I like him but idk if he likes me cuz I'm delulu

We talk alot in the class we share I'm in love. He doesn't even speak to his friend atp only me. He laughs a bit too hard at my bad jokes. We've only messaged onve but that was to do w hw and he was really dry. I'm afraid we only speak in the class we have. I don't go to cafeteria (Ed stuff I lit can't walk in there) n he spends breaks and lunch there. I wouldn't be able to approach him w his friends anyways.

I have a lot to say to him as I do irl. We speak alot like alot the full hour is yap. He likes me to some extent. We'll be doing 2 a level subjects together next year so that's most my classes (we're defo in same class for one of them.)

He's not convetionally attractive at all I don't think a girl has ever like him b4 as far as I know. I do. I love him. Idk if he loves me or if it's just friends. I've known him for 4 months.

See if I was a boy in my shoes I would assume we're friends and prolly message him for more help or even suggest study buddies we're rly similar in academics except we score same grades and I work double the amount and put in more effort. But because I'm a girl I think i could be romanticising the relationship and confusing friendship for reaction.

He stares at my face alot when we talk. Idk if that normal ir not I try to look back aswell.

Sorry idk where I'm going with this but how do ik if he likes me??? I lit spend extra care getting ready n stuff just for him and if he doesn't like me then no point. Ik he's straight defo. his friend called both of us best friends the other day lol.

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he might’ve been dry via text because he’s not a good texter! my bestfriend is really bad at texting and leaves me on delivered for like weeks at a time and when she does reply she sounds super dry but when we call its superrr chill, so don’t worry about that!! I think the fact that you guys talk alot in class is soooo good! If you want to, you can drop subtle hints by flirting with him like gently touching his arm or smth like that?! And if you want to get close to him outside class, ask him to help you with something you’re struggling with outside class time! Hope this helps and good luck xxxx

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he might’ve been dry via text because he’s not a good texter! my bestfriend is really bad at texting and leaves me on delivered for like weeks at a time and when she does reply she sounds super dry but when we call its superrr chill, so don’t worry about that!! I think the fact that you guys talk alot in class is soooo good! If you want to, you can drop subtle hints by flirting with him like gently touching his arm or smth like that?! And if you want to get close to him outside class, ask him to help you with something you’re struggling with outside class time! Hope this helps and good luck xxxx

cool that's reassuring thanks(the texting)😭 idk hiw to approach him outside class idk nowadays girls don't rly hang out or go near boys unless their interested. he and his friendgrohp r very..rowdy? chaotic? I can imagine trying to speak to him in front of them and he'd be embarrassed or sum or they'll make fun off him

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a lot of people don't really know how to text and may seem dry (freaking out cus my closest friend cannot text AT ALL and just makes every conversation on text awkward but he's great irl) but seriously that's nothing to worry about. i mean if you guys speak a lot in class that's great like what the last person said give them subtle hints but don't throw yourself all over the place because you need to remember you gotta wait for them to gain feelings and feel closer to you too. wish you all the best x

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I think it sounds to me like he might be into you! Why don't you explore things and try to get closer to him just to see how it goes?

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I think it sounds to me like he might be into you! Why don't you explore things and try to get closer to him just to see how it goes?

how should I get closer to him? idk I've asked him deep stuff in maths ik his life goals what he believes ab God his career etc. he asks me back too . then again we only have 3 hours a week and oh gosh I cannot bear the holidays without him. I can try messaging him again but I'm scared I'm gonna seem desperate.
idk how to flirt 😭 its not in my nature. he accidentally stole my calculator once but brought it back next day. so I occasionally grab his calculator or glasses case or smth pretending to take it and he takes it back and sometimes takes me calculator away from me but thats ab it and could easily be a friendly interaction (I still remeber when his hand brushed mine and where it was)
he sits next to one of my friends in spanish and he's always rly dry and never helps her or anything so..

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how should I get closer to him? idk I've asked him deep stuff in maths ik his life goals what he believes ab God his career etc. he asks me back too . then again we only have 3 hours a week and oh gosh I cannot bear the holidays without him. I can try messaging him again but I'm scared I'm gonna seem desperate.
idk how to flirt 😭 its not in my nature. he accidentally stole my calculator once but brought it back next day. so I occasionally grab his calculator or glasses case or smth pretending to take it and he takes it back and sometimes takes me calculator away from me but thats ab it and could easily be a friendly interaction (I still remeber when his hand brushed mine and where it was)
he sits next to one of my friends in spanish and he's always rly dry and never helps her or anything so..

You'll never know how he feels about you until you ask him yourself directly. What's the worst thing that can happen? If he rejects you, at least you'll know he's not into you, and then you'll be able to move on and find someone else. It's better than being stuck in mystery forever, and it makes you stronger anyway since you'll know how to deal with this kind of setback and adversity if it ever comes up again in the future. It's all just part of the learning experience!

I'm a guy and I had a huge crush on one of my classmates all throughout my time in sixth form. But I never really talked to her or got to know her better or became her friend or told her about my feelings for her. I was too shy and nervous to make the first move and I was afraid of what might happen if she said no and saw me differently because of it or started looking at me like I was a joke for doing it. And now, years later, she's with someone and I regret it every single day because I think of what we could've been and the future we might've had together. All of which is to say, don't pass up this opportunity before it goes away! You like him and it seems like he likes you back, or at least he might eventually develop feelings for you once you've spent more time together. Why not take a chance, give him a shot, explore your attraction to him, and see where it all leads you? For all you know, you guys could end up together one day if it all goes well! ❤️ Besides, you're smart, funny, witty and attractive 😀 You got this!

Just try asking if he ever has time to hang out with you alone. Pick a setting and activity that you think he might be into and just propose it to him casually during one of your conversations one day. See how he reacts and have some backup plans ready just in case. I find that one-on-one settings are more conducive to having deeper discussions where you can really get to know each other better and find out just how compatible you guys are. I'm not saying classroom settings are shallow, it's just that there are plenty of distractions and you both might be too shy to truly open up to each other in front of other classmates. You might find it easier for you to express and communicate how you feel about him when there's no one else around.

I don't think you'll sound desperate at all if you try messaging him again. It's been quite some time since you last texted him, after all. I think he'll definitely welcome your company! And don't worry at all about not knowing how to flirt. It's the kind of thing you'll only ever learn from experience, and everyone has to start somewhere. If you go and meet up with him, just remember that he's probably even more nervous than you are! Trust me, the initial awkwardness will go away sooner than you think. It's not like you guys are strangers at all.

Besides, oftentimes guys will find it endearing if you're relatively inexperienced or don't know how to flirt yet. I think that might be because a lot of guys are into "pure" girls who haven't had a partner or relationship yet. It seems like guys often find it to be a cute trait and attractive quality in girls if you're shy and reserved too, so please don't feel self-conscious about that! Luckily you won't need to worry about any of that though! You're already doing an excellent job and it sounds like he's pretty into you. Now you just have to take things to the next level with him! He's the luckiest guy in the world to be in your heart already 😀

Also, if you want you can always message me and tell me a bit more about him. If I get a better sense of his personality perhaps I could make some more specific suggestions about how to approach your conversations or give you better ideas about things you guys can do together. But trust me, you'll be fine regardless and you're already well on your way to figuring this out all on your own!

And by the way, the calculator-stealing between the two of you sounds so adorable ... trust me, you've got something really special going on between the two of you already! 🥺 And like the earlier poster said, don't read too much into him being dry over text! Some people are just like that and it doesn't mean he's not into you or anything like that.

Good luck! Believe in yourself, you can do this!

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