Well, it is a two questions post
1. How to tell my partner I want to introduce her to my parents?
2. How to actually introduce her to my parents?
Background
My parents are old school, same sex relationships are wrong. They are, however, accepting. They are OK with me being bisexual. They know I date girls too and they are sort of OK with it.
I had some bad experience with GUYS they (especially my mom) didn't like. She knows how to push them away and I don't want this to happen with this relationship. My mom likes digging too dip into personalities making the other side feel very uncomfortable. She has the wrong image of me (the perfect little girl I was in highschool), she still believes that my personality didn't change and tries to fit the partner for that personality.
My dad is old and sometimes has problems with tact, he may say things he think and should not be said out loud.
My partner is younger than me but more mature and more mentally stable. She is from a different culture yet we have so much in common. She is an artist and my mom is an artist too, which sounds good but they may disagree on a lot of things and it may cause some discomfort.
I am 35 and don't want kids (yet, or never), my mom wants me to have kids and any partner I bring she immediately planning us as a family. I never talked to my partner about kids... like it never even cross our minds to talk about it.
For me it is very important to introduce a partner to my family because I am very connected to them despite all the negative things I just said. My partner almost never speaks to her family, just on holidays and weekends once in a while. They are not very close. She doesn't even think it is important to meet the partners family at all, like it is not their business what she does in her life.
How to deal with this situation?