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How to leave abusive boyfriend

I want to leave my abusive boyfriend but I’m scared to, he’s recently became a lot better but I’m only just realising what he has done to me in the past is abusive, when I try to leave I feel bad because he starts crying and being really nice to me saying he will change etc. and I’m scared of what he’ll do to me if I leave and it makes him angry and I don’t know how to get support. Social care has contacted me asking how things are in my relationship and asking if there’s anything they can do to help, what can they do to help? And what could I say to them? I have bad anxiety about him finding out and what they might do etc The social care is in his area (I moved away from home ti live with him) would they be able to transfer the help to somewhere else if I move back home?

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by Anonymous
I want to leave my abusive boyfriend but I’m scared to, he’s recently became a lot better but I’m only just realising what he has done to me in the past is abusive, when I try to leave I feel bad because he starts crying and being really nice to me saying he will change etc. and I’m scared of what he’ll do to me if I leave and it makes him angry and I don’t know how to get support. Social care has contacted me asking how things are in my relationship and asking if there’s anything they can do to help, what can they do to help? And what could I say to them? I have bad anxiety about him finding out and what they might do etc The social care is in his area (I moved away from home ti live with him) would they be able to transfer the help to somewhere else if I move back home?

good on you for realising about your situation
contact https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/how-we-can-support-you/

would you have a friend who you can trust who can put you up for a few days? or is there a contact for a refuge in your council area?
(edited 9 months ago)

Reply 2

Good for you for having the courage to get out of this toxic relationship. Dont let him crying and pleading sway you; it's emotional manipulation.

Best to pack up your belongings and leave when he isn't there, so can you arrange to have someone with you at that time? Better a professional who can deal with the situation, even the police could help, though a friend is better than you being alone.

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by Surnia
Good for you for having the courage to get out of this toxic relationship. Dont let him crying and pleading sway you; it's emotional manipulation.
Best to pack up your belongings and leave when he isn't there, so can you arrange to have someone with you at that time? Better a professional who can deal with the situation, even the police could help, though a friend is better than you being alone.

Social care has contacted me asking if I would like help, should I reply and tell them I would like help getting my own place awya from him? I’m still currently living with him

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by Anonymous
Social care has contacted me asking if I would like help, should I reply and tell them I would like help getting my own place awya from him? I’m still currently living with him

Yes, definitely.

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