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What do when you really dislike your friends but have no one else

As the title says I really dislike my friends and I don’t think they like me either. Some of them are ok and sometimes I feel like they are a bit rude but I think that’s just me overthinking. One of them I really don’t like and haven’t for a long time and her I know she doesn’t like me because my other friends have told me.

Today I just had this thought that I just don’t want to be friends with them anymore and I don’t have to but if I do I’ll be left alone. I don’t think it’ll make a difference because I feel alone anyways.

No one has ever messaged me, ‘snapped’ me, called me or asked me to hang out with them for the past 5 years. If for the small chance people do speak to me outside it’s just because homework because I’m ’smart’ and ‘locked in’ but in reality I’m not. I hate being perceived that way. People only speak to me in school never outside and I don’t know if that’s normal. I don’t think so because my sister who is quiet like me, just started year 7 and already does those things. It makes me jealous and sad because I’ve spent the past 5 years of my life being alone.

I don’t necessarily struggle with making friends as I have lots of them. People always say hi to me in school and speak to me but it’s just the outside of school thing that bugs me. I feel like everyone has already made friends with the people they’ll be close friends with forever and I’ll never be apart of that. No one even knows me or anything that I like above a surface level. All I do is think about everything and it’s making me sad and depressed because I now overthink and over analyse everything.

It makes me sad that this how my life has been for 5 years and I don’t know what I did wrong.
This sounds exactly like me when I was in high school 😭. Honestly the best way is to just be friendly with other people like in your classes, sport or maybe if your school has any clubs?
Hopefully by doing something along these lines you'll be able to strike up an actual meaningful friendship with people who treat you with the respect you deserve.
BTW I was also very quiet from yr7-12 and because of that i'd be careful of what friends perceived of me. By not being less guarded made me feel closer to them. Not saying that you're doing that but its something to think about.
It's a very difficult and brave thing to put yourself into new spaces and circles where you don't know anyone and make new connections with people. Sometimes it's got to be done.
Original post by Anonymous
As the title says I really dislike my friends and I don’t think they like me either. Some of them are ok and sometimes I feel like they are a bit rude but I think that’s just me overthinking. One of them I really don’t like and haven’t for a long time and her I know she doesn’t like me because my other friends have told me.
Today I just had this thought that I just don’t want to be friends with them anymore and I don’t have to but if I do I’ll be left alone. I don’t think it’ll make a difference because I feel alone anyways.
No one has ever messaged me, ‘snapped’ me, called me or asked me to hang out with them for the past 5 years. If for the small chance people do speak to me outside it’s just because homework because I’m ’smart’ and ‘locked in’ but in reality I’m not. I hate being perceived that way. People only speak to me in school never outside and I don’t know if that’s normal. I don’t think so because my sister who is quiet like me, just started year 7 and already does those things. It makes me jealous and sad because I’ve spent the past 5 years of my life being alone.
I don’t necessarily struggle with making friends as I have lots of them. People always say hi to me in school and speak to me but it’s just the outside of school thing that bugs me. I feel like everyone has already made friends with the people they’ll be close friends with forever and I’ll never be apart of that. No one even knows me or anything that I like above a surface level. All I do is think about everything and it’s making me sad and depressed because I now overthink and over analyse everything.
It makes me sad that this how my life has been for 5 years and I don’t know what I did wrong.
one thing that may comfort you, is that however people want to be percieved, everyone feels lonely in high school. all those big friend-groups you wish to be a part of where everyone seems close are all full of people that hate each other and are all lonely too.
my situation was sort of similar to yours and i felt lonely and isolated for years despite being in a group (i had one or two close friends). if there is a friend in your group you are more close to than the rest, speak to them, ask them to hang out and if they say no, you accept that. while people want to act like the friends they meet in high schools will be life-long, its a very small percentage that do. i know its sh*t right now, and everyone else seems to have it all figured out, but trust me, they don't.
hope this helps x
hi im in the exact same position as you. hopefully it gets better for us. im just relying on uni to turn my life around atp x
Just wait, at uni you will be thrust with a group of people, who you live with so helps if you like each other. I am not in touch with anyone i knew at high school and the one who was my particular friend was highly toxic so i distanced myself for her and now am not in touch with her either. Sometimes it takes time for you to work out who you are and who you want your friends to be. I didn't met my current best friend til 2012.
Original post by Anonymous
As the title says I really dislike my friends and I don’t think they like me either. Some of them are ok and sometimes I feel like they are a bit rude but I think that’s just me overthinking. One of them I really don’t like and haven’t for a long time and her I know she doesn’t like me because my other friends have told me.
Today I just had this thought that I just don’t want to be friends with them anymore and I don’t have to but if I do I’ll be left alone. I don’t think it’ll make a difference because I feel alone anyways.
No one has ever messaged me, ‘snapped’ me, called me or asked me to hang out with them for the past 5 years. If for the small chance people do speak to me outside it’s just because homework because I’m ’smart’ and ‘locked in’ but in reality I’m not. I hate being perceived that way. People only speak to me in school never outside and I don’t know if that’s normal. I don’t think so because my sister who is quiet like me, just started year 7 and already does those things. It makes me jealous and sad because I’ve spent the past 5 years of my life being alone.
I don’t necessarily struggle with making friends as I have lots of them. People always say hi to me in school and speak to me but it’s just the outside of school thing that bugs me. I feel like everyone has already made friends with the people they’ll be close friends with forever and I’ll never be apart of that. No one even knows me or anything that I like above a surface level. All I do is think about everything and it’s making me sad and depressed because I now overthink and over analyse everything.
It makes me sad that this how my life has been for 5 years and I don’t know what I did wrong.

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Original post by Anonymous
As the title says I really dislike my friends and I don’t think they like me either. Some of them are ok and sometimes I feel like they are a bit rude but I think that’s just me overthinking. One of them I really don’t like and haven’t for a long time and her I know she doesn’t like me because my other friends have told me.
Today I just had this thought that I just don’t want to be friends with them anymore and I don’t have to but if I do I’ll be left alone. I don’t think it’ll make a difference because I feel alone anyways.
No one has ever messaged me, ‘snapped’ me, called me or asked me to hang out with them for the past 5 years. If for the small chance people do speak to me outside it’s just because homework because I’m ’smart’ and ‘locked in’ but in reality I’m not. I hate being perceived that way. People only speak to me in school never outside and I don’t know if that’s normal. I don’t think so because my sister who is quiet like me, just started year 7 and already does those things. It makes me jealous and sad because I’ve spent the past 5 years of my life being alone.
I don’t necessarily struggle with making friends as I have lots of them. People always say hi to me in school and speak to me but it’s just the outside of school thing that bugs me. I feel like everyone has already made friends with the people they’ll be close friends with forever and I’ll never be apart of that. No one even knows me or anything that I like above a surface level. All I do is think about everything and it’s making me sad and depressed because I now overthink and over analyse everything.
It makes me sad that this how my life has been for 5 years and I don’t know what I did wrong.

Hello, maybe we could make friends and talk idk if thatd make u feel better bc i completely understand your situation
Original post by Anonymous
hi im in the exact same position as you. hopefully it gets better for us. im just relying on uni to turn my life around atp x

Real hope your ok if u ever need someone I'm happy to talk x
Original post by lauren.tttt
Real hope your ok if u ever need someone I'm happy to talk x

hi thank you, that’s really nice of you xx

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