Feeling stuck

So I’m struggling to decide whether I should go back to uni because I don’t know what I want to do and don’t have a passion for anything. I left in 2022 and have been confused since. I’ve thought a lot about what I want to do but I just can’t decide, I’m so indecisive :frown:

I studied at uni for a year but dropped out and didn’t get much out of it.. I just felt like I couldn’t make friends and didn’t have anyone to speak to which made me feel alone and isolated. A girl in my class said something to another girl and she came up to me and said we don’t feel comfortable with you.. which made me feel left out and it’s probably because I’m very quiet and don’t speak. I feel like I’m getting old and can’t make deep, lasting connections, I’ve had many acquaintances throughout life up until now.
I feel like I have a lot of bad/embarrassing memories from school which I’ve come to realise. I’ve attended open days recently and something embarrassing always happens even if it’s something small and weird I don’t know how to describe it. I also struggle sometimes and never ask for help and feel dumb even though I know I’m capable of so much and want to achieve a lot in life. I have the rest of my life to look forward to and I’m still quite young but feel so lost and left behind.
I also have FOMO when it comes to university, I want to experience the fun and I love learning, I also want to meet new people and actually make connections with people otherwise I feel like I’m going to regret it later in life. Maybe it’s not the right time for higher education? Idk I don’t wanna go back to university when I’m too old I’m in so much confusion right now. Any advice on what I should do? Thank you to anyone that replies.

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by Anonymous

So I’m struggling to decide whether I should go back to uni because I don’t know what I want to do and don’t have a passion for anything. I left in 2022 and have been confused since. I’ve thought a lot about what I want to do but I just can’t decide, I’m so indecisive :frown:

I studied at uni for a year but dropped out and didn’t get much out of it.. I just felt like I couldn’t make friends and didn’t have anyone to speak to which made me feel alone and isolated. A girl in my class said something to another girl and she came up to me and said we don’t feel comfortable with you.. which made me feel left out and it’s probably because I’m very quiet and don’t speak. I feel like I’m getting old and can’t make deep, lasting connections, I’ve had many acquaintances throughout life up until now.
I feel like I have a lot of bad/embarrassing memories from school which I’ve come to realise. I’ve attended open days recently and something embarrassing always happens even if it’s something small and weird I don’t know how to describe it. I also struggle sometimes and never ask for help and feel dumb even though I know I’m capable of so much and want to achieve a lot in life. I have the rest of my life to look forward to and I’m still quite young but feel so lost and left behind.
I also have FOMO when it comes to university, I want to experience the fun and I love learning, I also want to meet new people and actually make connections with people otherwise I feel like I’m going to regret it later in life. Maybe it’s not the right time for higher education? Idk I don’t wanna go back to university when I’m too old I’m in so much confusion right now. Any advice on what I should do? Thank you to anyone that replies.

Hey! I'm so sorry you're feeling this way, and i really hope that it gets better soon and that you manage to make those lasting connections.

In terms of university, what course were you studying? Would you perhaps consider a degree apprenticeship?

And i really hope that you stop focusing on those negative and embarrassing moments in life. Everyone has them, I'VE HAD SO MANY TOO. but don't dwell on them, they don't matter at all and trust me no-one even remembers them. We're all too busy remembering our own lol.

And have you considered joining a local club, you may find like-minded people you really get along with? What about a job, i know colleagues aren't always the greatest tbh but it might be worth a shot?

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goldenmaknae

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by Anonymous

Hey! I'm so sorry you're feeling this way, and i really hope that it gets better soon and that you manage to make those lasting connections.

In terms of university, what course were you studying? Would you perhaps consider a degree apprenticeship?

And i really hope that you stop focusing on those negative and embarrassing moments in life. Everyone has them, I'VE HAD SO MANY TOO. but don't dwell on them, they don't matter at all and trust me no-one even remembers them. We're all too busy remembering our own lol.

And have you considered joining a local club, you may find like-minded people you really get along with? What about a job, i know colleagues aren't always the greatest tbh but it might be worth a shot?

I studied business and marketing for a year. Can you tell me more about apprenticeships? And ty I was just overthinking everything

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by Anonymous

So I’m struggling to decide whether I should go back to uni because I don’t know what I want to do and don’t have a passion for anything. I left in 2022 and have been confused since. I’ve thought a lot about what I want to do but I just can’t decide, I’m so indecisive :frown:

I studied at uni for a year but dropped out and didn’t get much out of it.. I just felt like I couldn’t make friends and didn’t have anyone to speak to which made me feel alone and isolated. A girl in my class said something to another girl and she came up to me and said we don’t feel comfortable with you.. which made me feel left out and it’s probably because I’m very quiet and don’t speak. I feel like I’m getting old and can’t make deep, lasting connections, I’ve had many acquaintances throughout life up until now.
I feel like I have a lot of bad/embarrassing memories from school which I’ve come to realise. I’ve attended open days recently and something embarrassing always happens even if it’s something small and weird I don’t know how to describe it. I also struggle sometimes and never ask for help and feel dumb even though I know I’m capable of so much and want to achieve a lot in life. I have the rest of my life to look forward to and I’m still quite young but feel so lost and left behind.
I also have FOMO when it comes to university, I want to experience the fun and I love learning, I also want to meet new people and actually make connections with people otherwise I feel like I’m going to regret it later in life. Maybe it’s not the right time for higher education? Idk I don’t wanna go back to university when I’m too old I’m in so much confusion right now. Any advice on what I should do? Thank you to anyone that replies.

Hey! Thanks for opening up and sharing how you're feeling. I know you said you often struggle and don't reach out to ask for help, but just expressing how you're feeling in this post is a huge step in doing just that! I struggled with making friends at school and university, and felt I was constantly embarrassing myself, saying the wrong things, not fitting in, being too quiet, too this, too that.. we are usually our worst critics and judge ourselves too harshly, when in actual fact we're just doing the best we can. If you do decide to go back to university, I'd say to not put too much pressure on yourself to make friends. Some people might make friends straight away, but others meet their people in later years, I know for me I ended up feeling a bit more confident and started hanging out with people in the third year! Clubs and societies are a great way to socialise and be around people with similar interests, alongside getting involved in volunteering opportunities, part-time jobs on campus, becoming a student ambassador etc.

If you're unsure of what to do in the future, you could get in touch with a career advisor and really sit down and have a good think about what you enjoy, what you're good at, your strengths and weaknesses, to identify some courses you might want to study. It's great that you was attending open days as well, that way you can really get a feel for different courses, find out about career opportunities, speak to lectures and students and ask all these burning questions you might have. Don't let the fear of embarrassment stop you, just remind yourself that everyone is dealing with their own things, there in their own thoughts, paying attention to themselves, I bet no one will even know that you feel embarrassed over something in that moment.

Like the other user in the comments suggested below, you could definitely look into apprenticeships as an option instead, and focus on training for a specific career. Again, you could speak to a careers advisor first about what you think you might want to do! UCAS share a lot of helpful information for those looking for apprenticeship information.

Also, with you saying you love learning, have you looked at any online learning opportunities that you could do? My friend enjoys getting involved with free webinars, she took part in an interior design course, has also attended in person events such as floristry, painting and sculpting to learn new skills. I also enjoyed doing the Google Digital Garage Marketing free course online as I also missed the aspect of learning :smile:

I wish you the best of luck with whatever you decide to do! You've got this :smile:

Becky

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