources ready to support you through this difficult period. All the best!

Original post by Anonymous

I’ve tried everything from making Tik toks speaking to people online before uni having group chats with all my coursemates joining societies being a student rep and I still see everyone has a clique but me and I feel so lonely and isolated I’m also the only black girl in my course and sometimes I feel othered by everyone else as they can’t relate to certain cultural thing's I’ll talk about once in a blue moon

Hi there!

I'm sorry that you're feeling this way! Making friends at university can be really difficult but you've already had some great advice on this thread.

Have you had a look at what different jobs your university has? Getting a job at a café on campus or as a student ambassador allows you to meet people that you might not have seen around before.

I would also keep joining different societies. We have an Afro-Caribbean Society at Hope, do you have something similar at your university where you can find people of a similar culture to you?

Make sure to keep putting yourself out there, start conversations with different people in your seminars and tutorials, you might just not have spoken to the right people yet.

And just remember! You might not meet your best friend at university straight away and you definitely won't be the only person feeling this way!

Lottie, Graduate Advocate 😃

Original post by Anonymous

I’ve tried everything from making Tik toks speaking to people online before uni having group chats with all my coursemates joining societies being a student rep and I still see everyone has a clique but me and I feel so lonely and isolated I’m also the only black girl in my course and sometimes I feel othered by everyone else as they can’t relate to certain cultural thing's I’ll talk about once in a blue moon

Hi!

I am so sorry this has been your experience, I had a similar situation and so I empathise with you. As difficult and annoying it can be to hear, you have to keep trying, you will find good friends it just takes time. I am now in my third year and have the most lovely friends but I didn't meet most of them until at least semester two of first year. You mentioned feeling othered due to being the only black girl on your course, perhaps there is a society for your ethnic group, this has helped to feel less isolated in this way and can make you feel less alone.

Hope this helps! Faye 🙂

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Original post by Anonymous

I’ve tried everything from making Tik toks speaking to people online before uni having group chats with all my coursemates joining societies being a student rep and I still see everyone has a clique but me and I feel so lonely and isolated I’m also the only black girl in my course and sometimes I feel othered by everyone else as they can’t relate to certain cultural thing's I’ll talk about once in a blue moon

What university are you going to?

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