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What is normal for distant relationship

Hello ,
I just wanna know what distance relationship sounds like? I am currently in relationship for 2 years but our relationship is really unsatisfying. He usually spend more time on Minecraft and games and take so much time to reply to my messages and It makes me feel alone and even if we call he spent the time doing something else alone and he feels pressured to talk to me or open any topic so it’s usually about him or something he does. When i suggest a game or a movie to watch together he usually doesn’t like my suggestions. And when we play games together he yells at me because i can’t play and he takes gaming so seriously it is so hard for me to play any game with him. Yes sometimes we laugh and he’s funny but most of the time i feel unhappy and when i ask him to change something he said i keep nagging to him. I feel he likes to do stuff like that to me to feel better about himself because he always say the same thing about his dog and how she’s nagging if he doesn’t give her attention. But i don’t know anymore what is a healthy distance relationship and what should i do..

Reply 1

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by Idkwatever
Hello ,
I just wanna know what distance relationship sounds like? I am currently in relationship for 2 years but our relationship is really unsatisfying. He usually spend more time on Minecraft and games and take so much time to reply to my messages and It makes me feel alone and even if we call he spent the time doing something else alone and he feels pressured to talk to me or open any topic so it’s usually about him or something he does. When i suggest a game or a movie to watch together he usually doesn’t like my suggestions. And when we play games together he yells at me because i can’t play and he takes gaming so seriously it is so hard for me to play any game with him. Yes sometimes we laugh and he’s funny but most of the time i feel unhappy and when i ask him to change something he said i keep nagging to him. I feel he likes to do stuff like that to me to feel better about himself because he always say the same thing about his dog and how she’s nagging if he doesn’t give her attention. But i don’t know anymore what is a healthy distance relationship and what should i do..

Sounds like a toxic relationship to me. Yelling really? Personally if that was me and my other half didn’t understand gaming, I’d go through the basics and make the way up in learning what’s right, how you play it right and how to become a professional. That’s not only you being taught correctly in terms of how he wishes for you to play but that’s the both of you bonding. If it was a movie, or movie day or night out I’d pick between a list of choices that would interest the both of us and something the both of us would be willing to watch. Sounds like he’s unappreciative and a waste of time dump him once lost it’s lost for good you both and your his now but once a relationship is up it’s up and then he’ll realise through Minecraft time to learn a-bit of his own the values of a relationship what it brings and how much it’s worth over petty games or not being able to pick a movie.

Reply 2

Just to add time and affection to the other is a valuable and key trait in making a relationship healthy. Making the room, making an effort and space for that too if that’s not there then it’s meaningless.

Reply 3

I wouldn't necessarily go as far as calling in toxic, because that's a pretty big word. But in any event, any relationship that you feel unhappy in most of the time is one that you should not be in. It's pretty much as simple as that.

Reply 4

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by Crazy Jamie
I wouldn't necessarily go as far as calling in toxic, because that's a pretty big word. But in any event, any relationship that you feel unhappy in most of the time is one that you should not be in. It's pretty much as simple as that.

Not quite sure what the word is but yeah for sure as rightfully stated

Reply 5

I broke up with him because I just couldn’t settle for what he gave me.. he said i am nagging and he’s tired of me tired of apologizing every day and hearing how much i am sad in the relationship. He says stuff like that and i wonder why i even stayed with someone like that.. he will never be able to treat me right because he doesn’t care about my feelings. It was easy to dump me for his friends or games or whenever he finds a replacement.. so it should be easy for me to dump him too

Reply 6

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by Idkwatever
I broke up with him because I just couldn’t settle for what he gave me.. he said i am nagging and he’s tired of me tired of apologizing every day and hearing how much i am sad in the relationship. He says stuff like that and i wonder why i even stayed with someone like that.. he will never be able to treat me right because he doesn’t care about my feelings. It was easy to dump me for his friends or games or whenever he finds a replacement.. so it should be easy for me to dump him too

You did the brave and courageous thing. You were the one who wanted to show love yet he just didn’t reciprocate that back nevertheless the bravery and willingness to break up with him it’s something that ain’t easy just goes to show he was unappreciative and ungrateful. Don’t forget that each other voice matters/mattered in a relationship it deserves to be heard and felt it’s the way of communication and healthy too. You had feelings that deserved to be heard too unfortunately he was never going to you know be the one to listen to it.
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