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Social issues at uni

I know I have posted a thread a while ago about potentially changing course but I’ve wanted to reach out for advice on how to deal with other students and clubs at my uni.
During my time with one club, they had acted rather unpleasant towards me and had also made up stuff that deeply hurt me after I got upset over something that had nothing to do with them and I had received a lot of bullying afterwards in the street.
Another club had treated me unfairly too by telling me where to sit and had asked me personal questions that I felt very uncomfortable with as well as a few other things.
Some students often like to take their behaviour out on me and laugh at me whenever I pass by and I feel like I cannot trust anyone anymore because it has got to a very bad point. Recently, I was laughed at in the street when walking home by two former club mates of mine and it made me very upset.
I feel some days I cannot leave my own flat due to how awful and distressing all of this has became as whenever I go out onto the campus, I get laughed at and talked about very badly.
This to me is showing that people haven’t even learned anything and it pains me as we’re suppose to be uni students.
I love being apart of clubs and want to be happy but this is breaking my heart as I know I’ve done nothing wrong to anyone. Being treated unfairly due to me being different has been so wrong and I don’t know what to do. I have focused on completing my degree as a positive way to put it but I am worried the impact these people will have on me.
Does your university have a “report and support” function?

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by ADTRgirlxo
I know I have posted a thread a while ago about potentially changing course but I’ve wanted to reach out for advice on how to deal with other students and clubs at my uni.
During my time with one club, they had acted rather unpleasant towards me and had also made up stuff that deeply hurt me after I got upset over something that had nothing to do with them and I had received a lot of bullying afterwards in the street.
Another club had treated me unfairly too by telling me where to sit and had asked me personal questions that I felt very uncomfortable with as well as a few other things.
Some students often like to take their behaviour out on me and laugh at me whenever I pass by and I feel like I cannot trust anyone anymore because it has got to a very bad point. Recently, I was laughed at in the street when walking home by two former club mates of mine and it made me very upset.
I feel some days I cannot leave my own flat due to how awful and distressing all of this has became as whenever I go out onto the campus, I get laughed at and talked about very badly.
This to me is showing that people haven’t even learned anything and it pains me as we’re suppose to be uni students.
I love being apart of clubs and want to be happy but this is breaking my heart as I know I’ve done nothing wrong to anyone. Being treated unfairly due to me being different has been so wrong and I don’t know what to do. I have focused on completing my degree as a positive way to put it but I am worried the impact these people will have on me.

it is possible to transfer in second year, when I transfer early in first year from university to another and I went to transfer again to other university because of weather

Reply 3

Original post
by ADTRgirlxo
I know I have posted a thread a while ago about potentially changing course but I’ve wanted to reach out for advice on how to deal with other students and clubs at my uni.
During my time with one club, they had acted rather unpleasant towards me and had also made up stuff that deeply hurt me after I got upset over something that had nothing to do with them and I had received a lot of bullying afterwards in the street.
Another club had treated me unfairly too by telling me where to sit and had asked me personal questions that I felt very uncomfortable with as well as a few other things.
Some students often like to take their behaviour out on me and laugh at me whenever I pass by and I feel like I cannot trust anyone anymore because it has got to a very bad point. Recently, I was laughed at in the street when walking home by two former club mates of mine and it made me very upset.
I feel some days I cannot leave my own flat due to how awful and distressing all of this has became as whenever I go out onto the campus, I get laughed at and talked about very badly.
This to me is showing that people haven’t even learned anything and it pains me as we’re suppose to be uni students.
I love being apart of clubs and want to be happy but this is breaking my heart as I know I’ve done nothing wrong to anyone. Being treated unfairly due to me being different has been so wrong and I don’t know what to do. I have focused on completing my degree as a positive way to put it but I am worried the impact these people will have on me.

Hi there,

I am sorry to hear that this has been happening to you.

I would definitely talk to your uni about this - there should be a student support team that you can talk to, or see if your uni has a way of anonymously reporting things that have happened as you should not be made to feel like this at uni so it is important this is sorted out.

You could also talk to your student union if they are in charge of the clubs at your uni as they may be able to help you out with this, or at least make sure this does not happen to any other students. Don't let this stop you from joining any other clubs though if this is what you want to do as they will not all be like this!

Make sure you are talking to the welfare team at your uni regularly so that they know you are okay as it is important that you are ok at University and they will be able to help you.

I hope some of this helps,

Lucy -SHU student ambassador.

Reply 4

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by hallamstudents
Hi there,
I am sorry to hear that this has been happening to you.
I would definitely talk to your uni about this - there should be a student support team that you can talk to, or see if your uni has a way of anonymously reporting things that have happened as you should not be made to feel like this at uni so it is important this is sorted out.
You could also talk to your student union if they are in charge of the clubs at your uni as they may be able to help you out with this, or at least make sure this does not happen to any other students. Don't let this stop you from joining any other clubs though if this is what you want to do as they will not all be like this!
Make sure you are talking to the welfare team at your uni regularly so that they know you are okay as it is important that you are ok at University and they will be able to help you.
I hope some of this helps,
Lucy -SHU student ambassador.


What happened was unacceptable as I didn’t do anything wrong. The club that accused me of wrongdoing, I loved their theme and it broke my heart big time when this happened and now I am scared and it has hurt me
It all started because I got upset and they took it the wrong way

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