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Girl best friend advice?

So my girl best friend (18F) and I (19M) have been hanging out more often and I can't tell if she likes me. She constantly smiles at me and laughs at a lot of the things I say but I'm always the one that has to initiate to a hang out. She always suggests ideas but is never the one to organise them, but anytime I ask her to hang out she has basically always said yes and is always really keen and excited. Neither of us have ever been in relationship before.

I know she has told her friends and family about me. Her friends started following me, and she remembers all the fine details of things that I tell her about me. We've been friends for a few years now and are both quite shy. She has met some of my friends but I haven't met any of hers. There has never been much touching going on, only a few hello and goodbye hugs, but I haven't initiated much physical contact, and she was the first one to initiate physically.

I get quite nervous before seeing her because I like her but once we are together I feel fine and in the moment can't tell if I like her as a friend or something more. We always pick the same classes together but her behaviour seems wishy washy. She doesn't really text first but I think this could be due to her shyness. But then when I'm around her she playfully teases and touches me and I can tell that she enjoys my company.

I enjoy being friends and want to continue that but cannot decide whether I should try to pursue something more or tell her that I like her, as I don't know how she will react. Is it better to improve our friendship first? I don't want to be putting all the effort into the friendship but I also want to maintain it as I enjoy seeing her. She's giving me really mixed behaviour, which makes me doubt how she feels about me.

I haven't had many female friends before and don't want to ruin this friendship. It takes me longer to get comfortable with anyone in general, but I want to still improve our relationship. Any advice girls?

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by CL-34
So my girl best friend (18F) and I (19M) have been hanging out more often and I can't tell if she likes me. She constantly smiles at me and laughs at a lot of the things I say but I'm always the one that has to initiate to a hang out. She always suggests ideas but is never the one to organise them, but anytime I ask her to hang out she has basically always said yes and is always really keen and excited. Neither of us have ever been in relationship before.
I know she has told her friends and family about me. Her friends started following me, and she remembers all the fine details of things that I tell her about me. We've been friends for a few years now and are both quite shy. She has met some of my friends but I haven't met any of hers. There has never been much touching going on, only a few hello and goodbye hugs, but I haven't initiated much physical contact, and she was the first one to initiate physically.
I get quite nervous before seeing her because I like her but once we are together I feel fine and in the moment can't tell if I like her as a friend or something more. We always pick the same classes together but her behaviour seems wishy washy. She doesn't really text first but I think this could be due to her shyness. But then when I'm around her she playfully teases and touches me and I can tell that she enjoys my company.
I enjoy being friends and want to continue that but cannot decide whether I should try to pursue something more or tell her that I like her, as I don't know how she will react. Is it better to improve our friendship first? I don't want to be putting all the effort into the friendship but I also want to maintain it as I enjoy seeing her. She's giving me really mixed behaviour, which makes me doubt how she feels about me.
I haven't had many female friends before and don't want to ruin this friendship. It takes me longer to get comfortable with anyone in general, but I want to still improve our relationship. Any advice girls?

In my opinion, as a girl you should take it slow and see where the friendship takes you. She seems like a shy girl so I think she wants you to bring it up as she may feel scared that if she does confess then it will take a nasty turn because she doesn't want to ruin the friendship.

I think if you're keen about it and actually want to date her then you could ask one of her closest friends that you trust and ask them if she likes you or is interested but in a subtle way.

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