Dyed my hair, the general reaction is awful; I'm so upset
I've been blonde literally all my life, I'm turning 19 in February. I don't know I just wanted a change so I went and dyed my hair dark blue, it's weird to look at at first obviously because I went from nearly 19 years of blonde to almost black in a couple hours.
So yeah, big change - I don't mind it? I think it'll take getting used to seeing my blue hair but with my own face not in the picture I love it so much. It's exactly what I wanted! I felt great about it when I got it done and 3 of the ladies in the salon I got it done at (2 other customers) said they were obsessed with the colour and the way it looked. My neighbour also came out after seeing me in the window to say she loved it.
Then I got home, my mum didn't say anything to me. She just looked at me then looked away; my dad starting shouting - all out as if I'd got a tattoo or something permanent, like I didn't forewarn them I was getting blue dye put on my hair. I showed them bottle, showed them colour, told them when and where I'd booked to get it dyed, they KNEW I was going for it done 2-3 weeks in advance. What the ****. Also the dye itself isn't even permanent, it'll fade out over time as I wash it (guaranteed it'll take months).
I am dreading telling/showing my maternal grandma because I know her reaction will be calling it awful and saying she wished I hadn't gone through with it or had gone lighter.
My dad literally won't even look at me, last thing he said was something along the lines of 'Do you think that looks good?' he knocked on my door to ask for something and wouldn't even open the door the full way to look at me.
My mum eased up, she'll look at me now and says she doesn't think it's too bad and she's just getting used to it, I hate it when she looks at me though because of her initial reaction even though I expected it lol. My brother doesn't really gaf which is a bonus I guess, he just keeps saying it doesn't look too bad (which I think is supposed to be a snarky compliment) but I can't tell if he's just trying to be comforting because I'm so upset.
So yeah, big change - I don't mind it? I think it'll take getting used to seeing my blue hair but with my own face not in the picture I love it so much. It's exactly what I wanted! I felt great about it when I got it done and 3 of the ladies in the salon I got it done at (2 other customers) said they were obsessed with the colour and the way it looked. My neighbour also came out after seeing me in the window to say she loved it.
Then I got home, my mum didn't say anything to me. She just looked at me then looked away; my dad starting shouting - all out as if I'd got a tattoo or something permanent, like I didn't forewarn them I was getting blue dye put on my hair. I showed them bottle, showed them colour, told them when and where I'd booked to get it dyed, they KNEW I was going for it done 2-3 weeks in advance. What the ****. Also the dye itself isn't even permanent, it'll fade out over time as I wash it (guaranteed it'll take months).
I am dreading telling/showing my maternal grandma because I know her reaction will be calling it awful and saying she wished I hadn't gone through with it or had gone lighter.
My dad literally won't even look at me, last thing he said was something along the lines of 'Do you think that looks good?' he knocked on my door to ask for something and wouldn't even open the door the full way to look at me.
My mum eased up, she'll look at me now and says she doesn't think it's too bad and she's just getting used to it, I hate it when she looks at me though because of her initial reaction even though I expected it lol. My brother doesn't really gaf which is a bonus I guess, he just keeps saying it doesn't look too bad (which I think is supposed to be a snarky compliment) but I can't tell if he's just trying to be comforting because I'm so upset.
Ultimately its your hair, if you like it then that's what matters. Although if you only did it because of how others might respond then that's probably not a great idea to do anything on the basis of...
Generally I think if you're young, and particularly if you still live at home, your parents are going to see anything like that as some kind of authority challenge and respond negatively, regardless of whether they actually think it looks good or not. I'd not really consider their reaction as much more than that. And given your grandparents grew up probably 50+ years ago, I don't think their concept of what is trendy, acceptable, or whatever else is much to go on.
Gauging how your peers react and other people who are your parents age but not related to you is probably more of a useful indicator of how people perceive it, if that's what's important to you.
Non-natural colours are probably more likely attract more polarising reactions anyway though. Those don't really tell you much other than the values (for better or worse) of those having the reactions though.
Generally I think if you're young, and particularly if you still live at home, your parents are going to see anything like that as some kind of authority challenge and respond negatively, regardless of whether they actually think it looks good or not. I'd not really consider their reaction as much more than that. And given your grandparents grew up probably 50+ years ago, I don't think their concept of what is trendy, acceptable, or whatever else is much to go on.
Gauging how your peers react and other people who are your parents age but not related to you is probably more of a useful indicator of how people perceive it, if that's what's important to you.
Non-natural colours are probably more likely attract more polarising reactions anyway though. Those don't really tell you much other than the values (for better or worse) of those having the reactions though.
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crazy overraction. it's just hair.
a word of warning though - if your hair is really light blonde, it may not wash out easily... you might be stuck with a greenish tint for a while. might need a toner or a bleach bath to get it out completely
a word of warning though - if your hair is really light blonde, it may not wash out easily... you might be stuck with a greenish tint for a while. might need a toner or a bleach bath to get it out completely
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by stalecatI've been blonde literally all my life, I'm turning 19 in February. I don't know I just wanted a change so I went and dyed my hair dark blue, it's weird to look at at first obviously because I went from nearly 19 years of blonde to almost black in a couple hours.
So yeah, big change - I don't mind it? I think it'll take getting used to seeing my blue hair but with my own face not in the picture I love it so much. It's exactly what I wanted! I felt great about it when I got it done and 3 of the ladies in the salon I got it done at (2 other customers) said they were obsessed with the colour and the way it looked. My neighbour also came out after seeing me in the window to say she loved it.
Then I got home, my mum didn't say anything to me. She just looked at me then looked away; my dad starting shouting - all out as if I'd got a tattoo or something permanent, like I didn't forewarn them I was getting blue dye put on my hair. I showed them bottle, showed them colour, told them when and where I'd booked to get it dyed, they KNEW I was going for it done 2-3 weeks in advance. What the ****. Also the dye itself isn't even permanent, it'll fade out over time as I wash it (guaranteed it'll take months).
I am dreading telling/showing my maternal grandma because I know her reaction will be calling it awful and saying she wished I hadn't gone through with it or had gone lighter.
My dad literally won't even look at me, last thing he said was something along the lines of 'Do you think that looks good?' he knocked on my door to ask for something and wouldn't even open the door the full way to look at me.
My mum eased up, she'll look at me now and says she doesn't think it's too bad and she's just getting used to it, I hate it when she looks at me though because of her initial reaction even though I expected it lol. My brother doesn't really gaf which is a bonus I guess, he just keeps saying it doesn't look too bad (which I think is supposed to be a snarky compliment) but I can't tell if he's just trying to be comforting because I'm so upset.
So yeah, big change - I don't mind it? I think it'll take getting used to seeing my blue hair but with my own face not in the picture I love it so much. It's exactly what I wanted! I felt great about it when I got it done and 3 of the ladies in the salon I got it done at (2 other customers) said they were obsessed with the colour and the way it looked. My neighbour also came out after seeing me in the window to say she loved it.
Then I got home, my mum didn't say anything to me. She just looked at me then looked away; my dad starting shouting - all out as if I'd got a tattoo or something permanent, like I didn't forewarn them I was getting blue dye put on my hair. I showed them bottle, showed them colour, told them when and where I'd booked to get it dyed, they KNEW I was going for it done 2-3 weeks in advance. What the ****. Also the dye itself isn't even permanent, it'll fade out over time as I wash it (guaranteed it'll take months).
I am dreading telling/showing my maternal grandma because I know her reaction will be calling it awful and saying she wished I hadn't gone through with it or had gone lighter.
My dad literally won't even look at me, last thing he said was something along the lines of 'Do you think that looks good?' he knocked on my door to ask for something and wouldn't even open the door the full way to look at me.
My mum eased up, she'll look at me now and says she doesn't think it's too bad and she's just getting used to it, I hate it when she looks at me though because of her initial reaction even though I expected it lol. My brother doesn't really gaf which is a bonus I guess, he just keeps saying it doesn't look too bad (which I think is supposed to be a snarky compliment) but I can't tell if he's just trying to be comforting because I'm so upset.
It's your hair, your body. They might not like it or be supportive and that sucks but ultimately you need to be okay and happy with it. If you are then screw 'em
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