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GF ghosted me

So my girlfriend on 1 year and half has ghosted me and it really hurts as I don't know why. So its been 3 months and I haven't heard anything and I'm struggling to move on as I still care and love her. She initially asked for some space which i did and then I reached out a week later and so forth, reached out a few more times even rang her but she never answered or messaged me back. I know that she has a lot of going on atm which doesn't help her depression and anxiety she suffers from, but I feel like i have been there this last year and half for her and always been understanding to her. I know she isn't seeing or cheating on me because i know she isn't that type of person and it is the fact she has a lot going on but it still doesn't change that she should have messaged me letting me know where i stand. I have been told that i should move on and if she wanted too she would message me back but i am finding it difficult when up to this moment the relationship was fine and there was no signs to say it wasn't. It just makes me question whether she really did love and care for me.
Move on. Mine did the same realised that it was her mother. she didn't want her to end up with me and before it got even more deep they told her to cut it off.
simply move on, if she isn't keeping in contact for over 3 months then that's a red flag no matter the circumstances
Reply 3
I mean yeah they seem like red flags but I still love and care for her, I know I'm being optimistic or hopeful that she will reach out but at the same time I know I need to do my best and move on
So it would have taken you 2 weeks to realise you may not hear from her again. Or that if you did, there's a significant chance your relationship was spoiled.

What have you done over the last two and half months to meet other women?
What have you done to improve your man to woman social skills in that time period?

Feeling as you do is fine. What would be less fine is inaction on your part. As there's no logical excuse for that.

Remind yourself that your freedom is an extremely valuable thing. And whenever you get attached to a woman you give up a big chunk of your freedom. Which you then get back when the relationship ends.

If she behaved like she loved you and cared for you when you were together, then she did love you and care for you.
Love comes in many different forms and flavours.

Love and care for yourself. Do that it in a clever kind of way and you'll have a great life.
Reply 5
Original post by Dunnig Kruger
So it would have taken you 2 weeks to realise you may not hear from her again. Or that if you did, there's a significant chance your relationship was spoiled.
What have you done over the last two and half months to meet other women?
What have you done to improve your man to woman social skills in that time period?
Feeling as you do is fine. What would be less fine is inaction on your part. As there's no logical excuse for that.
Remind yourself that your freedom is an extremely valuable thing. And whenever you get attached to a woman you give up a big chunk of your freedom. Which you then get back when the relationship ends.
If she behaved like she loved you and cared for you when you were together, then she did love you and care for you.
Love comes in many different forms and flavours.
Love and care for yourself. Do that it in a clever kind of way and you'll have a great life.

Thank you for the advice, I have been prioritising myself the last couple months going to the gym taking care of myself even got a job interview for essentially my dream job. I just wish she was with me as I was doing this. I do believe she did have feelings and did love me I just still cant understand why she would not message me even to let me know she needs more time to herself which would suck but then I would know where I stand instead of being ghosted. I guess I still hope she will get in contact but I know I need to move on even if atm I'm finding it difficult to do so I know I need to and just carry on with life
I know how you feel.
I'm also in the same situation.
I don't feel like moving on because I don't know the reason why he has decided to ghost me.
The only advice I will give to you is to move on because I've advised myself too.
Reply 7
Original post by Lovegrove Wells
I know how you feel.
I'm also in the same situation.
I don't feel like moving on because I don't know the reason why he has decided to ghost me.
The only advice I will give to you is to move on because I've advised myself too.

Sorry to hear that your in the same situation, it really does suck. Its hard to move on because it feels like unfinished business but you are right the only thing I can try to do is move on and just focus on ourselves
Reply 8
Original post by Anonymous
So my girlfriend on 1 year and half has ghosted me and it really hurts as I don't know why. So its been 3 months and I haven't heard anything and I'm struggling to move on as I still care and love her. She initially asked for some space which i did and then I reached out a week later and so forth, reached out a few more times even rang her but she never answered or messaged me back. I know that she has a lot of going on atm which doesn't help her depression and anxiety she suffers from, but I feel like i have been there this last year and half for her and always been understanding to her. I know she isn't seeing or cheating on me because i know she isn't that type of person and it is the fact she has a lot going on but it still doesn't change that she should have messaged me letting me know where i stand. I have been told that i should move on and if she wanted too she would message me back but i am finding it difficult when up to this moment the relationship was fine and there was no signs to say it wasn't. It just makes me question whether she really did love and care for me.

She’s a coward and the way she broke contact should tell you about her real character (my guess is the cowardice is due to another man and fearing an unfriendly breakup).

Also, if a woman says they want space or a break, you should almost always refuse.
Original post by Anonymous
Sorry to hear that your in the same situation, it really does suck. Its hard to move on because it feels like unfinished business but you are right the only thing I can try to do is move on and just focus on ourselves


Yes let's do that
If my partner had mental health issues I'd be offering to support them and wouldnt want them to be going it alone. If they'd asked for space but I hadn't heard from them for a couple of days I'd be contacting family and friends and knocking on their door. 'Even rang her'; you haven't visited your girlfriend in 3 months?

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