Alevels or Secret Boyfriend??

Advice needed: So I'm in year 13 and have been dating my boyfriend for a few months, but have had to keep it secret from my parents (ik its bad) as they don't want me dating during alevels. I have been quite blessed with school and am predicted highly in STEM alevel subjects, but unfortunately it also means I have a lot of work on my plate. With mocks approaching I am at a crossroads. We work well together in terms of staying out of the way when working but I dont know if it will be enough when mocks come round. We both can easily get a lot of work done everyday and even help eachother with subjects too. Every time we meet up I have to lie to my parents about where im going and it stresses me out so much cause I have been a fairly good child, dont party or drink in excess and never touched drugs but this is truly the only bad thing I have really done, the guilt eats away at me everytime. The guy is truly amazing he has never mistreated me and we are a fairly well known couple and people find it cute, I feel like if I break up with him I will have almost wasted his time as he has been very understanding about the whole secret thing and I said I will be able to tell my parents after exams, and has genuinely done nothing wrong. I was very clear about the conditions of the relationship as I was very cautious about saying yes to him. What is worse is that his friends are dating some of my friends so I am worried of how I will be perceived to them but most importantly I don't want to break up with him but my exams take priority, so I am left with a few options. Go on a break during mocks and the exams, break up entirely, or try tough it out until summer and have a lot of fun. I don't want to be seen as horrible for 'leading him on' this is the one thing I decided to do for myself, not for my parents, and a first time experience where I have learnt that I can in fact not have it all. Any words are appreciated!!

Will your boyfriend give you the education?

First and foremost, the absolutely priority here is your education. You can certainly balance the two and I'm not saying that you cannot be in a relationship and do well in your exams, but if there are things that are causing you stress and anxiety (such as having to lie to your parents to spend time with your boyfriend), it is important to minimise that during your exams.
This is all a very typical high school/sixth form relationship situation, both as regards your relationship and everything being intertwined with your friends and his friends. Nothing unusual about it at all. Fortunately it seems to me like you've been very mature about this so far, and have been very clear with him in communicating both that your exams take priority, and what that means, or may mean, for your relationship. To my mind the better option is probably to continue with the relationship but be realistic about the amount that you'll be communicating with and seeing each other during mocks and exams. It may be that you can meet up here and there during those periods, but you both hopefully appreciate how important those are, so in reality the relationship will take a back seat for you to focus on them. If he acknowledges that too, I don't see why you can't continue with the relationship but tone things down during mocks and exams.
It all depends on the specifics though. If the temptation of the relationship is too much and you need to be more formal about it, by all means go on a break to draw a line under it. If he can't respect those boundaries or the break doesn't work, break up with him entirely. You can always rekindle things after exams regardless of what you do now. But given that you're both enjoying this relationship and want it to continue, I don't immediately see why you'd break up entirely, or even go on a definitive break, when you can just acknowledge that your mocks and exams will have to take priority at certain times.

Now while I completely agree with your point with everything I do I also questioned the opposite, will he take it away? The one thing I did forget to mention is that since being with him my grades have been at an all time high, I actually have more motivation to revise purely because of his hardworking ethic, however your point still stands, I have some very important exam results coming out soon so I feel it’s best to decide after reviewing how I did in those, I also sat them in the duration i’ve been seeing him, thank you for the comment though it did get me thinking 🙂

Well if you think about it that’s a question for you to answer not me? Your parents want the best of interest in you and that for you to focus on your education, will he impact towards your education and what the outcome maybe upon completing it is the real question? Whilst commitments between you both is key as stated you have exams coming up can you manage both. Would you be able to outperform and excel within your courseworks and exams…staying ahead and on target with deadlines?

Yeah I didn’t really know how to word it, I agree with you completely, to be honest these exam results will be the things to say if he has impacted me,
if i have to resit then it’s almost non negotiable to at least take a break, the last few months I’ve managed to keep up and lowkey excel my grades while also maintaining gym
and other hobbies which will have to obviously slow down as exams come closer, I feel like playing
things by ear right now, I won’t be stupid and call it quits right before exams but I see your point and it’s something I am going to think about a lot, I appreciate your very real comment

Advice needed: So I'm in year 13 and have been dating my boyfriend for a few months, but have had to keep it secret from my parents (ik its bad) as they don't want me dating during alevels. I have been quite blessed with school and am predicted highly in STEM alevel subjects, but unfortunately it also means I have a lot of work on my plate. With mocks approaching I am at a crossroads. We work well together in terms of staying out of the way when working but I dont know if it will be enough when mocks come round. We both can easily get a lot of work done everyday and even help eachother with subjects too. Every time we meet up I have to lie to my parents about where im going and it stresses me out so much cause I have been a fairly good child, dont party or drink in excess and never touched drugs but this is truly the only bad thing I have really done, the guilt eats away at me everytime. The guy is truly amazing he has never mistreated me and we are a fairly well known couple and people find it cute, I feel like if I break up with him I will have almost wasted his time as he has been very understanding about the whole secret thing and I said I will be able to tell my parents after exams, and has genuinely done nothing wrong. I was very clear about the conditions of the relationship as I was very cautious about saying yes to him. What is worse is that his friends are dating some of my friends so I am worried of how I will be perceived to them but most importantly I don't want to break up with him but my exams take priority, so I am left with a few options. Go on a break during mocks and the exams, break up entirely, or try tough it out until summer and have a lot of fun. I don't want to be seen as horrible for 'leading him on' this is the one thing I decided to do for myself, not for my parents, and a first time experience where I have learnt that I can in fact not have it all. Any words are appreciated!!