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Was he trying to hurt me ?

So I was talking to this man for awhile he said something that I didn’t like so I blocked him for a good two weeks. Keep in mind before this he was crazy over me calling me on different numbers when I would block him leaving me voicemails etc,

Make a long story short I ended up unblocking him, he started viewing my social media stories as I’m out of town we a “friend”. This is a man that’s wealthy and I’ve been posting stories of me in his car and on lavish dates….. I haven’t posted any sign of the the man except for his hand on the steering wheel of his car, not signs of his face.

I ended up hitting up the guy I blocked and he replied instantly. Later replied “shouldn’t you be f**ing the guy you’re out of town with”….. He then brought up how he’s talking to someone new and that he opened the door to talk to someone else since I blocked him? Keep in mind I didn’t even ask for any of this information? He then said “if we are going to get back together that he needed to make sure it’s for real so he won’t feel stupid for ending his new situation”? I told him that he didn’t have to tell me any of that information… he responded saying “I’m just being honest, you just don’t want your ego bruised, your obviously on a trip with a man, you get attention from men so why are you tripping” …. I didn’t even tell him I was on a trip with a friend cause why would I say that? It’s rude.

I do play games but I’ve never had a man be so direct with me about someone else? Just wanted to vent.

Reply 1

Admit-One

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If you play games, blocking/unblocking etc, then people get emotional and act unpredictably.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Original post

by Emilly676

So I was talking to this man for awhile he said something that I didn’t like so I blocked him for a good two weeks. Keep in mind before this he was crazy over me calling me on different numbers when I would block him leaving me voicemails etc,
Make a long story short I ended up unblocking him, he started viewing my social media stories as I’m out of town we a “friend”. This is a man that’s wealthy and I’ve been posting stories of me in his car and on lavish dates….. I haven’t posted any sign of the the man except for his hand on the steering wheel of his car, not signs of his face.
I ended up hitting up the guy I blocked and he replied instantly. Later replied “shouldn’t you be f**ing the guy you’re out of town with”….. He then brought up how he’s talking to someone new and that he opened the door to talk to someone else since I blocked him? Keep in mind I didn’t even ask for any of this information? He then said “if we are going to get back together that he needed to make sure it’s for real so he won’t feel stupid for ending his new situation”? I told him that he didn’t have to tell me any of that information… he responded saying “I’m just being honest, you just don’t want your ego bruised, your obviously on a trip with a man, you get attention from men so why are you tripping” …. I didn’t even tell him I was on a trip with a friend cause why would I say that? It’s rude.
I do play games but I’ve never had a man be so direct with me about someone else? Just wanted to vent.

There is a saying "live by the sword die by the sword" meaning, if you play games then dont cry when someone does the same to you, However I would be very very very Careful ,in all seriousness, because you may play games with someone who is unhinged and you dont know what they might do. Seriously, be careful for your own good.

Reply 3

DalaiLamaOm

Original post

by Emilly676

So I was talking to this man for awhile he said something that I didn’t like so I blocked him for a good two weeks. Keep in mind before this he was crazy over me calling me on different numbers when I would block him leaving me voicemails etc,
Make a long story short I ended up unblocking him, he started viewing my social media stories as I’m out of town we a “friend”. This is a man that’s wealthy and I’ve been posting stories of me in his car and on lavish dates….. I haven’t posted any sign of the the man except for his hand on the steering wheel of his car, not signs of his face.
I ended up hitting up the guy I blocked and he replied instantly. Later replied “shouldn’t you be f**ing the guy you’re out of town with”….. He then brought up how he’s talking to someone new and that he opened the door to talk to someone else since I blocked him? Keep in mind I didn’t even ask for any of this information? He then said “if we are going to get back together that he needed to make sure it’s for real so he won’t feel stupid for ending his new situation”? I told him that he didn’t have to tell me any of that information… he responded saying “I’m just being honest, you just don’t want your ego bruised, your obviously on a trip with a man, you get attention from men so why are you tripping” …. I didn’t even tell him I was on a trip with a friend cause why would I say that? It’s rude.
I do play games but I’ve never had a man be so direct with me about someone else? Just wanted to vent.

I say this kindly, dont mess with people emotionally.
You give a number of excuses and may need to have a word with yourself re your intentions.

Never give mixed messages. It plays w people and leads to misery all round.

What do you actually want from him? If you play games then people will respond like he did. So maybe quit that. Every action has consequences (karma).

You blocked him for saying something you didnt like? How old are you? Thats not how adults deal w things.

The real question should be, was I (you) trying to hurt him?

DL

(edited 2 months ago)