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Guy who I am hanging out with wants to watch a movie...ambiguous intentions? A riddle

For the past 3ish months, I've been hanging out with a guy, and we've talked every day since October. We're both in our early 20s. We kissed once, but it's still been fairly casual between us.

Now, last week, he asked me if I am available this upcoming Friday for 90 minutes. I asked why, and he said it was for a movie...so I naturally accepted, as we're both into arthouse. Today, he caught me after class to see if we were still good for Friday, and then asked "why do you think I asked you to watch a film?" I was like "uh, for the exact reason...to watch a film."

I will admit, part of my brain wondered if he was perhaps alluding to sex somehow, or a date, but I did not want to make any blunt or direct claims (as they could be potentially awkward if incorrect).

Then he said he was surprised I never considered the relevance of 90 minutes, and I could only think of the film's run-time. Then he asked me what I thought of literary devices...I asked if the 90 minutes was somehow a metaphor. He joked and said it was a riddle, and that I'd have to wait until Friday to find out.

All in all, I'm still a little puzzled...can't tell if he wants to get it on, since movies can be code for this...or something else entirely. The thing is, he's a virgin and has never been in a proper relationship before, and we haven't even officially started dating or anything (solely hangouts)...he's also a bit of a prude.

Any thoughts? This mystery is truly causing me to scratch my head!
Make allowances for his lack of experience.

Aim to gently guide him in how to talk and interact with you. And therefore with other women.

Be aware of possible rape / sexual assault. I'm getting creepy vibes from him. If the movie watching is to be done in his bedroom, for example, it would be fine to tell him no and to go to a student bar for a chat and a game of pool instead.

Talking every day is fine if it's done after lectures etc. With you being in the same place as part of your everyday routines.
Talking every day via phone is too much. It's too clingy.
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It’s a good length for staying engaged with the film and leaving time for other activities later in the evening. Ask him if it’s Netflix and chill
It's fine to just talk about him regarding this stuff, including what he wants out of this event. Some awkwardness may ensue but it will be productive awkwardness. In this kind of "what are we, and what are we doing" situation, awkwardness is inevitable - you just want it to be the good kind.

You also haven't said here if you would want to have sex with him if that's what he was going for. So that might be a good thing to figure out, if you haven't already.
He wants to hit...clearly like you already know this
Original post by theantistudent
For the past 3ish months, I've been hanging out with a guy, and we've talked every day since October. We're both in our early 20s. We kissed once, but it's still been fairly casual between us.
Now, last week, he asked me if I am available this upcoming Friday for 90 minutes. I asked why, and he said it was for a movie...so I naturally accepted, as we're both into arthouse. Today, he caught me after class to see if we were still good for Friday, and then asked "why do you think I asked you to watch a film?" I was like "uh, for the exact reason...to watch a film."
I will admit, part of my brain wondered if he was perhaps alluding to sex somehow, or a date, but I did not want to make any blunt or direct claims (as they could be potentially awkward if incorrect).
Then he said he was surprised I never considered the relevance of 90 minutes, and I could only think of the film's run-time. Then he asked me what I thought of literary devices...I asked if the 90 minutes was somehow a metaphor. He joked and said it was a riddle, and that I'd have to wait until Friday to find out.
All in all, I'm still a little puzzled...can't tell if he wants to get it on, since movies can be code for this...or something else entirely. The thing is, he's a virgin and has never been in a proper relationship before, and we haven't even officially started dating or anything (solely hangouts)...he's also a bit of a prude.
Any thoughts? This mystery is truly causing me to scratch my head!

Surely the very 1st Question you wou;d ask him is "What is the Film" ?. Have you asked him ?.
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Original post by theantistudent
For the past 3ish months, I've been hanging out with a guy, and we've talked every day since October. We're both in our early 20s. We kissed once, but it's still been fairly casual between us.
Now, last week, he asked me if I am available this upcoming Friday for 90 minutes. I asked why, and he said it was for a movie...so I naturally accepted, as we're both into arthouse. Today, he caught me after class to see if we were still good for Friday, and then asked "why do you think I asked you to watch a film?" I was like "uh, for the exact reason...to watch a film."
I will admit, part of my brain wondered if he was perhaps alluding to sex somehow, or a date, but I did not want to make any blunt or direct claims (as they could be potentially awkward if incorrect).
Then he said he was surprised I never considered the relevance of 90 minutes, and I could only think of the film's run-time. Then he asked me what I thought of literary devices...I asked if the 90 minutes was somehow a metaphor. He joked and said it was a riddle, and that I'd have to wait until Friday to find out.
All in all, I'm still a little puzzled...can't tell if he wants to get it on, since movies can be code for this...or something else entirely. The thing is, he's a virgin and has never been in a proper relationship before, and we haven't even officially started dating or anything (solely hangouts)...he's also a bit of a prude.
Any thoughts? This mystery is truly causing me to scratch my head!

ok so this part
"why do you think I asked you to watch a film?"
tells you everything you need to know. yes, he does want to have sex, but he's asking you indirectly
There are 3 films called "90 Minutes"

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