Is it really over if I have no social circle and getting 0 matches on dating apps?

So I turned 24 just couple of weeks ago and never had a girlfriend and yet to even get my first kiss. For context, I live in Bangalore in India but I am a Bengali Indian. I am an introvert who got bullied a lot in school days especially 8th to 10th grade so I was way too shy to even talk to girls like at all throughout middle school, high school and even undergrads. So before 22-23, I had zero female interactions due to my extreme shyness and had trust issues with male peers too due to so much bullying so had little to no friends. I am in grad school now and only started actively talking to girls at 23 in my grad school so I am a newly turned 24 year old male who is still inexperienced. I still only have some 2 or 3 close male friends and don't even have any circle of friends. I just randomly approached girls in my grad school in the Cafeteria of our grad school when they are having coffee or standing around. I only approached them individually without help of any mutual friends or circle.

Things didn't work as many of those girls had their own friends circle as well and with most the conversations were short and some even distanced themselves but even with the ones with whom the conversations were good and longer gives delayed replies to me on social media. I even asked out 3 of the girls separately for lunch but they said they either had classes or assignments to finish. Even with several girls I am chatting on Instagram who were either from my school days or currently in my grad school gives delayed responses and one suddenly blocked me. What sucks is now I am almost done with grad school and will be graduating by 5-6 months and the last semester is dissertation so no regular classes and it will be spent in an internship so I won't really be going to campus much which means no socializing with these girls.

I am using Hinge dating app but getting no matches at all. Even cold approaching is hard in India but there is this luxurious mall in our city Bangalore where foreigners go who are expats and tourists. Yes Bangalore is a major IT hub of India so a lot of expats do come here. I approached and talked with plenty of expat women in the mall who were mostly white women from countries like US, Canada, UK, Germany, Spain and even Austria. Just 2 days ago I talked with this gorgeous blonde woman from Austria but she is a tourist so for shorter stay so couldn't ask her social media to connect further but she was so friendly and we had a good conversation. Wish she was an expat but previously I could ask even the expat women their Instagram due to hesitation or them being in a hurry. But is it really over for me if I have no social circle and grad school is almost over and dating apps aren't working for me?

Reply 1

toppby55

You could try going to bars or clubs to meet girls. Even if you don't drink (idk if you do or not) i'm sure it won't matter. Just try and chat with girls, make friends and try and get closer little by little.

Reply 2

Zarek

No it’s not, dating is about resilience and not giving up. App dating is particularly difficult. Try some new hobbies where you’ll meet like minded singles and see if you can socialise where singles hang out. Ask friends to help you with introductions and a tips. From what you say, I reckon you are being a bit intense which is putting girls off. Try to be more relaxed and let things happen naturally. A decent young persons counsellor might be able to help you deal with the bad things in the past and to get things in perspective. Your luck will change when you least expect it

Reply 3

Hazz€r

Not gonna sugarcoat it, it's over

Reply 4

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