Flirting while in a relationship

What do you say to your boyfriend when he went through your phone and found chats that your flirting with another guy.

What do you say to your boyfriend when he went through your phone and found chats that your flirting with another guy.

Why be flirting in the first place? How would you feel if the opposite happened to you?

How I'd feel would depend.
I might feel that I hadn't been doing enough to keep her attracted.
I might feel that the 2 of us weren't quite right for each other and that I should support her flirting with him.
I might feel that it's time for a change and it was sensible for her to start flirting with others.
I might feel hurt or disappointed. But I'd know that those feelings would pass. And that great romantic things would happen in my future and hers.
There's a high chance that I'd see things from her point of view and that I would understand why she did it. Even if I didn't totally agree from my point of view. I would at least want the best for her. I'd want her to make her own decisions in life. And I'd want her to maintain control of her life and plough her own furrow. If the path of her life was intertwined with mine, that's fine, if it forked off from mine, then that's fine too.
There's an abundance of amazing women out there. The loss of 1 woman is neither her nor there in the grand scheme of things.
Sphesh has nothing to apologise for, nor to feel guilty about if he or she flirted with another.

How I'd feel would depend.
I might feel that I hadn't been doing enough to keep her attracted.
I might feel that the 2 of us weren't quite right for each other and that I should support her flirting with him.
I might feel that it's time for a change and it was sensible for her to start flirting with others.
I might feel hurt or disappointed. But I'd know that those feelings would pass. And that great romantic things would happen in my future and hers.
There's a high chance that I'd see things from her point of view and that I would understand why she did it. Even if I didn't totally agree from my point of view. I would at least want the best for her. I'd want her to make her own decisions in life. And I'd want her to maintain control of her life and plough her own furrow. If the path of her life was intertwined with mine, that's fine, if it forked off from mine, then that's fine too.
There's an abundance of amazing women out there. The loss of 1 woman is neither her nor there in the grand scheme of things.
Sphesh has nothing to apologise for, nor to feel guilty about if he or she flirted with another.

How I'd feel would depend.
I might feel that I hadn't been doing enough to keep her attracted.
I might feel that the 2 of us weren't quite right for each other and that I should support her flirting with him.
I might feel that it's time for a change and it was sensible for her to start flirting with others.
I might feel hurt or disappointed. But I'd know that those feelings would pass. And that great romantic things would happen in my future and hers.
There's a high chance that I'd see things from her point of view and that I would understand why she did it. Even if I didn't totally agree from my point of view. I would at least want the best for her. I'd want her to make her own decisions in life. And I'd want her to maintain control of her life and plough her own furrow. If the path of her life was intertwined with mine, that's fine, if it forked off from mine, then that's fine too.
There's an abundance of amazing women out there. The loss of 1 woman is neither her nor there in the grand scheme of things.
Sphesh has nothing to apologise for, nor to feel guilty about if he or she flirted with another.

No but there’s a mouth to speak if something lacking within the relationship you don’t just go separate ways and just go and flirt with somebody else. I understand if it’s just like friend friendship yes but flirting no

When you hurt someone, YOU APOLOGIZE. The least one can do when caught entertaining someone else while in a relationship is apologize if they are hurt.

Sounds like the relationship isn't quite working out and rather than having an honest conversation with the guy you got validation elsewhere. Which if you dont feel the relationship is worth the effort to salvage then maybe you should end things figure out what went wrong with the first guy and what you want in the next guy before starting anything new.

We don't know if the original poster did express her reservations about their relationship before she started flirting with this other guy. We are in "it depends" territory.
We don't know what sort of a guy this boyfriend is and what sort of a relationship dynamic they have.
Playing the blame game does not help in this situation. The boyfriend acted how he acted in the relationship (significant chance he didn't do enough to motivate the original poster to stay faithful to him). The original poster is who and what he or she is. What's done is done. It's where the 2 of them should go from here that matters. Not whether the flirting texter apologises or not.
I personally wouldn't expect an apology at all if a girlfriend of mine had been flirting over text with another guy. I'd expect her to go into self justification mode. "You made me do it"... "You drove me to it" and all that.
That makes a lot of sense.
It would also be fine to launch straight into a relationship with the other guy and to see how things go. Because that relationship can be ended at any time.
It's all good. It's all trying different things and different people. And seeing what works and what doesn't.