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Am I in the wrong?

Over the last couple of years I have been in numerous arguments with my parents especially with my father.

It was yesterday he ended up screaming at me, but I genuinely can’t see why I am in the wrong. I think he is trying to cover up the fact he is wrong.

I will explain fully here;

A year before I began university (4 months before I sent off my university applications), I told my parents I wanted to pursue an apprenticeship rather than go to university. When I told them this, both told me to go university and that apprenticeship was no an option. So I listened and went to university.

Five weeks within my first semester, I told them I wanted to drop my studies. I despise the fact that I sit in the lecture hall for 2-3 hours reading off a PowerPoint based of a textbook whilst paying 9,250 an annum. I much rather purse an apprenticeship when I will gain work experience and actually gain skills I can use for the future in a workplace.

When I tell my parents this they often come up with the same old “other students are going to university” or “just keep going”. Often my mother will then shout at me saying “I am getting high blood pressure listening to you stop talking and go to university” and my father will say along the lines.

Countless arguments, my mother realises her mistake and accepted she was in the wrong and told me I can drop university - but there is no point now since I am in my final year with one semester left (I am planning to pursue a masters degree apprenticeship however).

My father is on the complete opposite - he often shouts and brings up other people going to university and he told me yesterday “you was a kid back then, hence why we had the decision to tell you go university and not you,”. The comment really ****ed me off, as this was essentially my career on the line and that I feel the 3 years could have been well better spent and my father is making it like 3 years in 2 months or something. Often when I bring up this he will say doesn’t matter,”.

I often get angry myself to the fact I listened to my parents who can’t speak proper English and never even been to university. They think university is compulsory and that there is no other option.

Can someone really tell me what do I in this situation?
Finish uni and get on with your life. Accept the decisions you made at the time and stop dwelling on previous arguments.

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