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date advice

i have a second date on the weekend, our first date was like 6 hours long and it was really great however he isnt a big texter (hes very busy, plays sport everyday and does 4 alevels) so i get it. he does check in throughout the day but i want to talk to him more. i think im gonna leave it for a couple more dates before i tell him that bc i dont want to scare him away.
any advice?

Reply 1

Surnia

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If you want to talk rather than text, just tell him. Swap each other's schedules to find convenient times during the week to call. If you are putting off a discussion on a topic as simple as this, how are you going to cope with a conversation about something more serious?

Reply 2

Stormgrad

Original post by Surnia

Yeah, like how hard is it to effectively and clearly communicate. It's a simple request that you both could work at to meet halfway and if either one of you has a problem communicating or achieving it the relationship probably isn't going to be that great

Reply 3

Dunnig Kruger

Do not text every day when you're apart.
Your texts should be predominantly to arrange the next meeting.
Do not send "How are you?" type texts.
Never ask him to text you more.

It's fine if you give him the impression that you're too busy with your life outside of him to text him every day.

If you're doing A levels too, try to avoid getting sucked into spending too much of your time or mental capacity on him.
Treat your A levels as a full time job that you're passionate about in which you do loads of overtime (especially in the run up to exams).

When you're on dates with him, have a great time. It's fine if your next date is a lot shorter than 6 hours. And if you cut off the date to get on with something else in your life, such as homework or getting to sleep at your usual time.

As a general principle, the less needy / clingy / desperate person in a couple will be the one that has more attraction power.
And coming over as needy / clingy / desperate reduces the interest and attraction of the other person.

Reply 4

glorious-waking

i saw someone say abt swapping each others schedules and i remembered an app i saw once called 'howbout' which u can use to see what you each have going on and when ur both free to help plan when u hang out<3