So I met this guy early last year around his birthday.. we were actually almost forced to meet in a way. We are both gamers and kept getting in to each others games for about 4-6 games in a row on a popular shooter game. he was never on my team until the last game we had which my friends decided to add him. and when we did we instantly clicked.. I wasnt looking for something as only about 4-5 months prier I was in a relationship with a guy that cheated on me. So I was happy doing my own thing and was actually finally happy with being single. But again he just came out of no where. He started to pursue me around the 2nd or so month of us meeting I didnt even really take notice until I jokingly flirted back which unleashed it all. Again I wasnt looking for anything and I just thought he was a super fun and funny guy to be around, but I dont even know when but I suddenly realised how much I liked him and we started basically a situationship, we lived in different states (no longer the case) so it was all online and we wanted to meet each other first.
anyways. around the 4th month of our situationship we got in to a kind of nasty fight and nearly ended it all, he nearly ended it all. but when we truly sat down and spoke we realised neither one of us wanted that, so we talked for hours and realised some where along the way we forget to keep being friends and just started being romantic but me and him both agreed that friendship is very much needed in a relationship. So that is what we decided to do, we decided to restart and rebuild friendship as well as the relationship, we however stopped all the baby talk and all that, that usually comes with early relations. But we still flirted on the occasion. We both still talk about us and we both still want to make it work, he has never been put off by our age gap, and he has said he doesnt care about that in the slightest it is me he fell for not my age. But lately he has been super busy and stressed out, we hardly spend as much time together and I suffer from massive anxiety. He isnt one to talk about his issues like that because he never really had someone to do so with. But he has become distant, he barely messages me anymore throughout the day or flirts with me very rarely again this is all recent with his stress he is dealing with. BUT in saying all that his feelings hasnt changed, I can tell when we are together face to face as well as when he does reply or when we are in call (gaming) together. He is a very forward person and would and has told me when I have done something he doesnt like or anything like that.
Just I realised that I got worried and scared this morning waking up realising I am turning 30 this year. And he is turning 22. I understand relationships have troubles, and even though we arent in a technical "relationship" but we very much are at the same time. we are committed to just each other and dont want or seek others. I know guys tend to be more immature but he doesnt seem that way. I know only knowing him for a year isnt super long. I feel though because we are now doing things correctly with going slow with one another we communicate more on the deeper stuff than we ever did before.
Should I be worried about the age difference? Is it weird for the female to be older than the male, since I have seen a lot of stories but they were all older man with younger woman.