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how to get a friendgroup?(note: this is a girls sch)

alr, so im in a weird place rn(prepare for a rant). so last feb, i got kicked out of my semi-popular friendgroup bc I was "too quiet"(most of us were still friends and we kinda hung out). then, I confessed my crush to a(a popular girl in the year) then a lot of ppl stopping liking me and it made a couple of friendship's weird. ok, fast forward to now, I'm still a bit lonely tbh but I have at least 6 friends(I'm usually the second choice th). as a result of my lack of friendgroup, I've become a bit more social anxious and my other relationships outside of school have been REALLY affected by this. i kinda have a best friend rn(d) but she's very unemotive to everything I do or say and I don't want the rest of school to be boring and depressing. I'm in y9 so all the cliques have been made and a lot of ppl think I'm weird for being bi/ potentially neurodivergent. what should I do, y'all??

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

I would say that when I was in year 9 I got to see everyones true colours and broke it off with people who were fake and nasty behind my back. So I believe that you should stay with the people who are actually nice and genuine.

You should ask talk to your current best friend and have a heart to heart conversation on how your friendship is, and the fact she is barely responsive and how your concerned. If the conversation unfortunately doesn't go anywhere just ignore her as she will waste your time as it now may seem as a one sided friendship as you're doing all the work which is sad.

If you want to make new friends, start up a conversation with a person that seems nice and see where that takes you.

I hope this is good enough advice
Good luck ❤

Reply 2

Username928374

focus on your interests and get good at them seriously. like pick a popular sport or something and get good at that and ppl will like you. pushing too hard just makes it worse (i also went to a cliquey girls school lol). Also try making more friends outside of school and doing cool stuff outside of school. There's more to life than your cliquey year group

Reply 3

fluffy_fish

I know how you feel as a year 10 going to a all girl school and I'm in a similar situation. Look just ignore the haters, if they don't like you for you then they aren't worth being friends with. And for your best friend, tell her how you feel and if nothing happens there then maybe the friendship has run it's course. I know it feels lonely like the whole year group is against you but trust me, just talk to some nice people if things aren't working out and if nothing happens there too join some clubs. There will always be someone who understands you so don't worry too much about it. It feels bad now but hey, It can only get better from here right?