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Calling my guy friend

My guy friend who lives an entire plane ride away wants to call me, we only call once every few months, text every few days, just check up and nothing out of the friend zone. I just see on social media that many girls shouldn't be calling or texting other guys when they are in a relationship so I'm confused on what I should do. Should I tell my boyfriend I call him or is it not that big of a deal?
Original post by Anonymous
My guy friend who lives an entire plane ride away wants to call me, we only call once every few months, text every few days, just check up and nothing out of the friend zone. I just see on social media that many girls shouldn't be calling or texting other guys when they are in a relationship so I'm confused on what I should do. Should I tell my boyfriend I call him or is it not that big of a deal?

I think it's all about your personal dynamic. If you're someone who calls people on the phone often or your guy friend calls people on the phone often, then it's probably not as big of a deal. It's more about being respectful about certain things e.g how you talk to him/address him and the nature of your chats - obviously you're not going to be flirting with him while chatting with him etc. so it's literally about maintaining boundaries (which seeing as you guys are strictly in the friend zone, that seems to be the case). Being in a relationship doesn't mean that you need to cut off communication with your guy friends, but you just hold them a bit more at arm's length out of respect for your boyfriend - and in the spirit of respect, it makes sense to casually let him know. Like you've said though, there's nothing going on, so it shouldn't be an issue (your boyfriend should be secure enough in your character and your relationship not to see other guys as a threat. You don't need to run every single move you make by him).

In summary, yes letting your boyfriend know is perfectly reasonable so he isn't caught unawares. Just continue keeping your relationship with your guy friend appropriate, as you have been doing :smile:

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